Being an introvert appreciation/unappreciation thread

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:ohhh: I got INTP on one 2 out of 3 of those tests. The other test I scored INTJ.. a nikka so confused now :sadcam:

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We got the same shyt b
 

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fukkin extroverts thinking they got life all figured out and shyt. just cause you don't understand us doesn't mean we shouldn't be appreciated :to:

If you an extrovert fine....but don't start trying to force me to act a certain way that I'm not....that shyt really gets me heated...

What will it take people to understand that? I hate bullshyt "small talk". What the fukk you want a cookie or something? Learn to have convos about shyt besides the weather and bagging bytches 24/7

And then have the nerve to say someone "scares you" because they are quiet :childplease:

:blessed: I wouldn't want to be any other way.

"to know yourself, is to know others"

"to conquer yourself is more impressive than to conquer millions"

just 2 quotes i always loved as an introverted person. i dont remember who said them and im just paraphrasing but thats the gist of it.

Being black male introvert is an especially curious case :whoo: That's the last personality trait anyone expects from a black male.

you gotta learn to have a bit of both

having the observation skills and awareness of an introvert and the charm and light conversation skills of an extrovert makes extraordinary men

The gift :ahh: and the curse :sadcam:

Yeahh introverts are known to be better at expressing themselves through writing than speech. I have a silver tongue online, but IRL....:patrice: I have my moments.

Cosign all of these!

I didn't know there was a name for this until I was in college, and looking back my family and friends thought I was mad awkward :laugh:.
 

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Once I read about the MBTI types, I felt like I identified with the INFJ especially when I read a bunch of long ass articles on INFJs, but when I've taken the test recently, I've gotten INFP, but the P percentage is very low. I don't know how much of a difference there is in those types, but I'm unsure which one I am because when I "judge," I feel like I mentally check myself and understand that I'd need more information which is something a P person would do, but in doing such a thing it makes me think that I must be a P then.

:ehh: It probably doesn't make a big difference.

All I know is that I usually feel like people think I'm overreacting when I do act out and get louder cuz I usually don't at all. It's just when I feel like I'm right (after first accepting that the other person may have a valid point), I tend to get very passionate. Soon as I get to really know someone, I tend to be extremely talkative (more online than in person, but still) but if I'm around someone I don't know at all I'll completely clam up. I hate when chicks try to act like being an introvert is a disease as well.

I also feel like I give out good advice even as I struggle. I know what I have to do. It's just a struggle for me to actually do sometimes. Another thing I think I struggle with a ton is that I have a tendency to speak about my feelings a lot to my homies and I also feel like I get extremely strong feelings. This ish was like the elephant in the room. Not really the type of guy to approach any person and start a conversation, even worse when it comes to women and feeling like an extreme outcast while struggling through school a bit with only me, myself and I arguing with myself. Basically, I turned into a hermit.

One thing I hate a bit as an introvert is seeing extroverts be extremely out there especially when it comes to seeing women because I'm always thinking of the implications of such actions, what both parties (male and female) may be thinking and how that messes things up for anyone else.

I also feel like I'm definitely a person that's hard to really get to know, yet I really wish to be understood and never quite feel as though I am. To my friends, sure I may be understood, but to a certain extent, cuz at times I'll genuinely express myself and it may come off as a bytch type thing to say cuz it's not aggressive or anti-conflict (at least to myself). If I genuinely feel something and am uncomfortable, I don't like to fake anything in my actions or expressions or anything and I know what response I'll generally get ("man up" type of statements) and that same response is something I may tell myself, but it changes nothing emotionally. I also think I have a love/hate relationship with my own introversion only in the sense that when my brain gets clouded/fatigued/stressed, I burrow myself even deeper into my introversion. If I'm not stressed or anything, then I still think at times I go deeper into my own introversion because I enjoy thinking and fantasy I guess. In turn, that may lead myself to not actualizing things, have difficulty actualizing things and have difficulty solely experiencing things to a degree.

To end it on an appreciative note, I'm rarely ever bored by myself and in a way fascinated by my own creativity, especially on the spot at times.
 

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Introverts don't do phone if we can help it.


