Brehs, How Do You Play It While Dating Possibly The One?

[Address_Unknown]

If you think she the one, then you shouldn't even think on entertaining more women 'cause you should be going all out to NOT fukk this up. However, if you think she the one but still want to have sidechicks and a roster, she ain't "The one", she just "one more". Now I'd be lying if I said that it would be easy to just lock into this one female, knowing full well you can get trim and hunt for it while ya dikk (and heart) in drydock, but this supposed to be the be all, end all chick, right? The one you really trying to settle down and hopefully build with? Ya gotta play the game right for fear of losing her to bullshyt, so man up and show some discipline.

Spend as much time with her as you can without trying to smother her and see if she really holding true to them qualities you see in her that makes you want to cuff her. Personally, I can stop sniffing around other chicks if I know that I'm in the progress of working my way up to smash a chick I'm really into on some courting shyt.

Postscript:- Also, find out what she doing too, breh. You may be all shacked up, thinking things going elsewhere and she got you as another iron in the fire amongst many other fukkin' metal pieces...that shyt's harsh.

 

[SubZero]

Play the shyt right. I've already lost a couple good girls to my fukk ups and always wanting other women around me.

Gotta a really good girl with a great personality/character now. Not even worried about other women, shyt not even worth it. Tryna be a trustworthy dude now.

You lost good chicks too? I lost a few, breh.

That shyt isn't worth it, especially when you hurt their feelings. We always think people are replaceable but not everyone is. You might live a lifetime without being able to replace certain people cuz we're all unique in our own different ways and that's something I've learned as I grow.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

So, they've only known each other for two weeks, yes? Why's he in a rush and how does he know she's the one for him? I thought they've known each other for time.

Women are very pretentious and two weeks is a very short time to know a woman. You can be around a woman for 2 years and not know who she truly is. Your boy needs to give it time, take it slow, and move at her pace. He might end up putting her off by breathing down her neck too tough.

But if his instinct is telling him she's the one - he can still play it while getting to know her and moving at her pace cuz it's better that way so as not to get too attached for now. And probably do something that gives the "desperate" energy. A lot of chicks don't like that. He should just be himself and do his thing. Don't force things.

That's the confusing part in grand scheme. She's working, active in her kid's life (baseball) and still makes time to kick it and converse. Haven't fukked, though. So, he's apprehensive on putting all his eggs in one basket then it falls through. She told him she sees it evolving just a little more time and doesn't want to rush it.

He's just not assured from past experiences.

 

[Diondon]

Let her know directly that you want that. You NEED that.

 

[Tombstone]

You lost good chicks too? I lost a few, breh.

That shyt isn't worth it, especially when you hurt their feelings. We always think people are replaceable but not everyone is. You might live a lifetime without being able to replace certain people cuz we're all unique in our own different ways and that's something I've learned as I grow.

Yeah especially when you have ones you genuinely get along with and have that connection.

 

[iBrowse]

I was going to say continue to see other women. It's not a good feeling to be certain that she is The One while she is
apprehensive. But then I thought about it - It depends on how active, attentive, engaged and consistent she is during this getting-to-know-you phase...and if she is entertaining other guys.
Either way, it's not good to let someone drag you or treat you like an option if you're offering them commitment.

So, if she's doing things right then cut contact with the other chicks so you won't have to deal with that when you seriously link up with The One. It can be a mess when you don't.

Pretty much. They should also have a candid conversation about whether or not they are respectively talking to others as well, don't assume shyt.

 

[iBrowse]

Postscript:- Also, find out what she doing too, breh. You may be all shacked up, thinking things going elsewhere and she got you as another iron in the fire amongst many other fukkin' metal pieces...that shyt's harsh.

Yup.

 

[NoChillJones]

What's a man to do with himself while he's dating a woman he wants to be serious with? It's premature totally but he feels she's the one like never before. Said woman wants to give things more time before going up a level understandably.

Do he still entertain other women? Freak off other women during this getting to know her/him period, etc. Is it an euphemism for not being deeply interested?

My friend needs to know.

Give himself a time line, give the woman what she needs, in the mean time do see other women, If after that time frame the woman still keeps wasting time, then move on.

 

[Jahmal]

Get Married Brehs

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Give himself a time line, give the woman what she needs, in the mean time do see other women, If after that time frame the woman still keeps wasting time, then move on.

She said like a month or so. He brought it up.

 

[SubZero]

That's the confusing part in grand scheme. She's working, active in her kid's life (baseball) and still makes time to kick it and converse. Haven't fukked, though. So, he's apprehensive on putting all his eggs in one basket then it falls through. She told him she sees it evolving just a little more time and doesn't want to rush it.

He's just not assured from past experiences.

I've an older cousin that had something similar to the twist you added to it. He met the chick when he went to work briefly as a consultant with another company. She's a single mom and he has been in a relationship with another chick for about 11 years. But the relationship has become redundant and has reached an impasse (with no progress) cuz the chick is a career woman and, she neither wants to get married nor have kids. She just enjoys his company and they fukk cuz they're used to each other. All he had to do was show the new one that he's for real and he cares, by breaking up with the old flame.

I think since she cares enough to make time out for him (most single mums don't have time, especially when they work as well), she's probably interested and wants to see if he's for real. There's a reason why she's a single mum and once you're in that space, you don't really want to make the same mistake twice. Hence she's probably being cautious. Your boy just needs to move at her pace, and show her that he cares and different from people in her past - albeit he doesn't need to force things. If he can act like a father figure to her kid and the kid likes him - that'll be a plus. He can just lock in for like 2-3 months and stay away from other chicks, to see how it pans out (2-3 months isn't that long). However, he shouldn't get too emotionally attached - just companionship.

 

[SubZero]

Yeah especially when you have ones you genuinely get along with and have that connection.

True that.

Connection is the most difficult thing to establish. Finding someone who understands you and can be on the same page with you, is a blessing.

And when you get loyalty with it as well - that's a keeper.

 

[Tombstone]

True that.

Connection is the most difficult thing to establish. Finding someone who understands you and can be on the same page with you, is a blessing.

And when you get loyalty with it as well - that's a keeper.

I got that now. Ima be a good nikka for once and do it the right way.

 

[NoChillJones]

She said like a month or so. He brought it up.

To hit? Or just get serious. What is she waiting on? If you dating you dating. Or is she just talking before they start claiming each other

 

[VFib]

She said like a month or so. He brought it up.

A month sounds like a reasonable time, especially since she has a child. I wouldn't agree to a commitment after 2 weeks, but if we were on the same page I'd agree to not seeing other people while we focused on getting to know each other better.