being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[Flay Mayweather]

Who's the author?

Susan Cain

 

[Flay Mayweather]

Here's her TED talk if anyone is interested in listening to her

http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts?language=en

 

[AAKing23]

Damn this thread is truth My extreme introversion is personally accompanied by social anxiety which makes it worse


I get better as I get older in terms of dealing with it though, extroverted females always tryna get me to open up

 

[NobodyReally]

I'm not an introvert because I'm "socially awkward" or whatever the you people think.

I'm an introvert because I don't give a shyt about your company.

Seriously.

how hard is it to figure out?

Extrovert/introvert? It's the difference in cats and dogs.

Dog: " GIMMIE ATTENTION GIMMIE ATTENTION GIMMIE ATTENTION"

Cat: " fukk your attention. I'll give you mines when I want to."



Those people that are sitting there crying because people wont flock around them and the opposite won't just flop into their laps with no effort from them?

THOSE are extroverts. Lazy ass extroverts.

Your dog and cat analogy is spot-on! If anyone is self-centered its extroverts. They think everyone thinks like them and wants to talk to them and about the stuff they want to talk about. They rarely listen well.

 

[DreadBrown]

Thread sad as fukk

 

[NobodyReally]

so true tho.

Silence doesn't have to be awkward unless unless someone make's it awkward. Nothing wrong with saying hi and going about your business.

I actually have no problems with playing the extrovert. I don't have problems with talking to people, and there are no awkward silences. If there is one, its usually someone else's gaffe and I know how to smooth it over. There are many instances though, in my profession, where you cannot just simply say "Hi" and move on. My work performance includes my ability to establish rapport with others. You have to do small talk to build rapport and build networks, so I play the game.

 

[Turk]

Damn this thread is truth My extreme introversion is personally accompanied by social anxiety which makes it worse

I feel you.....social anxiety sucks

 

[Another Man]

I'd say I'm an introvert for the most part, except when I drink

Other than that I prefer that people in general stay the fukk out my face.

 

[infamousred]

i get tired of hearing someone constantly run their mouth...especially if it's only about themselves. i went on a trip recently and had to deal with someone like that for 3 days. it's so fukking annoying you just want to reach over and back hand them. there's nothing wrong with talking...but did your parents not give you attention when you were younger?

 

[Grams]

Some people just talk too fukking much. They love hearing the sound of their own voice. I will say that a lot of you people who say you don't like small talk just sound stuck up OD. Talk to people, what's the worse that can happen

I stay in cuz I don't drink alcohol and nobody wants to be the only sober breh at a party. Clubs are too loud and dark ( #MidnightBoyz ) so it's w/e. I also stay in a lot cuz I really don't want to put myself in a situation where someone talks slick and I go full Cloutier and end up getting booked. Such is life

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

loaner here i dont give a fuk really i have no desire to be around loads of other nikkas
im more concerned with surrounding myself with women....but my social anxiety wont allow me to approach any other than online

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I have discovered I'm not an introvert... I just don't like interacting with most people. When I click with people I'm a comfortable open book.... but if I don't gel with somebody it's draining.

Some people are just cool with everybody (especially if they like being the center of attention).... I'm good with all that.

 

[MercuryHayes]

nikkas w social anxiety need to pop some mollies just that night, be out and have fun w the friends you DO enjoy being around.

In the future you'll still be a loner and choose not to go out sometimes, but when you do go out you wont feel so antsy and uncomfortable anymore.

 

[Malta]

I'm introverted but can make small talk very easily and will hold long convos with strangers as long as they're interesting. I got a free mango mate from this Mexican restaurant cause I was helping one of the dudes with his English while I was waiting for my food

I don't have social anxieties, like other introverts, big crowds don't bother me in the least bit. I just generally prefer quiet and silence and if I'm not with family on my free time I'm alone a lot of the time.

 

[Dillah810]

I mean no disrespect whatsoever.
It really, really sounds like a couple of you may have social anxiety.
My closest friend is an INTJ and back in high school, while I had to beg son to come to certain parties with us, he could still function.
I would definitely notice a decrease in his energy level after a couple of hours, but breh could make small talk and play my wing man when the situation called for it.
If you're getting choked up over casual meet and greet conversation, or you're the type to be going for milk and see someone you recognize in the dairy aisle, so you walk down the canned goods section instead and pretend to be looking for something else until the coast is clear, you may have an underlying issue that goes deeper than simple extroversion & introversion.

Well.....fukk......