1. The phone is intrusive. It rings and we are expected to tear our minds away from whatever they were focusing on and refocus on whoever is on the other end of the line and whatever he or she has to say. This makes my brain hurt. My mind doesn't change direction easily.

2. Most phone calls are chit-chatty rather than deep. And we all agree: introverts don't like chit-chat. I have one friend who starts every call by asking, "Whatcha you doin'?" I have no idea how to answer, except with "Nuthin'" or "Workin'" or "Cleaning the schumtz out of my computer keyboard." And I can't imagine that any of these answers could interest her, so the call immediately feels awkward.

I do have friends with whom phone conversations get deep and I enjoy those, but they require a block of time. When that kind of call ambushes me, it derails my whole day. I try to schedule them--and even so, a certain amount of bullet biting is necessary for me to keep the appointment.

3. Introverts tend to be slow thinkers and responders and long pauses don't go over well on the phone. If I am on the phone with a talkative person, I struggle to get my say. I end up doing a lot of listening and uh-huhing. After a while, I get bored.

4. It can be difficult to focus a busy, busy introvert mind on the abstraction that is telephone conversation. Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that's already going on in our heads. This is exhausting and my mind often drifts back into itself; I have to force it back to the conversation.

Oddly, I find that playing simple computer games, such as Tetris or Freecell, while I talk can help; they engage the restless part of my mind so the remainder can focus. I also use a headset because holding a phone to my ear makes me feel even more trapped. That way I can do simple chores, such as sweeping or loading the dishwasher, while I talk. Again, this keeps my wandering mind engaged enough to stay on telephone task.

So, there are some of the things that have occurred to me but none feels like the reason so many introverts hate the phone. Do any of them ring a bell for you? What's your reason? (And do any of you introverts out there like the telephone? Why?)

Man this phone shyt is crazy, at work I almost do everything by email and when my boss tells me "don't hesitate to call them" for the 10th time in the day I'm like :sadbron:

I have a strange case tho, I'm mostly an introvert, but sometimes i'm extremely extrovert, basically I'm an introvert when feeling "low" and "ok" and an extrovert when feeling "high", "great". And it's not really me "adapting" to a given environment, because when I'm feeling "extrovert" I actively look for people, call them, go out and everything. And then at some point that part "shuts down" and I go back to being mostly introvert.

Anyway read this book a couple months ago, not bad Join the Quiet Revolution! Read Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can
 

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i'm trying to change...so many people around the city that I have met or grew up with that I could be networking with...I really missed out on a lot of opportunities by being so non-social...I'm trying to get out of the "I don't really fck with so and so like that" mentality...but it's hard...most nggas be on some bullsht though and my patience no longer exists :sadcam:

Yeah breh I turned 23 a few weeks ago and I feel like it's time to try and get out of that mindset while I'm still
young. I don't wanna blow job opportunities etc because of this shyt.

It's hard like a mug tho, can't lie.

Being a black male makes it even tougher for people to understand.
 

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Yeah breh I turned 23 a few weeks ago and I feel like it's time to try and get out of that mindset while I'm still
young. I don't wanna blow job opportunities etc because of this shyt.

It's hard like a mug tho, can't lie.

Being a black male makes it even tougher for people to understand.

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-I hate talking on the phone (unless it's someone I haven't spoke to in a while)...I soumd different on the phone than I do in reality, and like someone said before, it's usually just chit-chat.

-I be ready to straight backhand people when they wanna comment on me being "quiet", just because a nikka isn't tap dancing with a big stupid grin on my face, on some Sambo-Fonzworth Bentley shyt....

-I fukkING DESPISE when people try to get me to "act" a certain way (ie: "we're gonna break you out of your shell!" "C'mon, smiiiiile" "c'mon we're gonna get you talking!!!") However, usually a quick death glance usually makes them quit lately...I just look at mufukkaz like " Dog, shut the fukk up and get away from me with that corny shyt"....

-I've probably missed out on a lot of p*ssy due to bytch's ignorance and judgement on my behavior. IDC though, I'd rather save myself the aggravation. However, I've hurt a couple of feelings on days when I just wasn't in the mood for hearing chickens squawk...
 
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