Black Woman Says Black Men Are Tight With Spending Money On Them, Talks Cheating + First Dates

[Guvnor]

Btw, @BlackPearl The Empress is a former stripper.

Y'all heeding life advices from strippers and shyt.

Damn, why you expose brehette like that. She seems kinda nice but has misunderstandings of some things.

 

[PuffTheMagicDragon]

Never understood how being tight with money is considered a bad thing. Seems like more people, especially in the west, should learn to be more tight with their spending.

 

[The Fade]

That woman is not a prize of course men are gonna be cheap dating her.

She told the camera why she is a bad investment and an even worse depreciating asset

 

[Guvnor]

I'm telling you how you come off and what many women will assume about you. Again, someone who is use to respect doesn't need to forgo common courtesy to get it.

I never had a dude ask to go out and then tell me that I need to pay for my own. Even my friends and I will pay for each other's lunch.

I would consider dating a dude trying to split the bill a downgrade. Not even from a money prospective but from a general life style protective. I am more than happy to pay for things when I am out and my friends/dates do the same. Mutual respect/contribution is common practice and if someone has to demand something that is usual and freely given that tells me he 1. does not experience that on the regular 2. probably makes bad dating decisions 3. he gets used frequently which means he 3a. Probably has a shytty personality and/or 3b. is a pushover

You are telling on yourself with that attitude whether you know it or not and a quality women is probably going to be turned off.

You should go on free or cheap dates if the money is an issue or you are worried about being used. But again, do you breh.

All lies and awful assumptions, try again. Also you never met me, someone who is unique and not like anyone you ever met in your life Please don't categorize me with those scoundrels and bum nikkas you may date, no offense.


To address your points as follows:

1.As I said before women have offered me things and I usually turn it down. It's not about her paying for me but paying for her own meal and us using the date as an opportunity to get to know each other. I can buy my own things but the problem is in most cases their is not mutual contribution and they expect me the man to pay for everything and they don't have shyt to contribute. I have had women make offers to me, even when I was in high school some chick offered me a ticket to go to the scream tour with her, I think it was with mindless behavior or diggy or something but I declined cause I wasn't feeling her due to her heavy christian vibe and I don't know, just never wanted a women hanging that kind of thing over my head. If I was close with her like that or feeling her then I would have took the ticket but I have to be close with a woman before I accept and expect her to contribute but her paying for her food on the date is to see if she can put some money on the table to begin with. Metaphorically, if I buy the table she has to be able to put the food on it, shyt otherwise I'm better off alone. Now I will contribute by paying for the tax and if I establish a strong relationship with the women then I have no issue with mutual contribution as you put it but I want to see she has something to contribute too. I don't experience mutual contribution and most men don't.

2.I have and not letting the women pay for her own meal is one of those bad decisions

3.Nah never been used, though a few women have tried it. Luckily I caught on and threw those women off a cliff so to speak and curved them. This is why I want women I date to pay for their meal so that I know they are genuinely interested me and are not in it for a free meal. If they really like me they will have no issue paying for their meal as we get to know each other in the beginning. I'm not opposed to buying gifts but that's something you buy once you feel comfortable with the person.

My questions to you are
How am I telling on myself?

Also If you're more then happy to pay for things when out with friends then why not pay for your own meal on the date since you're happy to do so? Isn't it about the connection or you just want to stuff your face

 

[Adebisi_Said]

Tom Leykis said not to do it:

 

[Guvnor]

Agreed. I think it's perfectly reasonable to desire some sort of stability in commitment, if you're pursing a serious relationship, before privileged gestures like that are dolled out in order to set the mutually beneficial tone of the relationship on the outset.

Otherwise, you run the risk of establishing a sugar daddy/baby relationship ie a transactional one where a woman's affection, time, and mere presence are used as commodities in which you are compensating her for with money, gifts, paying her way through life etc etc- Which is fine, if that's what you're after. But, I don't think that is the intentions of most brothers out in the mix

Much in the same way many women don't like to present certain privileges to men before they are presented with some sort of commitment from him, as to avoid setting the tone for a fukk buddy, fwb, or booty call relationship.

Agreed, it's about setting the right tone. You get it, I previously mentioned this in a thread I made in the salon and I thought maybe I was tripping based on the reception I received but glad you understand. I'm just using logic and reasoning and want a relationship that is mutually beneficial, that's all.

