Brehs\ Brehettes i need advice

[Spuffy]

So im "seeing" this guy. He's very nice attentive, affectionate. The whole nine. He's given me no reason to assume he doesn't like me. He tells me how special i am and how he smiles inside and out when im aound.
The problem is i think i like him too much. I compulsively check my phone if he's texted me back. Earlier today i texted him that i missed him. He didn't answer at all and thats when i freaked out and assumed he was annoyed by the text or must have been lying about the way he feels about me. So a couple hours after that, he accidentally pocket dials me. I call him back and he tells me it was an accident. I tell him ok and i said yeah i texted you. Je says yeah i saw it and that he had to go. So thats when things go from bad to worse in my head.
Its all i could think about at work. Like why didnt he say he missed me too or something? So this brings us to a couple hours ago when i texted him hi and he didnt answer AGAIN!! I spent 20 minutes crying in the bathroom. I feel absolutely crazy because i know this is my problem.
So the finale text i sent was telling him to tell me if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore just tell me. He immediately called and asked what that text was about and of course he wanted to continue. He told me he just spent the last 24 hrs helping out a friend and he didnt mean for me to feel ignored.
I played it pretty cool saying i worded the text badly. I just really like him and when i like a guy i cant help getting crazy like this. I also knew all about the friend but i keep doing this. I dont even know what kind of advice im looking for or need.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

He felt good about having you wrapped around his finger so he stepped back a bit so you could grovel. When you hit him with the "lmk if you need me to bounce?" he realized he was doing too much distancing and has to being you back in the fold a little. LOL You can expect a lot more of this.

How long have yall been "seeing" each other?

Forgot to add but he can likely sense your neediness as well. I usually ignore chics like this because it gets annoying, not enough for me to cut them off but enough for me to distance myself just like he did

Go a week without hitting him up and see how he changes.

 

[Tunez]

So this brings us to a couple hours ago when i texted him hi and he didnt answer AGAIN!! I spent 20 minutes crying in the bathroom.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Negged.

 

[Spuffy]

He felt good about having you wrapped around his finger so he stepped back a bit so you could grovel. When you hit him with the "lmk if you need me to bounce?" he realized he was doing too much distancing and has to being you back in the fold a little. LOL You can expect a lot more of this.

How long have yall been "seeing" each other?

Forgot to add but he can likely sense your neediness as well. I usually ignore chics like this because it gets annoying, not enough for me to cut them off but enough for me to distance myself just like he did

Go a week without hitting him up and see how he changes.

He doesnt seem like the type to play games. But ill see. It even annoys me how needy and sensitive i am. We've been "seeing each other for almost a month. I wouldnt say he's needy but he's something like it. Hes just more mature than i am.

 

[Spuffy]

Are you kidding? i want to bush myself for that

 

[Spuffy]

Negged.

Yes im pathetic.

 

[BigMan]

i feel like none of this happened.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

So im "seeing" this guy. He's very nice attentive, affectionate. The whole nine. He's given me no reason to assume he doesn't like me. He tells me how special i am and how he smiles inside and out when im aound.
The problem is i think i like him too much. I compulsively check my phone if he's texted me back. Earlier today i texted him that i missed him. He didn't answer at all and thats when i freaked out and assumed he was annoyed by the text or must have been lying about the way he feels about me. So a couple hours after that, he accidentally pocket dials me. I call him back and he tells me it was an accident. I tell him ok and i said yeah i texted you. Je says yeah i saw it and that he had to go. So thats when things go from bad to worse in my head.
Its all i could think about at work. Like why didnt he say he missed me too or something? So this brings us to a couple hours ago when i texted him hi and he didnt answer AGAIN!! I spent 20 minutes crying in the bathroom. I feel absolutely crazy because i know this is my problem.
So the finale text i sent was telling him to tell me if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore just tell me. He immediately called and asked what that text was about and of course he wanted to continue. He told me he just spent the last 24 hrs helping out a friend and he didnt mean for me to feel ignored.
I played it pretty cool saying i worded the text badly. I just really like him and when i like a guy i cant help getting crazy like this. I also knew all about the friend but i keep doing this. I dont even know what kind of advice im looking for or need.

Brehette... .

shyt like this is why social media has ruined relationships. We get addicted to the instant gratification of being all-the-time connected to someone, and when that connection doesn't suffice, we start acting crazy and we assume the worst.

On one hand, I'm jealous that you're having this level of infatuation / happiness. I haven't felt that way in a long time.
On the other hand, you're gonna fukk this up badly if you don't chill out and let it grow organically.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

He felt good about having you wrapped around his finger so he stepped back a bit so you could grovel. When you hit him with the "lmk if you need me to bounce?" he realized he was doing too much distancing and has to being you back in the fold a little. LOL You can expect a lot more of this.

How long have yall been "seeing" each other?

Forgot to add but he can likely sense your neediness as well. I usually ignore chics like this because it gets annoying, not enough for me to cut them off but enough for me to distance myself just like he did

This is good advice. I do this too if a girl starts diggin her claws in too much too fast.

Go a week without hitting him up and see how he changes.

This is bad advice. You should just tell him that you're a little head-over-heels at the moment and feel him out. If he feels the same way and was just playing it cool, then good. If he doesn't feel the same way, well that'll sting a bit but at least you won't be wasting your time.

 

[Spuffy]

i feel like none of this happened.

It did and im not proud

 

[Spuffy]

Brehette... .

shyt like this is why social media has ruined relationships. We get addicted to the instant gratification of being all-the-time connected to someone, and when that connection doesn't suffice, we start acting crazy and we assume the worst.

On one hand, I'm jealous that you're having this level of infatuation / happiness. I haven't felt that way in a long time.
On the other hand, you're gonna fukk this up badly if you don't chill out and let it grow organically.

Thank you so much for the thoughtful response.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Thank you so much for the thoughtful response.

Next time you feel some shyt like that coming on... stop.

Take a deep breath.

Call one of your dude friends. Let him talk you down. Do NOT call a female friend.

It be aight. Good luck.

 

[Spuffy]

Next time you feel some shyt like that coming on... stop.

Take a deep breath.

Call one of your dude friends. Let him talk you down. Do NOT call a female friend.

It be aight. Good luck.

He was my only male friend lol

 

[Tunez]

Are you kidding? i want to bush myself for that