Brehs with Baby Mamas - How you feel about another man tucking in your child at night?

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I think y'all assume way too much. It's 2023, unless they're like an 8+, alot of them begging for somebody to text them, let alone tuck them in.

Ya'll from the 1980s or something? Alot of brehs on here have them in the real friendzone, no smash, even some brehs with kids themselves.

Your kids gonna have emotional issues FR :picard:



hope your insurance covers therapy :francis:
 

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ive wondered that.

some kids really get attached to you.
father comes to pick them up and the kid wont leave your side.

this one shorty would say "I like you more than my real dad"

I dont even know how to respond to shyt like that

Blood or no blood; Children are always looking for a role model. Hopefully they find it in the right 1. Can easily be lead toward the light or darkness FR :mjcry:
 

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Yeah that "I wish you were my dad" declaration kinda shines you but if he's decent you're supposed to big him up to them.

I told one chick that her daughter said that to me n she went off on me as if it's my fault kids think I'm awesome.

:francis: :childplease:

Not my problem you got seeded up by Mediocre Man.
yeah thats basically what I do.

I think kids sometimes interpret discipline from their father as being "too rough" because moms are generally push overs.
and the mothers will over react when the kid tells them what their father did.

so the kid ends up playing the parents against each other.
 

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There are some single mothers out there that have fully active, responsible fathers in their childrens lives.

I havent been with their father for over 3 years and they have never had a man Iv been dating in thier home, having sleep overs in their personal space. They met 1 man that I dated for a year without even knowing we were dating.
And on thier fathers end the only partner they have met from him is the mother to their older siblings.

Not all 'blended families' are traumatic.

This is what I wish I had...

My two oldest kids' mom and I, "broke up" in July 2019. But we lived together until March 2020, and in that 8-month span we still had some intimacy. Not a lot, but there were obvious feelings still lingering and we still did things together...

In December 2019 she asked me if I was okay if we started seeing other people. In hindsight if yall "broke up" in July, you wouldn't ask for permission to see other people in December, but like I said there was still involvement with us...

In January 2020, she started seeing this guy. Told me when she did, but started missing days at home. I thought I could handle it. I couldn't. And our actual BREAK-UP, when I moved out, was March 2020...

That guy is now her fiance since January, corny nikka proposed on their 3-year anniversary 😆. Nah I'm clowning, as far as I can tell he's a decent dude, I have some slight issues with things he's done but my daughters love him. She introduced my girls to him quite early, like by March he'd already met them unbeknownst to me at the time, which was uncomfortable. But 3 years later it's still that same guy, not a revolving door of men around them, and that means something...

The girls have met two women I've dated since their mom and I separated 3 years ago, one chick it wasn't even serious with, and the woman who became my second baby mama. And in hindsight I introduced them too soon in both cases...

My youngest girl's mom and I started dating Thanksgiving 2020. I met her kids a month later, at Christmas. My ex and I had a verbal breakup beginning December 29 just past, but we kept some shyt open until yesterday. I view March 2023 as when we've officially broken up. She's had another man in the home with them since right around February 1 (maybe off a day or two either way), and I have no clue when they met him but it's a large chance it was prior to February 1...

We "broke up" December 29. February 1 she moves another man in. That's too soon to me, that man is around my daughter in basically a month...

My second BM has a pattern though. I met her kids like 2 weeks after she put her previous guy out Christmas 2020. Started kicking it with her bit I didn't move in until July 2021. I left out April 2022...

Her sons are 6 and 7. The guy who is around now, is now the FIFTH guy who has been around them, that I know of. In 6 and 7 years. Could be more but I know 5 for sure---->her baby daddy; she and her high school sweetheart tried to rekindle the old flame after the relationship with baby daddy ended; the guy before me; me; and now the brother who moved in on February 1...

That's alot. Our daughter is only 18 months and she's already brought a second man around her, that's two guys in less than two years...

I question her judgement and decision making for alota reasons, this is one of them. Five guys by her sons' 6th and 7th years of life...

For me, I'm going to be very cautious with who I bring to the girls going forward. Granted the relationship with me and their sister's mom lasted over 2 years but the next woman I introduce to either of my 3 girls, I'm going to make sure she has staying power...
 

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This is what I wish I had...

My two oldest kids' mom and I, "broke up" in July 2019. But we lived together until March 2020, and in that 8-month span we still had some intimacy. Not a lot, but there were obvious feelings still lingering and we still did things together...

In December 2019 she asked me if I was okay if we started seeing other people. In hindsight if yall "broke up" in July, you wouldn't ask for permission to see other people in December, but like I said there was still involvement with us...

In January 2020, she started seeing this guy. Told me when she did, but started missing days at home. I thought I could handle it. I couldn't. And our actual BREAK-UP, when I moved out, was March 2020...

That guy is now her fiance since January, corny nikka proposed on their 3-year anniversary 😆. Nah I'm clowning, as far as I can tell he's a decent dude, I have some slight issues with things he's done but my daughters love him. She introduced my girls to him quite early, like by March he'd already met them unbeknownst to me at the time, which was uncomfortable. But 3 years later it's still that same guy, not a revolving door of men around them, and that means something...

