we are upset that the vast majority of black people who dont participate in those activities are excluded from those environments. You're being purposely obtuse.
It’s not being obtuse.

I can’t speak for tech, but for law, finance, and consulting where you are dealing with high net worth individuals and your business is dependent on your relationships with them, you need people who identify with them and have the ability to cultivate strong bonds. That means, you hire people from the same background. That means, unfortunately, that excludes a good number of blacks who grew up poor or poor adjacent and who don’t have the type of presence that high status people would take seriously.
The breh right here said there is an impediment to him getting closer to his coworker because he doesn’t share the same interests. What do you think is going to happen when you’re dealing with a client?
This is valid - I'm in a spot now where I can't even hang w/ coworkers on the weekend because I don't skii, play golf, like tennis, or hike...that shyt costs a bunch of money and to be honest I'm not interested in spending like I have parents who passed down whole houses, paid for all of my school, etc., like they are. shyt's frustrating but at the same time, if need be, I'll participate if I ever feel like it's seriously hurting my career.
It’s the same thing, as a straight man are you hanging around gay nikkas like that?
80% conversations and friendships men have revolve around sports and p*ssy. Are you about to force relationships with gay nikkas and yall ain’t got nothing in common? What are y’all gonna talk about? How are you going to develop close friendships with them? You finna go to a Beyoncé concert?
You weren’t a right fit for the school you attended. You weren’t a right fit for your industry. You should have took the time to figure out what was what before you made the decisions.
If most black people are more suited for the service and hospitality industry because we “hood”, own it, and stop forcing interactions in industries where you have to mingle with rich people and where the social capital is different. You ain’t got nothing in common. And stop castigating blacks who move with ease within those circles.
If not I don't understand your point.




