We're so conditioned to seeing our people wear their wealth.
I think it goes back to how you're raised, and how much influence the people around you place on material possessions. If the people who influenced you prioritize
looking the part over being the part, you learn that early, whether purposely or not. If people who influenced you prioritized
being good over looking good, you learn that, too...
There's some small overlap here but I think these two points hold true overall!
I, like I think most black people, didn't come from a family that could teach me financial literacy. But I think what I did learn was, and it wasn't like my parents sat me down and gave me a deliberate lesson. But on the occasions we saw someone evicted, or someone's car repo'd, or the Rent-A-Center place come grab the mattress or living room set from someone who just had it yesterday, I remember my parents having conversations like, you make sure those bills are paid before you do anything else...
Like you make sure you have a roof over your head, you make sure (if needed) you have transportation, you make sure you got food to eat. Everything else is window dressing, if you don't have the flyest or newest shyt, doesn't matter so long as you have "shyt"...
For me I think what happened is those examples, bled into exactly how I spent my money, when I started making my own. Even the drug dealers I was influenced by, one of em liked a little jewelry, but nothing crazy or gaudy or a ton of shyt. So the guys who footsteps I tried to follow, they weren't going crazy on jewelry; like with my parents, wasn't no comversation, I guess I just tried to mimic what they were doing...
But that foundation was placed by listening to and watching my parents. I had a turbulent upbringing but we were never evicted, RAC place never came to repo shyt, cars were never repo'd! I just didn't really have materialistic people...
That financial literacy convo is a different one altogether, my parents didn't teach me anything about saving, or investing, or how to earn more money, how to generate passive income, putting away shyt for your kids, etc. I think most black people suffer from this, and it's rooted in the history of racism to black people in America. That's a whole different story, I may start another thread on that!