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SouthernBelle

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Education and intellectual development are by far the most important things to deal with a child. Reading and Maths, all the god damn time. Social graces...? :ld:

Sir, if you read the OP, he asked about making her lady like. I answered that question. Don't come at me about reading and math when you didn't even comprehend the OP.
 

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Sir, if you read the OP, he asked about making her lady like. I answered that question. Don't come at me about reading and math when you didn't even comprehend the OP.

Miss, he asked for general help about raising his child.

And social graces are still unimportant as fukk. :shaq2:
 

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It feels good to be mentioned in a thread for something positive. Freddy, I feel for you man because I was in the exact same boat as you. I kicked my baby mamma out the apartment before our daughter was 2 years old. But even when my baby mamma was there our daughter was with me most of the time. Everything that Twan83 said is on the money. He basically said what I was gonna say. The females are gonna be at you hard breh, but at the same time you got to keep them away from your daughter.

Lead by example, don't even let your daughter see you bringing in different females because you don't want her to think this is how it's supposed to be. This is the most impressionable time in her life. Before I got married, my daughter only met 2 women that I was dating and the 2nd one ended up being my wife. Only when you think you're going to get serious with a chick is when you start bringing her around your daughter. Look at it this way, let whomever you decide to be with prove that they are worthy to meet your daughter.

Another thing is to make sure you always keep that line of communication open. Never, ever let her think that she can't tell you anything. You got to have that relationship with your daughter especially when she's not with you, as in whenever she visits her mother. I don't know how your baby's mother is going to be but mine was a trip and used to try and have different dudes around our daughter. Once I found out I made sure to tell my baby's mother that until she got that shyt straightened out she wasn't going to see our daughter unless she was alone. Once again leading by example because you don't want her to see her mother bringing different dudes around thinking that's how it's supposed to be.

The last thing I can think of is try to surround your daughter with positive female figures in her life. I wasn't good at picking out dresses and getting my daughter in and out of dresses but that's what my mother was for. Also, I never was good with doing hair, but you will see that there will be plenty of females volunteering to help you out with whatever you need help with. But other than that, keep doing what you're doing man. Love her with all your heart and make sure that you show her how a young lady is supposed to be treated. Just you asking for advise is a step in the right direction and shows that you do care. I can't tell you it's going to be easy but I will tell you that everything that you're doing now is worth it.
I don't even have kids but If I did, you'd be the e-godfather
 

NoMoreWhiteWoman2020

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How old is she?

I think one of the biggest things is just teaching her manners/social graces and why they are important. You have to be or find a model (grandmother or aunt) who can be an example of how she should act in certain settings. Find someone who can show her how to keep herself up (hair, clothing, etc).

Also, you are the first male example so be an example to show her how she should be treated. Make sure she understands that if she ever needs something she can always come to you (so she won't feel the need to get what she needs from some random dude who really doesn't care about her). As she gets older, talk to her about how she should handle certain situations in school or with boys.

Also find activities like dance, etc where she can be around other little girls.

Shes five, my mom is in her life and they have a tight bond, but I know I won't be in mobile forever, and just say I move to stlouis like I want too itll just be me n her
I been thinking bout dance classes and the boys and girls club

Thanks to everybody for the feedback, some days it's easy and some days I feel like I'm swimming in the pacific
@beaniemac I'm the same way my daughter rocks Afro puffs unless my mom does it
I gotta learn to French braid at least :sadcam:
 
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thoushallhustle

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In regards to her hair why dont u just take her to get it done onces a week? Maintnence isnt that hard. Just buy some moisturizer i recommend nexxus humectress and coconut oil put it on her hair every night brush it and tie it up. If wraps and pin curls are too much ask the stylist to work with yall and show both of you how to tie it up at night. Or you can get jer hair braided it saves alot of time in the morning and her hair will get long and pretty.
 
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