Bird talk: But does she have a point?

[marcuz]

I'd argue it's the other way around. Most modern women want to benefit from a dude who has built his house already, few want to get their hands dirty in the building process.

pretty much this. if women were truly interested int he growing/building process, we'd have much stronger black relationships.

 

[Auger]

pretty much this. if women were truly interested int he growing/building process, we'd have much stronger black relationships.

You have to admit, some (or a lot of) people have no potential or ambition.

We just need to be better judges of character, see where there is potential to be had and immediately cut off those with none,

 

[Colicat]

pretty much this. if women were truly interested int he growing/building process, we'd have much stronger black relationships.

Everything is always the Black woman's fault...

 

[Anno Domini]

If anything it's the opposite, men want a female they can grow with, so that way he knows she wants him for him and not his money. Woman want a man whose already successful.

 

[chief_keef_stan]

i dont see many of the black men i know doing well out here

most white, asian, ånd mexican men tend to have more going on in terms of education or job or housing

maybe its just the people i know

tf

 

[miranda]

i think you should of just said "some guys" instead of black men,, kinda putting us down not gonna lie

yed i messed up there, sorry

Everything is always the Black woman's fault...

he hates women

tf

i said men that i know. 25%are doing really well, 25% okay, 50% struggling. im happy that you are living in upper middle class jack and jill utopia

 

[CinnaSlim]

It's possible to grow with people. But not everyone you start out with will be there when you finish.

 

[Giselle]

Are brehettes really trying to grow with a man?

Or, do they want the finished product?

Is it chicken/egg?

@bcrusaderw @Emperor_ReinScarf @Panthera @Giselle @CinnaSlim

I disagree. In 2015, most people of both genders prefer to be done "growing" before they get a partner.

People of both genders want to sleep around, get rich, and do/see everything else before they find a partner.

Growing with a person is better in my opinion. It makes you closer. New experiences in any relationship makes that relationship stronger.

 

[kevm3]

Sounds like code for she wants commitment and loyalty from a playa or some guy in the streets. Maybe she needs to stop trying to grow with a 'nikka' and grow with a quality black man. Just like you ain't gonna change a ho into a housewife, you're not going to turn this 'nikka' into the man of your dreams. Any man that tells a woman not to take him serious because he's still doing some growing is doing her a huge favor by saving her a ton of heartache in advance if she would heed the warning.

 

[Megadeus]

It'd be cool if she was telling the truth. But she's isn't . Not on this planet atleast.


I wonder who these "ni99as" are that she's referring to specifically.
I'd also like to know what her defenition of "grow" is.

Sorry, but this would appear to fall into the Bird talk category

 

[aXiom]

I wanna grow inside of her then disconnect.. one of many disconnects.

 

[Larry Lambo]

I kinda get what she is saying.

A woman in her early-mid 20's is at her peak attractiveness and wants to take advantage of that, while snatching a dude that isn't at his peak attractiveness. And then while he improves his appeal, (maturity, experience, wealth, even physique), she's already got him locked down.

Once they decline in attractiveness, they will have to settle for a lower value man.

She's using "womanspeak" in terms of growing with a dude, when she really is meaning that she wants to get a high quality dude while he is still undervalued.

 

[Jay Kast]

I kinda get what she is saying.

A woman in her early-mid 20's is at her peak attractiveness and wants to take advantage of that, while snatching a dude that isn't at his peak attractiveness. And then while he improves his appeal, (maturity, experience, wealth, even physique), she's already got him locked down.

Once they decline in attractiveness, they will have to settle for a lower value man.

She's using "womanspeak" in terms of growing with a dude, when she really is meaning that she wants to get a high quality dude while he is still undervalued.

Problem is, this doesnt happen. I wont get into why or how- blah blah blah, same coli rehashed trash.

INSTANT GRATIFICATION, THE ERA WE LIVE IN, PERCEIVED SOCIETAL STANDARDS AND STATUS.

If you can figure it out from those phrases, you're golden. If not, keep waiting for a woman to spot out an ambitious man before he has anything like a diamond in the rough. No, that objective is mainly for men. Sadly.

 

[Killer Instinct]

Certain women are more adept at others at sniffing out men with potential and planning long term.
They know how to play the game.
Those women who don't, are those who will find themselves in their early to mid 30s wondering why there aren't any quality bachelors' .....amongst other...... things.

 

[mamba]

Sounds like code for she wants commitment and loyalty from a playa or some guy in the streets. Maybe she needs to stop trying to grow with a 'nikka' and grow with a quality black man. Just like you ain't gonna change a ho into a housewife, you're not going to turn this 'nikka' into the man of your dreams. Any man that tells a woman not to take him serious because he's still doing some growing is doing her a huge favor by saving her a ton of heartache in advance if she would heed the warning.

That's the frustration a lot of Black women vent. The nikkas they desire will never be the men they know they need.

Other groups of women don't struggle with that frustration. It's mainly a Black American woman phenomenon.