Breh you only been single for two months.. fukk that go enjoy life
Brehs I’m Going Through It
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southern.girl
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This was not going to work. How you start is how you finish. A good biblical example is David, who definitely did have a life of favor in ruling & wealth, but is family life was absolutely sh!t after Bathsheba. A lot of people miss that part.
I’m early 30s and single single for the first time. I gave my life to God so in moments of loneliness, I can’t escape it by indulging in debauchery at a strip club. I live 20 miles away from most of my family so I really be alone a lot after work.
I’m a creative so I work off inspiration.
I broke up with my ex in June and she moved out in July. We linked up recently and frolicked around and kissed after having lunch. That lunch we disclosed that we are talking to other people. She’s dating and playing the field and I’m not currently talking to the woman I was talking to so I’m in a vulnerable state.
I am not GMB plus I want another child. My only child is a teen so he’s growing into himself. I went back to the Tinder and Hinge but Idc for the online dating thing anymore. Just don’t. I’m a grad student that’s already behind on some assignments so I don’t go out unless it’s to the gym.
I just don’t want to be alone anymore and want a quality woman I find attractive that has a similar mindset of growing and building.
Anyone who knows me on here, knows I’ve lived a full life so I’m ready for someone with substance.
It’s like women of today are either broken or broke and most cases both. I can only be with a sister and Tinder keeps giving me anglos and latinas and I don’t want them chicks. I pray on it but.
My love for God and Jesus won’t waiver in this time of despair. Likely pulling me closer.
Real talk, you may want to continue your chill on the women. You on your true purpose in school and headed into greatness. I say you probably need companionship now moreso than a full blown relationship.
Go out to some wholesome events like wine and painting, wine tasting, maybe salsa dancing, church (can be good women there too) or go hit up some of the more chill and relaxed spots like parks, and jazz or something.
I was like you a few years ago. Also try and cultivate your interpersonal relationship with you, your teen and other family. Stop sharing with the ex too. Tell her you doing fine now, without her ass. Don't even entertain getting back with that unless you feel she was the connection to you that YOU needed.
Lastly, take your time. No rush. Find your own true purpose for anything else such as making a plan to be with a true queen and leave these gutter rat bytches to the game. Just my thoughts bro, good luck!
Bingo! Companionship! Thanks. That’s the word. I don’t need or really desire a gf but I just want a single single woman to just kick it with time to time.
I forgot that part. Find someone sincere and share your pain if you can. Can be a friend, mentor or confidant. Not an ex though
Definitely no to various women and casual sex but like the breh @Abraxus said a companion that is in similar place, set boundaries, and vibe time to time.
A relationship can be thought of as a team project..
And a ,team project,c,
That can be like getting into a rowboat with people and crossing a river safely
You probably don't want to team up with noobs who have no track record
They might be like kordell Stewart.. aka Slash
soon aswater gets choppy, they cry their eyes out and want someone to give them unconditional love and unlimited emotional support
What's worse than drowning?? having to listen to a whiney crybaby while you drown
Would you blame someone who doesn't want kordell Stewart for a teammate??
I'd rather be out there with a guy who has 3 int's and can't throw a spiral..
But is still trying to win
At least he is predictable (won't quit)
And I don't know you..
But you seem passive to the extreme
You give your life to God.. passive activity
You sit there being preached to about what to do..
You need an external source of inspiration.. again, that's passive
You get lectured at school, etc
I mean, by 30's you should be dictating at least some things
Forcing yourself on the environment,, instead of being all the way passive
Again, I could be wrong.. I don't know you
But anyone would be reluctant to get in a rowboat with someone who has no track record of action
Even failed action can garner more confidence than a blank passive page
And that's not to say we all aren't passive at least a portion of the time
Like posting to a message board is hella passive .. so I'm being passive right now etc
But I'm not passive all the time!
A relationship is an active undertaking.. and at age 30+
you need a demonstrated history of doing other active undertakings for someone to take a chance on you
And a ,team project,c,
That can be like getting into a rowboat with people and crossing a river safely
You probably don't want to team up with noobs who have no track record
They might be like kordell Stewart.. aka Slash
soon aswater gets choppy, they cry their eyes out and want someone to give them unconditional love and unlimited emotional support
What's worse than drowning?? having to listen to a whiney crybaby while you drown
Would you blame someone who doesn't want kordell Stewart for a teammate??I'd rather be out there with a guy who has 3 int's and can't throw a spiral..
But is still trying to win
At least he is predictable (won't quit)
And I don't know you..
But you seem passive to the extreme
You give your life to God.. passive activity
You sit there being preached to about what to do..