Bingo...take her to small cafe or something and if u 2 connect then u moved up to Apple Bee's

And then u move up from there..


Like women in that video they expecting $200 meals and they wearing $45 worth of clothing

Facts, got to make it a sliding scale. Can't be taking out 25 dollar thots to 350 dollar restaurants. They will embarrass you.

 

[Benefited]

It must be he way she presented herself. For the most part we can tell if a woman is date material or jumpoff material and we proceed accordingly

Lets not pretend most men are this wise. Majority of men will find value in pure trash that we want to fukk badly enough. So women shouldn't feel bad when men don't take them out,do the work,and spend on them. They need to just come to the realization that rather his reason are as shallow as her looks,a woman like her comes a dime a dozen to him.

Black women will start to have more succesful relationships once they begin to date down within their race. As of now,most black women are on the never ending rat race to "date up". Once you start dating men who are actually grateful to be with a woman like you,and to fukk a woman like you,then you will know what being treated like a queen feels like. Its why many swirlers speak so highly of their relationships.White men are treating black women like queens,because black women are dating so far beneath themselves when they cross over to the other side. Many of those pink trolls of course are doing what they can to keep you happy,because he's a 5 who lucked up and snagged a 8 who settled during a rough period

But those black women could easily do that within their own race and achieve the same results from black men who are 5's who are lucky to snag a 8. But I guess then you would just be a black woman dating a average/ugly black man. Instead of being a black woman fukking a ugly white man and being dubbed a "trailblazer"

 

[Wild self]

My ex man still pays my rent lol sis sit down

That's the King of the Simps. NY dudes be the biggest tricks SMH.

 

[Data-Hawk]

all she's basically saying is she dating the wrong type of brother. these sister have certain expectation that they expect when dating someone and it has not happen to their satisfaction. what's wrong here is putting it out that that nikkas are cheap when in actually were not, esp if we are dealing with someone we really like and see a future with

Naw she’s dating the right type. She’s dating on her level. We really need to move away from this “The female is innocent” and keep running Into the wrong type stuff.. you see how she casually talked about cheating as if she’s done it multiple times.. She’s dating the right guys for her.... lol

 

[Larry Lambo]

As long as women choose to f**k with men that don't spend money on them, men will not spend money on them.

I know some individual women have to suffer for what other women do, but thems the breaks.

Men have to deal with tricks, women have to deal with chicks giving up the ass for half of a blunt and some Funions. It is what it is.

 

[jackson35]

Naw she’s dating the right type. She’s dating on her level. We really need to move away from this “The female is innocent” and keep running Into the wrong type stuff.. you see how she casually talked about cheating as if she’s done it multiple times.. She’s dating the right guys for her.... lol

let's address your comments.A= if she's being asked out on a date and all a brother can offer is netflix and pizza, then he's not on any woman level. b= we are discussing proper dating traditions not whether women are innocence, one has nothing to do with the other.C when it comes to cheating men are the champ, if you can't admit that then you got issues.

 

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Subs

 

[acri1]

Another thing is men shouldn’t be asking women out on dates if they don’t plan to pay for the whole thing. After getting back on the dating scene tho I was surprised at how many women want to go dutch on a first date

Although I was planning to pay for the whole thing who am I to refuse?

Nah, it's better to go dutch on the first date IMO. If anything it helps weed out golddiggers. Now if you're trying trick or something do you.

I don't mind paying for dates after that sometimes, but I don't want to go in feeling like I'm being used for a free meal.

 

[mamba]

As long as women choose to f**k with men that don't spend money on them, men will not spend money on them.

I know some individual women have to suffer for what other women do, but thems the breaks.

Men have to deal with tricks, women have to deal with chicks giving up the ass for half of a blunt and some Funions. It is what it is.

This!

 

[Fandroid]

Damn, why you expose brehette like that. She seems kinda nice but has misunderstandings of some things.

Expose?

Her fomer username was literally @TheStripper.


Thecoli got memory loss? @PrimaDonna is also a transsexual. That's not an exposal, that's an open self-admitted truth.

The fukk is wrong with y'all?




I don't know none of you people. why should I be nice? You're all just avis and text to me.

Be e-simps, brehs.


You think @BlackPearl The Empress is your best friend or something?