being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[Ohene]

27:55-29:00
kind of sums up how I be feelin, like what we tlkn for man just wassup and kim

lol salute to august. he said some real shyt

me i have no problem being social...i just prefer to do it on my own terms and volition.

if i'm at a conference or event and want to do some networking ill be the most active person when I see somebody i really want to be in contact with. When i see a fly girl...when I am in a weird situation with a group and wanna gather or share some information etc etc.

But if I dont have no reason or desire to talk to you ima do what i wanna do at the end of the day and keep it moving after being cordial

 

[Matt504]

Right. They're confusing being able to entertain yourself with an inability to be entertained by\or in the presence of others. Now I'm starting to understand why a lot of the people on here are so weird, they can create personas online where no one can judge them and convince themselves that they're better than others. It's bravado masking fear and it's unhealthy.

we're in a thread being judged right now in spite of whatever persona we have online, none of us are beyond scrutiny no matter what we say and this thread is the proof.

I think a lot of the confusion in this thread stems from a lack of reading comprehension and complete inability to understand things other than what they consider normal.

I can be entertained by people and I can entertain people, but only for so long until I need a break to recharge because too much interaction is draining.

 

[Malta]

meh. i'm sure there are correlations with introversion as a personality trait and Autism so theres nothing wrong with that really

I just look at it like this -

Lions roll with a pride
Tigers/Leopards/etc. roll by themselves

If everyone was exactly the same way the world would be a boring ass place.

 

[Ohene]

i think a good example of my introversion is the following.

June 21st i broke my ankle and as a result I couldnt walk up the stairs whenever I went to work. For this reason i was given a small office downstairs to use in the meantime before I healed up. I come in for work around 7:15 but my highest manager comes in at 8 usually. Everyday she came to work she would stop by my office to chit chat whether it was about my ankle, certain reports I was doing, and also random stuff about her life, family etc. I appreciated the gesture, after all she was taking time out of her day to visit me before she went upstairs to complete her work and I know her heart was in the right place. She probably thought I was lonely.

The fact of the matter was that it was over kill. I mean when you talk to me everyday it comes to a point where I dont even have anything to say to you because you're so updated. It wasnt like I didnt engage in a great convo with her its just that it was forced. After about 3,4 weeks of it there were odd days I'd go to the washroom around 7:55 just so she wouldnt visit . You wanna visit, cool but every morning? Once a week would be more suitable. Needless to say it was one of my most productive work periods. i stretched my stay in that office as much as I could even after I got the air cast on but she kept asking when i'd be coming back up stairs so I obliged after a while.

 

[No1]

You're confusing introversion with social problems which some of these dudes do have, I am an introvert that has traveled to several countries by myself and conversed with strangers where I'm the foreigner. I don't have any social problems, if I do have a problem it's that I can cut people out of my life very easily at times. I'm just an aloof dude that can be a bit cold to people outside of my family


Some of these guys sound like they may have Aspergers and think it's introversion.

I used to be like this, but college changed that. People in the Midwest were so randomly friendly that I eventually it wore off on me. But the thing about conversing with strangers is that even that is easier than conversing with people you do know somewhat half the time. You don't have to worry about judgment or anything else. But my mom's more or less like you and my Dad's a super extrovert. I ended up somewhere in between--more like I chill by myself and do my own thing, but when I'm out and about I'm one of the most open people there. I think it's a good balance to have. It keeps me fresh.

I don't agree with your lions and tigers analogy though. I think spending too much time by yourself stunts your growth in the same way that not taking time for yourself to contemplate things and explore stunts your growth. Most people I know would say I do have introverted tendencies however. I tend to not show up to shyt I get invited to all the time.

 

[Audemar]

we're in a thread being judged right now in spite of whatever persona we have online, none of us are beyond scrutiny no matter what we say and this thread is the proof.

I think a lot of the confusion in this thread stems from a lack of reading comprehension and complete inability to understand things other than what they consider normal.

I can be entertained by people and I can entertain people, but only for so long until I need a break to recharge because too much interaction is draining.

This on many counts; you have people in here talking about aspergers, for example. Some people here seem to be unaware of what it means to be an introvert. Introverts are not people who are socially anxious. Instead, they don't enjoy/seek social interactions as much as an extrovert would. With that in mind, introverts are perfectly capable of performing social interactions when a situation calls for it. A person with social anxiety, not an introvert by definition, dreads pretty much all forms of social interactions; there are different degrees of social anxiety.

