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You do realize that whatever problem you claim to have is one you can easily solve, right?

First, you should never like someone so much that it consumes so much of your time, energy and mind! What exactly has he done to you and/or for you to like him that much?

Next, never text someone again without them returning your initial text. You are simply too emotionally invested in someone you are “seeing” which says to me that you two are not in a committed relationship. Smh

Just fall back some and let the guy chase you. Get your mind right and stop acting needy, insecure and clingy. Lastly, find out where y’all stand with each other and either make things official or CHTTG and keep it movin’! Might as well, since you going through love pains and belly aches over this dude.
 

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Ok, well maybe that's the problem?

Mind if I ask how old you are and how many years of dating experience you have?

Also, would you say this dude is "out of your league"?
Ugh im too old to be acting this way. Im embarassed to answer. And not much dating experience at all. No i wouldnt say hes out of my legue. I think he's really cute though.
 

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You do realize that whatever problem you claim to have is one you can easily solve, right?

First, you should never like someone so much that it consumes so much of your time, energy and mind! What exactly has he done to you and/or for you to like him that much?

Next, never text someone again without them returning your initial text. You are simply too emotionally invested in someone you are “seeing” which says to me that you two are not in a committed relationship. Smh

Just fall back some and let the guy chase you. Get your mind right and stop acting needy, insecure and clingy. Lastly, find out where y’all stand with each other and either make things official or CHTTG and keep it movin’! Might as well, since you going through love pains and belly aches over this dude.
We've spoken about our status before. He's a veteren with some bad emotional issues. He said he wants to take things slow because of it.
He hasnt done anything for me really for me to feel this way. Just makes.me.feel special. I just love being around him. Ugh i know about texting too much. Im just a dope who cant help it. But ill try.
 

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We've spoken about our status before. He's a veteren with some bad emotional issues. He said he wants to take things slow because of it.
He hasnt done anything for me really for me to feel this way. Just makes.me.feel special. I just love being around him. Ugh i know about texting too much. Im just a dope who cant help it. But ill try.

I understand that the feeling of being wanted, desired, etc is quite intoxicating, especially if you have not had much of this feeling during your romantic tenure..

But, my main concern with you is how emotional you become when you don’t hear from him right away. You have to preoccupy your time with other things!

You can’t invest all of your time on one person and not have balance in your life. I am sure you got a family, friends, hobbies, a job, etc.. Your guy has friends, family, etc and he is balancing his life. So, start balancing your life that way you have a better chance of securing a relationship with this guy.

Lastly, let this guy have some space and he will respond to your liking in due time, otherwise you will run him away.

Good luck!
 

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You are just infatuated and excited to be with him.
All the insecurity is in your head, calm down and find other things to do. Especially things you enjoy, it will go from a distraction to a mindset change where you are able to occupy yourself without his attention. That goes for any future dudes you may encounter, learning to be independent of their attention is a good idea.

You sound inexperienced, relative to him anyways.

Why are you asking us? You should go to the Salon subforum (no sexism), the ladies will probably have better advice for you.
 

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Next time you feel some shyt like that coming on... stop. :stop:

Take a deep breath.

Call one of your dude friends. Let him talk you down. Do NOT call a female friend.

It be aight. Good luck. :tu:
Lol. Why shouldn't she speak to any female friends?

Male friends are liable to plot.
 
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