Not rape but my grandma, kicked my grandfather out of my mom’s life. She went out of her way to make sure he had no contact with her.
My mom felt like her biological father never tried to have a relationship wit her. My mom didn’t even know what her dad looked like until a couple years ago.
shyt angered my mom, because this was just another thing my grandmother has done out of self interest. She didn’t even know about her dad until a couple years ago. My bro found out through dna testing service like 23 and me.
Worse off my grandma denied it initially when confronted about the news.
This isn’t a white or black thing. This is a women lack accountability and will lie to save face, for ish they did.
Similar thing happened with my mother. My grandma kicked my biological grandfather to the curb right after my mother was born becuz he wanted her to move in with him and his family and she didn’t want to. They were only 20. She wouldn’t let him see my mother so he ended up moving to Philly and starting a new life
My grandma met who I thought was my grandfather and they ended up getting married becuz he had two daughters whose mother had just died since being a parent out of wedlock was looked down on back then. They ended up having three more kids. My mother grew up thinking that was her real father and two older sisters
She always questioned shyt becuz folks would come up to her saying she looked just like her dad Calvin but the father she knew was Fred. Plus she didn’t look like her other siblings. She finally got the nerve to ask my grandma when I was pushing 30 and she told her everything
My parents started doing some research and it turns out they ended up finding a man in Philly who sent by the same name who had just died. They went to the funeral and his kids looked just like my mother. She passed off a note to one of the kids with her contact info and they ended up meeting. She still keeps in touch with them
I have a tab on my phone saved from his memorial website and I look just like the nikka. Crazy that my mother went 60 years thinking her dad was someone else. My oldest aunt says she vaguely remembers them moving in with my grandma. So I got a bunch of cousins from my two oldest aunts who aren’t even blood related to me. One of them is like my brother.