Being Brought Up By A Single Mother Makes You Stronger

[Guess Who]

shyts ring so true for me! Got damn those years learning the game on your own were rough!

I don't know what the fukk op talking bout!

Haha, those were some rough years my dude...but once I figured out how to get chicks, and do it with ease, it was like I found the holy grail! I was fukking EVERYTHING...literally. It got to the point that I developed a discernible formula that I used on every woman I desired, down to how I'd get a woman to ask ME for the digits, how long my first phone convo was with a woman, how I'd bring up sex, how many dates before sex etc.--and it worked at least half the time. Having 8 women on the go at once is not a good look...so many hearts got broken. I regret the time, actually. I was a very sick, hurt, and broken individual. I wish my body count was lower.

Realest post in the thread. I never once said being raised in a single parent home was easy, fun or anything else but i'm not going to bow down and let a bunch of uppity people mock me or people like me by pulling out statistics that don't apply to me or everybody like me. I never been in jail, no seeds running around, I earned two degrees and only have college loans to pay off. I'm proud of myself as a man.

Real shyt...my mom was doing a fine job actually...as she is a "masculine" kind of woman (probably why I tend to date tomboys or women who were tomboys growing up)...I mean she wasn't into male hobbies, but she taught me about ambition, work ethic, the value of education, to fight if needed etc...in fact, she isn't about feelings and showing emotion or none of that shyt and never had a lot of girlfriends...she was doing alright...then she had a nervous breakdown when I was in high school and then things got REALLY fukked up.

The problem with my mom being a masculine woman though is I had trouble (and still have trouble) with gender roles in a serious relationship.

Moms gave me TERRIBLE advice on approaching and talking to women, though, LOL.

The bolded is pure truth Would have been dope to have a navigation system. I had to learn everything the hard way. Trial and error. Fortunately, I had a grip of male role models in my life, my pops was "around" as well. But majority of the time I was the only dude, so I did what I thought was right. I don't have any kids, but thank God for penicillin

I had ZERO male role models outside of my two older brothers (also fatherless), and my teachers in high school, who were white, so they were only so effective.


@DaygoTaco

I feel you man. You are one of the lucky ones. My advice, help out the young black boys and girls and be that role model for them. I could've used that shyt growing up.

 

[BlackElitism]

Only black people would entertain this non-sense. This is some wickedness. So many brothers without the proper knowledge of themselves or what it means to be a man.

 

[Nintendough]

Real shyt...my mom was doing a fine job actually...as she is a "masculine" kind of woman (probably why I tend to date tomboys or women who were tomboys growing up)...I mean she wasn't into male hobbies, but she taught me about ambition, work ethic, the value of education, to fight if needed etc...in fact, she isn't about feelings and showing emotion or none of that shyt and never had a lot of girlfriends...she was doing alright...then she had a nervous breakdown when I was in high school and then things got REALLY fukked up.

The problem with my mom being a masculine woman though is I had trouble (and still have trouble) with gender roles in a serious relationship.

Moms gave me TERRIBLE advice on approaching and talking to women, though, LOL.

Thats whats most important, the core of it all. My mom isn't into dude hobbies either but she used to come watch me play football even though she didn't understand what was going on. She might teach me how to make baked mac and cheese soon.


I wouldn't seek advice on women from any woman breh.

 

[Guess Who]

Thats whats most important, the core of it all. My mom isn't into dude hobbies either but she used to come watch me play football even though she didn't understand what was going on. She might teach me how to make baked mac and cheese soon.


I wouldn't seek advice on women from any woman breh.

LOL! I know that now. But I learned the hard way. Ain't nothing like gettin' rejected by the girl everybody knows you have a crush on in front of your whole crew (using my mom's tactics...I learned what "maybe" meant from a girl that day)...then gettin' clowned about it for a week...then skipping class to play ball, to work off the anger/stress/hurt, and having a team of 6'5 Yugoslavian, refugee, no-English speaking, pick setting ass nikkas, eat your food on the court, raining jumpers on you like a Teen Wolf montage.

