(ThyBlackMan.com) OK, I need to rant for a minute. I just need to get this off my chest.
Sisters, I love you. God knows I do. But sometimes love includes criticism.
Personal pet peeve of mines: Im tired of these extra-average, baggage-laden sisters complaining about the supposed lack of good black men. If I hear that old tired line ONE more time, I swear
First off: sisters need to come back down to earth and lose that haughty spirit they carry. What about you is so special that good black men should even want to get at you? What things do you bring to the table that will enhance his life by him getting with you?
Sisters who are usually asked this question never can give a clear answer other than the usual: well hes getting a down female wholl have his back.
Really? You cant even stand by black men and have our backs in the public eye. How do we know youll honor him if you do manage to catch one?
And stop thinking that you are above criticism. Youre not.
For many years I watched black women dog out the brothers in every possible public forum known to man. They did it in songs, on radio shows, in TV interviews on ABC, CNN and even on Russian TV, in the movies, in the streets. Hell, they even dog us out at church! So guess what? Now its YOUR time under the spotlight of examination. Lets really get at the root to why so many of you supposed good sisters are without a mate.
Most of you dont have a good black man yet because youre not worthy of one. There, I said it. Hate me if you want, I really dont give a damn, because this needs to be said.
What makes you worthy of a good man? Because you have a nice butt a sexy body ? Or is it because you were born a diva? What qualities as a woman do you possess that men should find valuable enough to entice them to marry you? Im really curious!
Many of you are uncle Toms and sellouts, quick to go in front of white folks and throw brothers under the bus. Youll air your dirty laundry in front of the whole world, just to gain support in your hatred and disdain for black men. Which really is just a disdain for yourselves.
Youre not even aware of how sick this makes you look in the eyes of women of other races and nationalities. For example, I talk to sisters from Africa and the Caribbean all the time. And guess what? These women think you are highly disloyal, impossible to get along with and greatly deluded. They totally dont understand your way of thinking.
Youre quick to throw in our faces how successful you are, when most of you work average jobs just like we do. Theres nothing extra special about working an average job in an average industry. From the way many of you make it sound, one would think you worked as CEOs of billion dollar companies or something!
Stop thinking you are above the average black man when youre not.You work ordinary jobs, just like we do; pay taxes just like we do; pay bills just like we do. At best youre equal. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Youre quick to mention how independent you are, as if being independent is some badge of honor to wear. Maybe for an emancipated teenager it is. But it spells nothing but trouble for a brother whos in the know. Because relationships are a team sport. And nobody wants a ball-hogging player on their team always trying to steal the spotlight.
Ever heard this one before: I can do bad all by myself. Really? And why would you want to?! How silly is that line of reasoning? If two people were trapped in a ditch together, wouldnt it be easier to get out if the two worked together, than if one person was trying to get out on their own?
Statements like this just helps to point out the nonsensical views many sisters have about relationships.
Maybe the reason you cant find a good black man is because youre so used to dating down.
Perhaps if sisters were to stop dating the lowest common denominator type of brothers, they could actually position themselves to meet the decent ones.
Now theres a thought!
Hasnt anyone ever told you that in relationships you attract what you are. So if youre not attracting good brothers, what does that really say about you?
And dont give me nothing about how educated you are. Because theres plenty of highly educated brothers that most of yall just aint checking for. In many of your eyes theyre either too soft, or too corny, or not man enough to handle you. Dont you know that the only things in life that get handled are usually problems?
Why is it that all these educated brothers keep slipping under your radar? Because a well put together brother whos on his game will require you to step your game up to his level. And when it comes to relationships, many of you ladies are just plain lazy and comfortable with dealing with ratchet brothers. Real good brothers intimidate you.
Trust me when I say: if you were such a hot item, even dudes from other races would be snatching you off the market faster than you could blink. Because thats exactly what happens to the sisters who are on top of their game in every way: body, mind, career and spirit. They get snatched and wifed up quick.
But aha! Other races of men arent really getting at you like that either. Why is this? After all: by your own admission youre successful and beautiful and soooo independent. Either the world is blind to your value and worth or maybe, just maybe, youre not actually the hot catch you imagine yourself to be
Funny thing though: the successful black men (who are successful according to your low standard of success) arent having this problem. When you dont recognize them quick enough, women of other races move in swiftly to take a good brother off the market. While youre wasting precious time and years fooling with Tyrone from the block, Marquez from IBM just got married to an Asian chick. A fine one too.
