Being educated does not make you an ideal mate

[nineteeneightysix]

It just means you're educated
I see too many people conform to society's rules on becoming a successful person
But when everything doesn't go as planned and they realize it's all bullshyt, they can't handle it
Some even commit suicide or become serial killers
It's like they were hoping some big pot of gold was waiting for them once they GRADUATED
Nobody is perfect so stop being picky
You don't have to be educated to be considered an ideal mate either

(1) Your argument can be applied to any SINGLE quality...For example, being good looking does make one an ideal candidate, being adventurous doesn't make one an ideal candidate...

(2) It's a combination of things that make one ideal for any given person...Most people don't pick a mate based on one criteria...

 

[EndDomination]

I prefer a loyal woman truth be told. A man has no issue providing for a good woman, a woman has to prove herself that she wants a man to lead , this is why most these educated guys tend to marry out at higher rates, they don't feel sisters have a good representation of being a good woman. Also guys like to mold a woman, not marry at 35 when she's locked up with other men's kid.

LadySimone, it's really about balance, nothing wrong with education but it's not gonna cancel out the fact a sisters got multiple kids, nor is a it a good factor of loyalty, educated hoes have side dikk all the time, they're the main ones who will keep broke nikka around for smashing once in a while, they have their own money, they don't need his.

The problem is the sheep mentality when every black woman runs to college and every black women momma is telling her to marry a financially stable man, after a while nikkas just cash out and let them be alone. To much emphasis on money and doing things right for the future and none on being happy and St peace right now.

Every sister I see is trying to do something to improve something, it gets tired after a while.

They play into white America's hands.

Money and doing things right for the future should be emphasized more than "being happy and at peace at moment," being happy for the moment is great, but it doesn't pay for a home, a car, food, your children's futures, or anything tangible. You should always put the future first, unless you're already set for life.

 

[Scott Larock]

Money and doing things right for the future should be emphasized more than "being happy and at peace at moment," being happy for the moment is great, but it doesn't pay for a home, a car, food, your children's futures, or anything tangible. You should always put the future first, unless you're already set for life.

Then don't get into a relationship until your financially set, stay off the market but no one wants to hear about your money issues when they're trying to get close to you.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Educated cats sounding like Oswald Bates out here "I took the initiative to be in this predicament"ole ninjas.

 

[EndDomination]

It just means you're educated

I see too many people conform to society's rules on becoming a successful person

But when everything doesn't go as planned and they realize it's all bullshyt, they can't handle it

Some even commit suicide or become serial killers

It's like they were hoping some big pot of gold was waiting for them once they GRADUATED

Nobody is perfect so stop being picky

You don't have to be educated to be considered an ideal mate either

I'll take someone educated over someone who isn't educated everyday.
I like stability.
I like intelligent conversation.
I like the idea that the woman I'm with can hold an excellent job, and we can both support ourselves.

Then don't get into a relationship until your financially set, stay off the market but no one wants to hear about your money issues when they're trying to get close to you.

I am. Trust me, any issues in a relationship I have will not be financial.

 

[Jimi Swagger]

I've been running into this a lot since I moved to the dallas area. A lot of these women think they're gods gift because they have a degree and a job.

I guess I'm just not that easily impressed

You will lament on these days when the body ages, the dollar value dwindles. and retirement approaches. Cant retire comfortably off love, a phat ass, or personality. Entrepreneurial or career women have a quality discipline, planning, patience and focus. These women will easily work with a dude or let him lead if he has the same qualities while putting God first which is whats needed when building a family. Most dudes do not have a plan or focus but harp on the ladies because for not being damsels in distress on a sinking ship. Neo Chauvinism has things twisted.

I think these women are proud of being self sufficient and want recognition for their intelligence(perceived) and hard work and not some fleeting physical attribute that like breasts, ass, hair, etc.

 

[LunaticVillage415]

Being "educated" is a fukking joke. I went college and graduated, but guess what? I barely learned shyt. If you went to college in America in the past 15 years and you are honest, you didn't learn much either. You probably spent most time socializing and getting fukked up and trying to get with the opposite sex and skated by on just enough to graduate. With grade inflation, hardly anyone fails out. College has become a big business. And I went to a top rated school too. Truth be told, I learned more about life than any square in college before I was even ten years old just by growing up in the hood.

