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I don't know how to deal with this anymore. It's the stupidest, most frustrating, ridiculous shyt.
Long story short my husband has been in the habit of using a blowup doll for nearly a decade. We started dating when we were 22. It was my second relationship, his first, so we were both coming from a background of not much experience. I think that plays a role in this, somehow.
TMI: I firmly believe this stupid plastic inflatable thing is the reason why our sex life has been lacklustre for the past few years. He's usually not interested in sex, but will pump away into this thing several times a week
. Our arguments and me straight up begging him to get rid of it hasn't worked. Even me trying to calmly reason, try to understand, and compromise hasn't worked.
He compared it to my teddy bear. Okay...I don't fukk my teddy bear. And if that teddy bear was for some unholy reason causing a problem with sex or in the relationship for my husband, I would absolutely be willing to give it up. Maybe I'd have some trouble falling asleep at first but so what, I'd adjust. I've actually asked him, does it bother him that I still sleep with a childhood attachment toy and he said no. This comparison was completely unequal to me.
He never planned to tell me about it either. I only found out by accident about a year ago. Since then, ever since I connected that this is why he's uninterested in anything more than chaste kissing with me, I've been growing resentful. I'm tired of feeling like I have to compete for his attention with a piece of plastic. To top it off, as I mentioned a little bit earlier in my post, our sex life is down to once or twice a month… It’s embarrassing.
Has anyone been through anything like this? Doubtful but you never know. How do I get him to see why I'm not satisfied? To be clear, I love him with all my heart apart from this hangup. I want to be intimate with the man I love and am married to. He has tried to cut back on his use of the blowup doll but after a week or two it always slips back to how it was. I don't want to keep having the same conversation over and over. What should I do?
tl;dr: My husband's blowup doll is usually his preference sexually speaking. I'm not satisfied and he hasn't been able so far to change. I suggest throwing it out cold turkey, he either refuses or secretly buys another. What can I do?
I don't know how to deal with this anymore. It's the stupidest, most frustrating, ridiculous shyt.
Long story short my husband has been in the habit of using a blowup doll for nearly a decade. We started dating when we were 22. It was my second relationship, his first, so we were both coming from a background of not much experience. I think that plays a role in this, somehow.
TMI: I firmly believe this stupid plastic inflatable thing is the reason why our sex life has been lacklustre for the past few years. He's usually not interested in sex, but will pump away into this thing several times a week
. Our arguments and me straight up begging him to get rid of it hasn't worked. Even me trying to calmly reason, try to understand, and compromise hasn't worked.He compared it to my teddy bear. Okay...I don't fukk my teddy bear
. And if that teddy bear was for some unholy reason causing a problem with sex or in the relationship for my husband, I would absolutely be willing to give it up. Maybe I'd have some trouble falling asleep at first but so what, I'd adjust. I've actually asked him, does it bother him that I still sleep with a childhood attachment toy and he said no. This comparison was completely unequal to me.He never planned to tell me about it either. I only found out by accident about a year ago
. Since then, ever since I connected that this is why he's uninterested in anything more than chaste kissing with me, I've been growing resentful. I'm tired of feeling like I have to compete for his attention with a piece of plastic. To top it off, as I mentioned a little bit earlier in my post, our sex life is down to once or twice a month… It’s embarrassing.Has anyone been through anything like this? Doubtful but you never know. How do I get him to see why I'm not satisfied? To be clear, I love him with all my heart apart from this hangup. I want to be intimate with the man I love and am married to. He has tried to cut back on his use of the blowup doll but after a week or two it always slips back to how it was
. I don't want to keep having the same conversation over and over. What should I do?tl;dr: My husband's blowup doll is usually his preference sexually speaking. I'm not satisfied and he hasn't been able so far to change. I suggest throwing it out cold turkey, he either refuses or secretly buys another. What can I do?
