Broke up with wifey because she wanted to search my phone

[Colicat]

I really don't understand how you can't see the greater issue, it's a lack if trust, regardless of either parties past.

Did he overreact? Depends on whether this was discussed before

It boils down to not trusting your S/O

Adhering to her request to see your phone would only be the beginning

I hear ya.... I don't trust people so I have no problem running checks and balances...

if she has to cope with his bullshyt past, then he should try and cope with hers....

They have to meet in the middle.... based on his posts, I don't think she she has inquired before or does other things to question his loyalty.

I think her spidey senses went off and she is checking on her investment...

nothing wrong with checking right @Emperor_ReinScarf ?

 

[Yup]

I really don't understand how you can't see the greater issue, it's a lack if trust, regardless of either parties past.

Did he overreact? Depends on whether this was discussed before

It boils down to not trusting your S/O

Adhering to her request to see your phone would only be the beginning

Trust should be earned. The greater question as je earned it?

 

[DLo]

 

[onelastdeath]

How deep is your bond if that's all it takes for you to be gone?

 

[Joe Budden]

I hear ya.... I don't trust people so I have no problem running checks and balances...

if she has to cope with his bullshyt past, then he should try and cope with hers....

They have to meet in the middle.... based on his posts, I don't think she she has inquired before or does other things to question his loyalty.

I think her spidey senses went off and she is checking on her investment...

nothing wrong with checking right @Emperor_ReinScarf ?

 

[BulletProof]

That seems like more of a minor fight than an end all be all situation.

That shyt will pass.

 

[MikelArteta]

I hear ya.... I don't trust people so I have no problem running checks and balances...

if she has to cope with his bullshyt past, then he should try and cope with hers....

They have to meet in the middle.... based on his posts, I don't think she she has inquired before or does other things to question his loyalty.

I think her spidey senses went off and she is checking on her investment...

nothing wrong with checking right @Emperor_ReinScarf ?

yep there is nothing wrong with checking up on your investment

as the rapper cam'ron said
"accountant handles my money but i double check"

 

[Auger]

I hear ya.... I don't trust people so I have no problem...(snip)

Well of course a person with trust issues would not see the problem with someone else exhibiting trust issues.

 

[Auger]

Trust should be earned. The greater question as je earned it?

Earn? What the hell, who thinks like that?

Is either party supposed to be aware that currently earning the trust of their significant other?

 

[MikelArteta]

Well of course a person with trust issues would not see the problem with someone else exhibiting trust issues.

Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with the woman who lies in your embrace guard the words of your lips.

 

[Yup]

Earn? What the hell, who thinks like that?

Is either party supposed to be aware that currently earning the trust of their significant other?

Yes boo, has he earned her trust?

 

[Turbulent]

Well, communicate that issue.... and go through the rest of the phone with her .... they were in bed...could have ended with great sex and a few photos/video

i'm all for communication but honestly it would never stop. you show her the phone, she "finds" nothing and she trusts you again and you live happily ever after...i wish. she'll just keep on harassing you and nagging you, snooping around. i feel like a lot of times it's better to squash her feeling of entitlement to your privacy very early. i'd ask her why she suddenly feels that way, what changed, if i did something that made her doubt me and we can talk about that. but she's simply not going through my phone with my permission.

 

[Turbulent]

also, i'm not super tech savy but is there an app or something on smartphones that lets you login as a "guest" kind of like on Windows?

 

[Kane1]

Leave that chicken out there so other nicca can hit.

 

[Colicat]

i'm all for communication but honestly it would never stop. you show her the phone, she "finds" nothing and she trusts you again and you live happily ever after... it does.... especially if you have nothing to hide...


i wish. she'll just keep on harassing you and nagging you, snooping around. i feel like a lot of times it's better to squash her feeling of entitlement to your privacy very early. i'd ask her why she suddenly feels that way, what changed, if i did something that made her doubt me and we can talk about that. but she's simply not going through my phone with my permission.

I think he is giving her reasons to doubt him.... he said it himself that she never would ask before.... If you keep being shady... people will keep doubting your trustworthiness...

@skeetsinternal What suddenly changed?