I remember that shyt vividly...my knees buckling at the rejection...and my ego buckling on the basketball court. My ego got hit by a wrecking ball that day.

 

[The Nigerian]

Single motherhood needs to be treated the same way we treat bullying, second-hand smoke, homophobia and racism. It's bad for society.

I'm going to repeat myself just so this point isn't lost in the apologist fvckery that's going on in this thread:

Single motherhood needs to be treated the same way we treat bullying, second-hand smoke, homophobia and racism. It's bad for society and it needs to STOP!

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwqMnzjFELc"]Tom Leykis --- Poor Single Moms - YouTube[/ame]

 

[dj vtg]

lol only on this site is this even a debate...

fatherless b*stards - bobby southworth

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

Those men are more likely to be complacent with women running their communities and households. The reason being is that growing up those boys never saw male leadership. They saw women in leadership roles so when you ask one of those boys to be a leader and "man up" he thinks "well why should I man up? I've seen women handling business my whole life. Women can do everything a man can do anyway." Then there is manstroking where women will tell the boys that he is fine where he is. He gets stroked into complacency. Women program men to be "men" to matriarchal specifications.

Manhood defined as responsibility devoid of leadership. Those types of men are not Spartans. Those are not the type of men that can build, maintain, nor protect a community.

Not only that, they're not accustomed to taking orders from a man.shyt doesn't really translate well to real life situations.I have a uncle who coaches basketball.He told me the most problematic players are the ones who come from single mother households.He said they're overly sensitive and emotionally fragile.They're not used to taking orders/ being put in check/ disciplined by a man.Growing up without a father, they don't have a reference point for shyt like that.It's something they're unaccustomed to.Basically, it makes you p*ssy.Not saying every male raised by a single mother adheres to this, but it's more of a challenge for them.If you're use to your mothers sweet, gentle voice, it's going to shock your senses when coach is out there dog walking you for fukking up.


Same goes for other areas of life.Men have to deal with men in order to survive out here.That single mother shyt can weaken your resolve and make you timid.



Somebody mentioned Tupac.I love Pac's music and I think he's the GOAT.I think he was fearless and brilliant, but emotionally, you can see he was raised by a woman.You mother is a woman.They can be knowledgeable about what it takes to be a good man, but they can't give you the wisdom that comes with the experience of being a man.Only another man can do that

 

[Wild self]

Well 70% of black children are raised by single mothers. If what you guys are saying is correct then why is the black community so shytty? People can say all the airy fairy, Tyler Perry bullshyt they want. Nuts and berries rhetoric doesn't mean anything. The black community has fallen at the hands of children being raised by single mothers.

Better yet. Keep that standard. Just stop using the excuse of "well women pick thugs because their fathers wasn't there" or the other go to excuse of "my son is only fukked up because his father wasn't there."

You can't use those excuses and then at the same time say that being raised by a single mother is a positive thing. It's a blatant contradiction.

If this continues, then they gonna be Native American status in a couple of generations from now. Matriarchies are never made to last.

Having a father that teaches you to control ya emotions and keep focus on what's important >>>>

 

[Mowgli]

bottom line.



You can understand women, and if you're strong, you can figure out how to be the best man you can be.

Stronger then who? People from 2 parent homes? Sounds like you're trying to make lemonade with shyt. How much of your mothers bullshyt did you have to unlearn after you moved out her house?

 

[Wild self]

LOL! I know that now. But I learned the hard way. Ain't nothing like gettin' rejected by the girl everybody knows you have a crush on in front of your whole crew (using my mom's tactics...I learned what "maybe" meant from a girl that day)...then gettin' clowned about it for a week...then skipping class to play ball, to work off the anger/stress/hurt, and having a team of 6'5 Yugoslavian, refugee, no-English speaking, pick setting ass nikkas, eat your food on the court, raining jumpers on you like a Teen Wolf montage.

I remember that shyt vividly...my knees buckling at the rejection...and my ego buckling on the basketball court. My ego got hit by a wrecking ball that day.

Damn nikka, you had a hard childhood. I didn't have it hard like that, but you were a strong man to overcome such shyt like that.