 

[street heat]

You will lament on these days when the body ages, the dollar value dwindles. and retirement approaches. Cant retire comfortably off love, a phat ass, or personality. Entrepreneurial or career women have a quality discipline, planning, patience and focus. These women will easily work with a dude or let him lead if he has the same qualities while putting God first which is whats needed when building a family. Most dudes do not have a plan or focus but harp on the ladies because for not being damsels in distress on a sinking ship. Neo Chauvinism has things twisted.

I think these women are proud of being self sufficient and want recognition for their intelligence(perceived) and hard work and not some fleeting physical attribute that like breasts, ass, hair, etc.

The point is to not act like a career makes you the complete package. It certainly does not, especially to men. We take care of ourselves, we aren't looking at women for money.

Some of These women don't know how to play their position, and wonder why they're mid 30s and never been married.

 

[Jimi Swagger]

The point is to not act like a career makes you the complete package. It certainly does not, especially to men. We take care of ourselves, we aren't looking at women for money.

Some of These women don't know how to play their position, and wonder why they're mid 30s and never been married.

Judging by marriage statistics they are smart and holding out until people know how to get their stuff together it sounds. Or they can be in their 30s on their 2nd/3rd marriage. Again patience and discipline. Like the OP said about his grandparents being married 60 years, they hated each other. I am sure they married in their teens/twenties. What position are you referring to? People want dynamic and engaging partners, not Geishas, at least I wouldn't. Any man with no skillsets, post secondary education and less finances than a woman in a Western capitalistic society and expects for her to follow him is insane. It's better to learn to be alone and love yourself than settle for someone who makes you feel like you are alone.

 

[whknorth]

A smart nikka but I do dumb shyt.

 

[Rue]

Mr.Forte

 

[Mr.Forte]

So you're another one of those dudes insecure about not going to college huh?

I did go to college

 

[BezO]

Well, learning math, science, writing, history, etc all involve gaining knowledge. However we are actually talking about what constitutes an education, and knowledge by cultural osmosis is not "education" to me, given the lack of rigor and sophistication involved in the endeavor. I mean we more or less "gain knowledge" everyday through every action we make, but this is not education merely because every action provides feedback. Education is more than just "experience". It is instruction.

Moreover a well travelled guy may know less than a well educated guy with respects to information about any particular country depending on whether the latter studies said country. Travel gives information in inefficient "bits and pieces"; study gives information in large volumes. This is why we defer to academic experts for information and not "world travellers".

What I'm gettin' from you is that folks partakin' in formal education study hard and folks learnin' through experience do not. Under those circumstances, yes, the formal student will outlearn the traveler.

But I believe one that applies themselves to learnin' through direct experience has an advantage over an equally determined formal student.

You believe that those of us who partake in formal education, in general, are succeedin'. We'll have to agree to disagree on that. But I believe our definition of success is different.

But also recognise that I'm not against books. Books are valuable. I rely on them heavily at the moment. But whenever opportunity or means allow, I go direct.

 

[BezO]

Interesting thread. My take is a person should at minimum learn at least one thing very well. Take for example 50 cent dissing Mayweather about not being able to read. Has Mayweather's inability to read made him any less of a fighter? What 50 is doing is trying to bring Mayweather back into the realm of the typical 9-5 worker who must be able to read to work a desk job. Mayweather is not operating on the same standards as the common person.

I agree to some degree, but I believe everyone should know the basics... math, readin' writin' & some science. 9-5er, superstar athlete, whoever, you can't rely on others to do the basics for you without a great degree of risk.

(1) Your argument can be applied to any SINGLE quality...For example, being good looking does make one an ideal candidate, being adventurous doesn't make one an ideal candidate...

(2) It's a combination of things that make one ideal for any given person...Most people don't pick a mate based on one criteria...

I agree, but I think the context of the OP was in regard to the importance folks put on formal education when definin' their worth and/or selectin' a mate. Educated women do this alot in my experience.

Money and doing things right for the future should be emphasized more than "being happy and at peace at moment," being happy for the moment is great, but it doesn't pay for a home, a car, food, your children's futures, or anything tangible. You should always put the future first, unless you're already set for life.

Maybe samantics, but I believe the present is most important. Sure, have a plan that will define your future, but enjoy the moment and do what needs to be done today. Your actions & state of mind in the present dictate everthing.

The present is always, the future is never.

 

[Jimi Swagger]

I did go to college

Did you graduate and find a job or work for yourself making above median income? That normally makes people step back with those type questions.