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Don’t Be Scared Homie
Fellas, consider this a closed room meeting where the girls aren’t listening and let’s be real with each other. Commitment is scary, I don’t care how tough you are, putting your feelings in the hands of a girl and trusting her to not fukk you over, causes paranoia. When is that risk worth it? Let’s say you met a girl you really like, she’s girlfriend pretty, not just some nickel you gassed up. She’s forward and communicates, not the typical girl that beats around the bush and expects you to read her mind. She’s supportive, not in a cook you dinner and let you hold her car, bottom bytch way, but like a motivating partner instead of a spoiling mother. Finally, she fukks like a champ; she’s not turtled on her back, eyes closed, taking dikk with the excitement level of a flu shot. To sum it up, you’ve met a girl who’s not like the rest. All the excuses that you give the corny girls, you don’t want to give her, a big part of you wants this girl as your girl—but you’re just not sure what to do… Stop being a p*ssy, that’s what you do.
Real men make decisions; they don’t keep smashing and agree to be exclusive without a title with a girl they’re in love with just because it’s the safe route. Girls do fukk themselves over by not standing up for themselves; however, you know that girl isn’t cool with being your untitled dikk cozy. That girl really likes you and she’s being a trooper because Basicas have told her to “wait for that man if you love him,” and here you are exploiting that naïve loyalty. Your male ego is saying, “She’ll be, alright,” but she won’t be! The right dude will snatch up the best girl you’ve met because you’re leasing when you should be buying. The issue of “why aren’t we together” will grow into resentment, and she will turn into a crazy bytch, but a crazy bytch that you created by torturing her with a half-ass relationship!
All men are afraid of The Switch. We’ve all been with multiple women, and we all come to the same conclusion:The average female starts cool, then transforms into that annoying ass relationship girl or jealous Erica Mena psychopath as soon as you lock them down. Black, White, Asian, Latino, it doesn’t matter the man’s color– we don’t want to commit because there aren’t any women worth committing to these days. You know that’s not true. That’s a commitment issue based on past experiences, and you should have grown from those bad choices.You’re old enough to date, wait, and put these girls to the test to make sure they aren’t annoying, clingy, crazy, or hoeish. It only takes a few weeks to figure out if a girl is right for you, but here you are months in, or even years in, and you still don’t buy into a girl that’s shown you her greatness. This cowardly indecision has to stop! Man to man, let’s get to the root of your real fear, because “not ready” is a cop out, and we all know it.
FEAR OF GIVING AN INCH
You give a girl an inch; she’ll take a mile– start picking out wedding colors and start writing her first name with your last name, regular and hyphenated. She won’t tell you this, but it’ll slip out in the little things she says and does. Your future is now her future, and while you want her as a girlfriend, you aren’t even thinking about marriage. The older you get, the more women consider you, “the one.” That’s how females are wired, they love hard way too fast. Not to say we don’t, but males are more of a live for the day, not plan for the future, type of people. You’re not ready for marriage, and you shouldn’t be, but that’s not the same as not being ready for a relationship. Dating a girl is just getting to know her as a person in order to see if she’s even worth fukking. Agreeing to be monogamous aka “giving up the title” is showing her that you don’t want to date other girls, you like her, and want to see how far it can go once committed. Marriage is on an entire other level; it’s basically merging for life. She’s cool, you love her, but you don’t LOVE her that much.
As men, you have to understand the difference between giving her a shot and giving her your last name, and not think that one immediately follows the other. Girls get overzealous, but don’t let chicks rattle you with tough talk. I’ve heard girls say scary shyt like, “I don’t have time to waste, if we’re going to be together, he better be the man I’m marrying.” She’s talking out of her ass, trying to boost herself up because she’s been dogged out. Don’t listen to that and let it run you off, if you sit and talk to her you’ll see that it’s a defense mechanism, and she’s willing to take it one day at a time just like you. If she is a psycho “you better propose by my next birthday” girl, then drop that bytch like you dropped Michael Vick from your fantasy team.
FEAR OF PUBLICITY
Men see those girls on social media writing about, “my bae is so good to me…my bae a trip… waiting for my bae to get off work,” and shake their head at that corniness. There is no way you want to be the “bae” to some lovesick girl who feels a need give strangers play by play on your relationship. We men are built different, we don’t need that kind of attention, nor do we covet it, but some girls take pride in having someone and have to inform the world. Maybe it’s a ploy or maybe she is legitimately happy to be yours. Either way, you don’t want to deal with that circus. You’re afraid that the moment you make it official, she’s going to blast it off as a status update and expect you to do the same. You can’t explain to a girl that it makes you uncomfortable; she doesn’t see the problem, so she expects you to act the same way. To even break this down to her from your POV will seem like you’re making an excuse and lead to an argument. “What you got to hide? Which one of them #NoFilter Hoes you fukking? Do you already have a girlfriend?” That’s enough to make a nikka stay single for life. An argument about publicizing your relationship—that’s the shyt you were afraid of.
Stop crying and man up. When you were courting this girl and trying to get her to fukk, you should have been taking inventory of what kind of person she was. I tell women to interview men like their life depends on it, and men should do the same thing to avoid falling fast for a girl that has a ton of deal breakers. THOTs post hoe shyt, they say hoe shyt, and they are easy to expose. These attention hungry chicks aren’t stealth either; you can take one look at her Instagram and tell that bytch is extra. The moment you saw her on your first date taking selfies, you should have known this chick was going to want to publicize everything. If that was a deal breaker, you should have told her it was a turn off, or just got the p*ssy and ran like a normal dude. Say you did do your job and you scouted more than her p*ssy, and this girl gives you no indication that she will be one of those annoying girls that you see on your Newsfeed. Why are you assuming she’s going to switch or already planning for the day she tries to air you out on your Facebook wall? If you trusted her enough to hit raw, trust her enough to stay that same girl you fell in love with. The internet is a horrible representation of women; it makes them all seem like insecure selfie taking attention whores who praise their boyfriends one day, then shyt on them the next. This girl that you fell for is different, she’s proven that she’s not like BriKiesha and ‘em whoinbox ex-girlfriends if they wish you happy birthday. Instead of making excuses and keeping her on placeholder duty, own up to your fears. Talk to her and establish that one of your rules is that you don’t get into all that tagging and status shyt, you are private. Either she respects that or she makes it into an issue. In the end, have faith that a woman you’ve connected with on a deeper level will understand exactly where you’re coming from.
