DING DING DING!
This is the quiet part people don’t say out loud.
Once a woman is fit and truly has her look together, she can attract a better caliber of man. There are so many dudes who are not of that caliber that they will encourage women not to lose the weight. I had an ex who got mad that I worked out as much as him. Imagine being mad your lady wants to look good
And the same way brehs with money have no issue “exploring options”…if more Black women ignored the guys who tell them to stay “thick” they would be opened up to a world of men -including brehs- they didn’t know existed.
Imagine being a regular woman who looks like Tracey Edmonds? If more girls understood the game they’d never let themselves go. The problem is so many women haven’t been exposed to certain lifestyles, they don’t understand the importance of being fit- beyond health reasons.