 

[Roid Jones]

This thread again

Trust me, it pops up every so often and people try to act like its cool to be anti social. You never see threads saying 'I love meeting and talking to people'

 

[Ohene]

I used to be like this, but college changed that. People in the Midwest were so randomly friendly that I eventually it wore off on me. But the thing about conversing with strangers is that even that is easier than conversing with people you do know somewhat half the time. You don't have to worry about judgment or anything else. But my mom's more or less like you and my Dad's a super extrovert. I ended up somewhere in between--more like I chill by myself and do my own thing, but when I'm out and about I'm one of the most open people there. I think it's a good balance to have. It keeps me fresh.

I don't agree with your lions and tigers analogy though. I think spending too much time by yourself stunts your growth in the same way that not taking time for yourself to contemplate things and explore stunts your growth. Most people I know would say I do have introverted tendencies however. I tend to not show up to shyt I get invited to all the time.

i would agree . I was very quiet as a kid and my dad always used to notice asking why i dont wanna spend time with ppl during get togethers or when hed invite ppl over. He'd always tell me to "mix" with ppl and I'd . He damn near urged me to go to university in a different city because of it and being on my own really allowed me to balance myself. Living on campus and partaking in certain events without having any friends from HS to fall back on and shyt really forced me to get out there and meet ppl. Now I can get in tune with my social side anytime I want even though I'm apparently an INTJ.

 

[Danny Up]

Trust me, it pops up every so often and people try to act like its cool to be anti social. You never see threads saying 'I love meeting and talking to people'

Because nobody does. Those "friendly" people just talk shyt about other people all day long. They add nothing of value to society.

 

[Malta]

I used to be like this, but college changed that. People in the Midwest were so randomly friendly that I eventually it wore off on me. But the thing about conversing with strangers is that even that is easier than conversing with people you do know somewhat half the time. You don't have to worry about judgment or anything else. But my mom's more or less like you and my Dad's a super extrovert. I ended up somewhere in between--more like I chill by myself and do my own thing, but when I'm out and about I'm one of the most open people there. I think it's a good balance to have. It keeps me fresh.

I have no problem talking with people I know and don't know, I'm good either way, but I don't always feel like talking it's not something I can change either I can go with the flow a lot of the times and can adapt to situations, I just prefer to be alone when I'm not with family. I go to all sorts of parties and social events, but I don't overstay my time at them, just how I am.

I don't agree with your lions and tigers analogy though. I think spending too much time by yourself stunts your growth in the same way that not taking time for yourself to contemplate things and explore stunts your growth. Most people I know would say I do have introverted tendencies however. I tend to not show up to shyt I get invited too all the time.

Sure, if you spend 20 hours of the day by yourself then problems could arise, but at the same time there are plenty of introverts that have done great things. I mean, look at it like this a lot of your NBA titles are a result of two introverts The fact remains though, that brain chemistry that causes some animals to roll in packs/prides while others don't is also present in humans as well, some people are just more cut out to run with a pack while others are more comfortable hunting on their own. I don't want to be alone, I need to be alone at times, whether it's just zoning out with my headphones on in the gym like I'm the only person there or going for a drive upstate and walking a trail, it's something i need.

 

[Roid Jones]

Because nobody does. Those "friendly" people just talk shyt about other people all day long. They add nothing of value to society.

Right so its back to this bullshyt, introverts = highly intelligent, extroverts = dumb, FOH

 

[Danny Up]

Right so its back to this bullshyt, introverts = highly intelligent, extroverts = dumb, FOH

When and where did I say or imply that. Friendly talkative people generally ain't talking about shyt of significance. That's a fact.

 

[CrimsonTider]

When and where did I say or imply that. Friendly talkative people generally ain't talking about shyt of significance. That's a fact.

Why does shyt of signifigance have to be talked about? Maybe people are just enjoying conversation.

 

[Stone]

Honestly I've never even thought about the fact that people thought I was rude or anything like that for not speaking. It's not because I think I'm above it, it's just that I'm off in my own world most of the time.

I do realize that I'm going to have to give more of an effort though, think of it as a job within a job.

 

[Danny Up]

Why does shyt of signifigance have to be talked about? Maybe people are just enjoying conversation.

It doesn't but most talk consists of he say/she say. Me I ain't got time for that.