Single mothers should be ashamed of themselves. Not having a positive male influence in their life to steer their sons and daughters right from wrong.

 

[Liquid]

It also makes you define manhood by matriarchal specifications. It's funny you mention the EXCEPTIONS and act like most of these b*stard children aren't growing up to be whores, manginas, simps and dead beats. When the children make it it becomes "I did it all by myself." When the children fail it's "because the father wasn't there." So convenient.

thread is over right there, I almost fell into that trap growing up.

 

[Wild self]

That's some real shyt.

From the opposite perspective, after reading through this thread, I feel like I owe everything to having a dad that was strict and made absolute sure that I did the following:

• Valued Education.
• Learned a healthy competitive mindset from sports.
• Learned the importance of ambition.
• Learned that loving a woman is possible, but you have to let some go to find the best for you.
• How to drive.
• How to shave.
• How to box.
• How to do car shyt.

I'm not saying this to come off as humbly smug or anything, because I don't mean to. I'm saying this because I'm acknowledging that having my dad around kept me from being a lot like the people I knew growing up with shytty or non-existent fathers that didn't go anywhere near fulfilling their total potential. I just can't believe that anyone would try to discount the importance of fatherhood this day and age. It's as if feminism went from, "We have the right to vote and dominion over our own bodies!!" to, "Men are useless!! Women can do anything a man can do, and do it better in heels!! Can I please get some stronger alimony and child support laws now?"

The craziest part about all of this is that men are necessitated to be ambitious, tough, proactive, and are otherwise completely valued based on what they can do or what they've done. It's kind of a crap shoot to be a man, but before, at the very least, men were honored and valued for what they brought to their families and society. Now? We're just ATM machines and hated for our "overly aggressive" nature. The same nature that they rely on for income, scientific invention, and artistic inspiration.

On the bolded, you see why society past the year 2000 has been redundant in entertainment (movies, tv shows, cartoons, video games)? Cause originality, created by fearless, bold men, have been disappearing at an alarming rate. Since then, we have had re hashes of old fashion clothing, wack ass music that ain't innovative, too many first person shooters in consoles, and sequels/ remakes to movies. Thanks to the disappearing dominant male, originality has been on the ropes.

 

[Guess Who]

Damn nikka, you had a hard childhood. I didn't have it hard like that, but you were a strong man to overcome such shyt like that.

Single mothers should be ashamed of themselves. Not having a positive male influence in their life to steer their sons and daughters right from wrong.

Haha, my upbringing sucked, what I've posted is only the short version...it's given me a lot of fuel for public speaking though. But I'm here now and mature for my years because of it.



And though my mother was shytty at picking the two men she decided to reproduce with, she redeemed herself by being an inspiration to me with her work ethic, getting 3 black boys to university, and keeping us out of prison and off the streets.

@Mowgli ...it's true that I had to unlearn some bullshyt when I moved out...particularly, learning how to stand up to women and be independent in general, cuz my mother is one of those "strong" dominant tyrant type personalities...probably why she sucks at relationships (which I tell her all the time, she can't compromise for shyt, doesn't hear ppl out in conflict, always has to have the last word, and doesn't apologize for shyt). She good at raising kids, though.

But what I learned from all this? Be very present in my son's life NO MATTER WHAT!!

 

[Sharp]

A woman can't teach a man how to be a man

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[Stuntone]

From the thread I made last week


There's no feeling better than making your dad proud.

from learning to ride a back
to beating the bully's azz in the frontyard
to scoring a touchdown, hitting a homerun, scoring a bucket
to getting good grades
to shooting his 12 gauge shotgun on New Years
to bringing home a very nice looking girl
to you becoming a decent man he raised you to be.

To get these looks from your dad nothing else compares. Sh:t warms your heart.

All you can do is him and let him know he's the reason


I feel sorry for people with no dad around to make proud. These woman are doing these young boys a huge injustice by not having a man around. Having your uncles and male cousins around are cool, but ain't nothing like your dad. Ladies find you a decent man to help raise your kids, fukk swag.


Thank god for my Dad. And I'm a pure momma's boy.