The girls have met two women I've dated since their mom and I separated 3 years ago, one chick it wasn't even serious with, and the woman who became my second baby mama. And in hindsight I introduced them too soon in both cases...

My youngest girl's mom and I started dating Thanksgiving 2020. I met her kids a month later, at Christmas. My ex and I had a verbal breakup beginning December 29 just past, but we kept some shyt open until yesterday. I view March 2023 as when we've officially broken up. She's had another man in the home with them since right around February 1 (maybe off a day or two either way), and I have no clue when they met him but it's a large chance it was prior to February 1...

We "broke up" December 29. February 1 she moves another man in. That's too soon to me, that man is around my daughter in basically a month...

My second BM has a pattern though. I met her kids like 2 weeks after she put her previous guy out Christmas 2020. Started kicking it with her bit I didn't move in until July 2021. I left out April 2022...

Her sons are 6 and 7. The guy who is around now, is now the FIFTH guy who has been around them, that I know of. In 6 and 7 years. Could be more but I know 5 for sure---->her baby daddy; she and her high school sweetheart tried to rekindle the old flame after the relationship with baby daddy ended; the guy before me; me; and now the brother who moved in on February 1...

That's alot. Our daughter is only 18 months and she's already brought a second man around her, that's two guys in less than two years...

I question her judgement and decision making for alota reasons, this is one of them. Five guys by her sons' 6th and 7th years of life...

For me, I'm going to be very cautious with who I bring to the girls going forward. Granted the relationship with me and their sister's mom lasted over 2 years but the next woman I introduce to either of my 3 girls, I'm going to make sure she has staying power...


I respect that, you are right thought your ex does seem to have a pattern of moving very fast very soon. Some women may feel like if they attatch the man to their children he will feel more obligated 2 stay.
 

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I respect that, you are right thought your ex does seem to have a pattern of moving very fast very soon. Some women may feel like if they attatch the man to their children he will feel more obligated 2 stay.

With her, I think a weakness we share in common is attachment issues. Fear of being alone. She's never single for long. I mean in the last 7½ years I've only been in two relationships, and was single from about March thru November 2020, 8 months, and some people say I didn't allow myself to be single long enough...

But I've had two relationships dating back to November 2015, with an 8-month break in between. And people say I have a fear of being alone. But her? I don't know "exact" dates of course but her oldest son was born in September 2015, so just shortly before I started my relationship with first BM...

So that's ALL FIVE of us since her son was born, in the same span of time I've had two. Five that I know of in 7½ years. To your point, I do know she has a thing with attaching men to her kids, she once told me in an argument, that me and the three before me, all chose to be "temporary" men for her kids...

She also has stated she doesn't like dating men with kids because men with kids cant prioritize only her kids...

Her baby daddy has 4 other kids, so 6 total. Her high school sweetheart doesn't have kids but that didn't work out, according to her, because he couldnt reconcile being stepdaddy to two kids that weren't his own. The guy before me had a son of his own. I of course have 2 older kids and 3 total...

But this new guy, she hit her lotto. He's 34 with no kids. So there's no baby mama issues and there's no kids of his own that he has to prioritize with her kids, she loves this...

So she definitely plays up guys building relationships with her kids. And she gets attached easily...
 

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Dudes are fukking the shyt out of y'alls baby mommas, relationship or not. Really, even if y'all are still with them, sometimes. They don't have to be an 8 or any particular level of attractiveness. Don't delude yourself breh, I don't want you acting like Tyrese when you find out the truth.

I dont have a baby mama, just addressing the coli logic.

Y'all type some weird things sometimes. Not all of these women are being smashed as you all like to think. Alot have them health issues, sexual dysfunciton issues, the list goes on and on. And some live in places where hte kind of men they would let smash have more options unless there's a dry day.

But a thirsty breh like yourself would think that way. I get it.
 

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“Babydaddy” babble :mjlol:

Me and wifey dont have kids.... yet, but I'm just syaing not everybody thirsty like ya'll.

yeah if you slum it alot and will smash anything, like alot of you on here I can see how you develop that mentality.

if you have a well rounded view, then you know better.
 
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on the flipside... i fukk with women with kids n i aint never tucked them heaux in...

but they do ask questions about stuff they scared to talk their parents about...i tell em

one lil dude was gettin bullied...

i bought em
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a 3pack of carmex n a bandana

told em make a fist with the carmex..wrap the bandana around the fist..tight

slap em in the ear with the other and go for the nose with the carmex hand

he got detention and mom was mad.. but that husky muhfukka never fukked with em again

his dad was proud lol.. asked him where did he learn it .. he said mr wreck..


whenever i saw the nikka daddy again... he hit me with the proud miyagi...on some u cool ppl man...i tried to tell her he need to defend himself before it got out of hand..



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Your kids gonna have emotional issues FR :picard:



hope your insurance covers therapy :francis:

AS I mentioned, me and wifey dont have kids....yet.

Just calling thirsty brehs on coli logic.

I know alot of you specialize in bayby mamas because they're all you can get. So your only option is to tuck in other peoples children. I just pointing out ALOT of us dont have to deal with them.... it's called OPTIONS. But if you're desperate, you put alot of energy in to it, I get it.

I noticed alot of you who date them relay on the mothers for finanical support. It's the hobosexual specialty.
 
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