Being A Weekend Dad Is Depressing…

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How about you go to court and get 50/50 custody so you can see your kids during the week and not be a weekend dad. You can’t effectively parent your kids two days a week. I don’t know you or your ex but I find it funny everybody is jumping to the conclusion that the mom talks bad about the dad. May not even be the case. You an uncle at this point and they treating you like one. I suggest you and your wife switch off every other week or y’all both get two weeks a month. Also kids play games. Even when both parents are in the household. I’m sure when your ex tells them to do something they cry they wanna go to daddy house.
 

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How about you go to court and get 50/50 custody so you can see your kids during the week and not be a weekend dad. You can’t effectively parent your kids two days a week. I don’t know you or your ex but I find it funny everybody is jumping to the conclusion that the mom talks bad about the dad. May not even be the case. You an uncle at this point and they treating you like one. I suggest you and your wife switch off every other week or y’all both get two weeks a month. Also kids play games. Even when both parents are in the household. I’m sure when your ex tells them to do something they cry they wanna go to daddy house.
50/50 custody lol.. you think the courts will just give it to him huh?
 

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Man this is how I want my shyt to be when I have kids. But it can get expensive if you just an average breh. So i can see why you mad. One word can change your life tho and that is “no”.
So you already plan to be a weekend dad before even having kids?
You sound dumb as hell
 

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You literally can never do enough… You pay your child support, sign them up for sports, ALWAYS show up no excuses, take your kids to sporting events, amusement parks, buy the PS5, X Box, Nintendo Switch, Disney cruises, Disney Park vacations, keep them fresh… As soon as they get out of line and you correct them, they will look at you and tell you that they want to go back to their mom’s.

On Monday when they’re back at their mom’s, they calling you telling you more shyt that they want you to buy. On Mother’s Day it was, “ Dad, what are we getting mom for Mother’s Day?” I didn’t hear a peep about Father’s Day yesterday at all. We go to therapy and all of that, I have voluntarily taken parenting classes, and I read shyt on how to be a better father and still… You start to realize that your relationship with your seed is very contingent and conditional.

Just venting… I know y’all live in Wakanda and everything is perfect in your world but when homes are broken, the child that left with the mom, overtime isn’t the same child. They become the mom… You’re the bad guy and whatever happened surely was your fault.

People say, “ Bro, they will see shyt for what it is when they become an adult… YOU just make certain that you are doing the right thing.” What a depressing existence….
I know what you're going thru breh.

Based on what you said, sounds like you are there for your kids. So many single women complain about their children father(s) not being in the kids life and not financially helping them with shyt.

She should look at you as a blessing in that realm because of everything you are doing plus paying CS is making her life easier.

As far as what you said about the kids becoming the mom. I understand that but the only thing that will change that is more time spent. I understand you probably have to work thru the week, but I'm sure when your kids get older that will tell you how much they appreciate what you do.

Even when I was coaching my son's little league team until him being in high school. Its sad as hell of how many of those boys(especially the black ones) don't have any type of positive male influence in their life. Just keep doing your thing, and don't be discouraged by that. I would also have a heart to heart with the mom to make sure she's not saying subtle things to them as well.
 

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Be consistent, honest, and accountable
That combined with time should work itself out if you really doing the right thing

Friend of mine was weekend dad and now his son doesn’t speak to him
Certain decisions he made played right into the mom narrative and he ended up “proving her right” unintentionally
Just keep doing the right thing regardless what barriers and narratives ppl put up
And don’t take it personal if the kid is closer to the parent they with everyday
 

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Bro ima tell you what to do....SUE THAT bytch. i have a BM too. Two years ago, before the panny, she tried to run away to Alabama with my daughter. I did not have any custody or paperwork at the time. I immediately sued her in court and now I have primary custody during the school year and she has every other weekend. During the summer, my daughter is with her mom and i see her every other weekend

It sort kinda helps that my BM is a complete bird and values traveling and going out over her kid. Its to the point my daughter called her mom a weekend mom to her face due to the lack of care and routine my daughter saw from her mom during the school year. You cant tell your kids youre the better option but you can show them way better
 

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I just got in my feelings about yesterday lol…

I think she did some super super super foul shyt last week too, that I don’t even care to discuss but I can’t prove it.

We have 50/50 custody but I still have to pay CS because I make more.

We got a divorce after I caught her fukking around on me.
 
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