Beating Your Kids Means You Have The Slave Mentality Instilled In You (We Need NEW Techniques FOLKS)

[GiGi]

To try and give them discipline.. So you mean to tell e if ya kid running wild out here doing whatever he want..you just gonna let him do it?

Then perhaps the parents should have established their discipline and authority with the child from day one instead of waiting for the child to run wild. I was not allowed to run wild. I was not allowed to talk back or use foul language or hit others..............and my parents managed to discipline me without EVER raising a hand to me.

 

[KOOL-AID]

I got beat on a regular for nothing, my family reminds me of Jim Jones. Except I didn't drink the Kool Aid.

 

[thaKEAF]

I dunno about all that but the older I get the less I think it is an effective method like someone else said it should be last resort not an everyday or every other day thing..plus what do they really learn from it? when they grow up you can't jump on them anymore.

 

[-DMP-]

damn, african cant do shyt with out being a slave these days

-DMP-

 

[seymour cake]

Then perhaps the parents should have established their discipline and authority with the child from day one instead of waiting for the child to run wild. I was not allowed to run wild. I was not allowed to talk back or use foul language or hit others..............and my parents managed to discipline me without EVER raising a hand to me.

Exactly.. but that's also cause YOU got respect and you listened.. a lot of kids won't get it fast enough, they gonna still try to take advantage and rebel, but everybody situation different.

 

[factnotopinion]

Black people beating their kids point to a larger problem for Black folks, which is the lack of formalized parent trainings. Most people don't know how to parent or discipline a child. People who want to be foster parents or who want to adopt have to have training but birth parents receive none. I have done many parent trainings and realize just how little people know about lifespan /child development, early intervention, and appropriate discipline techniques. I remember a client's father telling me that his son with behavioral problems just needed "some back home treatment." He was Jamaican and didn't know I was as well. When I asked if it worked back a yard, he said yes. I then said then why does Jamaica have the second highest murder rate per capita in the world. People need to learn how to developmentally correct and teach our children without beating the hell out of them. I have used time out and point systems with kids in juvenile detentions, kids coming home from inpatient units, and in a variety of settings. To change child behavior you need to equip the parents with the ability to manage their own emotions and to consistently manage the behavioral expectations and appropriate/commensurate correction of their child's behaviors. Beatings are harmful and overrated.

 

[GiGi]

Exactly.. but that's also cause YOU got respect and you listened.. a lot of kids won't get it fast enough, they gonna still try to take advantage and rebel, but everybody situation different.

The problem with spanking and beating children is that it teaches children to handle situations with violence instead of with reason and logic.

 

[Dragonfly Jones]

to be fair, some kids have the worse mouths and will curse you out in a second


some deserve to get ass whoopings


if u say some don't then you've simply never been around a bad ass kid


I have no kids but i know from first hands due to having nieces and nephews

 

[KyokushinKarateMan]

Here we go with euro-minded spaceheaded #NewBlacks promoting their "I don't spank my kids" blabber
"but but it will teach them violence "
Some of the dumbest shyt I've ever heard


will someone pleeease bring back Black people. I really, really miss us


Please, bring back the days when Black folks were Black(and didn't think they were 'intelligent' for asking "what is being Black"), stood by our OWN morals and ways of raising our children, and had enough god given common sense to know that if our kids didn't turn out "right" it was likely due to one of the millions of pitfalls set up against them in this society, not because I spanked them.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

Welp @JudgeJoeGorilla i agree. There is a fine line in whoopings vs. beatings. Im taken back the word star video of the father beating his daughters that were like 12 & 9 for making a twerk video. Yes, those two needed they asses whooped for doing shyt they had no businesses doing knowing good and damn well they werent supposed to be. Now did they deserve to be beat with the orange extension cord? Hell no. Should it have been recorded and posted online to humilitae the girls? fukk no. But there is a line. Those girls needed a few taps with the belt and sent to their rooms crying.


Yeah i got my ass whooped coming up. With belts, hands, even fukking walgreen brand house shoes. But i was NEVER beat. i was never left with marks. Those whoopings curved me from acting a damn fool once i hit the teenaged rebellion stage. Whoop your kids when they act a fool. Dont beat them.

 

[JahFocus CS]

I think a lot of child beating comes from the frustration adults have from their lives outside the home. Powerlessness translates into bullying those more vulnerable

People in this thread talking about "respect for authority" just proves OP's point. Slave masters were an "authority" too

 

[Flash Thunderton]

I think whooping your child should be the LAST resort.

If putting in the corner doesn't work
If a stern talking doesn't work
If taking something away doesn't work
If literally NOTHING else works, only then do I think you should whoop your child.



Let's be honest, if that's your first resort you're probably a terrible parent anyways

 

[SirReginald]

I think a lot of child beating comes from the frustration adults have from their lives outside the home. Powerlessness translates into bullying those more vulnerable

People in this thread talking about "respect for authority" just proves OP's point. Slave masters were an "authority" too

THIS

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

the overwhelming majority of posters in this thread dont even have kids and prolly still live with their mama

 

[wet landscapes]

my anatomy teacher told me that a parent hitting their child triggers a response in their brains that destroys grey/white matter (can't remember which)
I wonder if there's ever been a study that showed iqs of kids who had parents who hit them vs parents who did