You need an external source of inspiration.. again, that's passive
You get lectured at school, etc
I mean, by 30's you should be dictating at least some things
Forcing yourself on the environment,, instead of being all the way passive
Again, I could be wrong.. I don't know you
But anyone would be reluctant to get in a rowboat with someone who has no track record of action
Even failed action can garner more confidence than a blank passive page
And that's not to say we all aren't passive at least a portion of the time
Like posting to a message board is hella passive .. so I'm being passive right now etc
But I'm not passive all the time!
A relationship is an active undertaking.. and at age 30+
you need a demonstrated history of doing other active undertakings for someone to take a chance on you
A PIMP NAMED SLICKBACK would describe you have as bytch dependency
you place too much of your own value and self worth in the relationship you have with a women. You may have given your soul over to God but your ass belongs to those women and until you do some about it you're going to go through this. you need to stop trying to look for the next relationship and instead focus on you and make sure that you're happy by yourself . it doesn't matter what woman you feel that shyt is not going to make you complete
you place too much of your own value and self worth in the relationship you have with a women. You may have given your soul over to God but your ass belongs to those women and until you do some about it you're going to go through this. you need to stop trying to look for the next relationship and instead focus on you and make sure that you're happy by yourself . it doesn't matter what woman you feel that shyt is not going to make you complete
Well, I’m a filmmaker whose film has screened nationally, my grad program is online so it’s definitely self-motivation and not lecture. I got myself to start working out because I wanted to look a certain way. I’m so much of an internal person plus that’s how I was raised. Alone in a crowd, I seek outward. In relationships, I was never clingy and required space. Like breh said, I just need and I, personally, like companionship.A relationship can be thought of as a team project..
And a ,team project,c,
That can be like getting into a rowboat with people and crossing a river safely
You probably don't want to team up with noobs who have no track record
They might be like kordell Stewart.. aka Slash
soon aswater gets choppy, they cry their eyes out and want someone to give them unconditional love and unlimited emotional support
What's worse than drowning?? having to listen to a whiney crybaby while you drown
I'd rather be out there with a guy who has 3 int's and can't throw a spiral..
But is still trying to win
At least he is predictable (won't quit)
And I don't know you..
But you seem passive to the extreme
You give your life to God.. passive activity
You sit there being preached to about what to do..
You need an external source of inspiration.. again, that's passive
You get lectured at school, etc
I mean, by 30's you should be dictating at least some things
Forcing yourself on the environment,, instead of being all the way passive
Again, I could be wrong.. I don't know you
But anyone would be reluctant to get in a rowboat with someone who has no track record of action
Even failed action can garner more confidence than a blank passive page
And that's not to say we all aren't passive at least a portion of the time
Like posting to a message board is hella passive .. so I'm being passive right now etc
But I'm not passive all the time!
A relationship is an active undertaking.. and at age 30+
If I want to do anything, I just do it. Problem is I don’t want to do anything right now but still require some woman energy.
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You all are right. Heck! Even the women I’ve talked to especially the one I was talking to is right. I am going about this phase much differently without any chicks all throughout and being patient. Patience is what I need. I don’t depend or need relationship and as I read the comments, I better analyze myself.
I just want companionship every now and then. I’m not seeking a full on relationship but a genuine friend that’s attractive but not trying to have sex. Plus, I don’t go out right now. I will but not na.
I can speak on it because I've been going through it myself
Only difference between you and me is I only want female friends that want to fukk
Both of us are focused on the wrong thing
Yo family lives 20 miles away 
U state that like that is another country
U could literally see them everyday
U sound soft as fukk
Gah damm
Man the fukk up
U talking bout women today broken
U sound like a broken female yaself
Why all yall dudes so soft
U state that like that is another country
U could literally see them everyday
U sound soft as fukk
Gah damm
Man the fukk up
U talking bout women today broken
U sound like a broken female yaself
Why all yall dudes so soft
Rev Leon Lonnie Love
damned mine eyes, DAMNED mine eyes!!
1 star for being clingy and desperate
You even went dumpster diving on Tinder and Hinge
just learn to be by yourself and get some p*ssy where needed. Stop bytching about finding a woman like she gon bring somthing worthwhile in your life.
spend this time focusing on those assignments and solidify your career instead of trying to be a @Typical Simp . Draw up a to-do list, Contact some friends and make some memories.
Tighten up nikka, and stop being emotional!
You even went dumpster diving on Tinder and Hinge
just learn to be by yourself and get some p*ssy where needed. Stop bytching about finding a woman like she gon bring somthing worthwhile in your life.
spend this time focusing on those assignments and solidify your career instead of trying to be a @Typical Simp . Draw up a to-do list, Contact some friends and make some memories.
Tighten up nikka, and stop being emotional!