And Im in no way advocating that black men should date outside their race or avoid sisters altogether. Its up to each person to decide individually who they want to date and interact with. But I am advocating putting some of these sisters out there on time out for a while until they get their minds right.From the experience of me and my circle of homeys, its not that there arent enough good brothers to go around: the reality is theres not a lot of good sisters to go around for the good brothers! Numerical wise there are more black women than black men. But the pickings are very slim by the time you subtract the number of sisters who are: carrying relationship baggage, those who hate their fathers and project it onto the next guy, those who occasionally lick the clit or who are juggling multiple dingalings, those who are too ghetto for even the hood to deal with, those who are too religious for even Jesus to deal with, those who are outright unsightly or morbidly obese, and those already in committed relationships Its time sisters turned off the TV set, put down those ghetto love books, and did some serious self-reflection. Step your damn game up! Or ten years from now, when someone refers to a lonely old cat-lady, the image they have in mind might be you
Rant Against The Extra-Average Black Woman. : ThyBlackMan.com
Sisters, I love you. God knows I do. But sometimes love includes criticism.
Personal pet peeve of mines: Im tired of these extra-average, baggage-laden sisters complaining about the supposed lack of good black men. If I hear that old tired line ONE more time, I swear
First off: sisters need to come back down to earth and lose that haughty spirit they carry. What about you is so special that good black men should even want to get at you? What things do you bring to the table that will enhance his life by him getting with you?
Sisters who are usually asked this question never can give a clear answer other than the usual: well hes getting a down female wholl have his back.
Really? You cant even stand by black men and have our backs in the public eye. How do we know youll honor him if you do manage to catch one?
And stop thinking that you are above criticism. Youre not.
For many years I watched black women dog out the brothers in every possible public forum known to man. They did it in songs, on radio shows, in TV interviews on ABC, CNN and even on Russian TV, in the movies, in the streets. Hell, they even dog us out at church! So guess what? Now its YOUR time under the spotlight of examination. Lets really get at the root to why so many of you supposed good sisters are without a mate.
Most of you dont have a good black man yet because youre not worthy of one. There, I said it. Hate me if you want, I really dont give a damn, because this needs to be said.
What makes you worthy of a good man? Because you have a nice butt a sexy body ? Or is it because you were born a diva? What qualities as a woman do you possess that men should find valuable enough to entice them to marry you? Im really curious!
Many of you are uncle Toms and sellouts, quick to go in front of white folks and throw brothers under the bus. Youll air your dirty laundry in front of the whole world, just to gain support in your hatred and disdain for black men. Which really is just a disdain for yourselves.
Youre not even aware of how sick this makes you look in the eyes of women of other races and nationalities. For example, I talk to sisters from Africa and the Caribbean all the time. And guess what? These women think you are highly disloyal, impossible to get along with and greatly deluded. They totally dont understand your way of thinking.
Youre quick to throw in our faces how successful you are, when most of you work average jobs just like we do. Theres nothing extra special about working an average job in an average industry. From the way many of you make it sound, one would think you worked as CEOs of billion dollar companies or something!
Stop thinking you are above the average black man when youre not.You work ordinary jobs, just like we do; pay taxes just like we do; pay bills just like we do. At best youre equal. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Youre quick to mention how independent you are, as if being independent is some badge of honor to wear. Maybe for an emancipated teenager it is. But it spells nothing but trouble for a brother whos in the know. Because relationships are a team sport. And nobody wants a ball-hogging player on their team always trying to steal the spotlight.
Ever heard this one before: I can do bad all by myself. Really? And why would you want to?! How silly is that line of reasoning? If two people were trapped in a ditch together, wouldnt it be easier to get out if the two worked together, than if one person was trying to get out on their own?
Statements like this just helps to point out the nonsensical views many sisters have about relationships.
Maybe the reason you cant find a good black man is because youre so used to dating down.
Perhaps if sisters were to stop dating the lowest common denominator type of brothers, they could actually position themselves to meet the decent ones.
Now theres a thought!
Hasnt anyone ever told you that in relationships you attract what you are. So if youre not attracting good brothers, what does that really say about you?
And dont give me nothing about how educated you are. Because theres plenty of highly educated brothers that most of yall just aint checking for. In many of your eyes theyre either too soft, or too corny, or not man enough to handle you. Dont you know that the only things in life that get handled are usually problems?
Why is it that all these educated brothers keep slipping under your radar? Because a well put together brother whos on his game will require you to step your game up to his level. And when it comes to relationships, many of you ladies are just plain lazy and comfortable with dealing with ratchet brothers. Real good brothers intimidate you.
Trust me when I say: if you were such a hot item, even dudes from other races would be snatching you off the market faster than you could blink. Because thats exactly what happens to the sisters who are on top of their game in every way: body, mind, career and spirit. They get snatched and wifed up quick.
But aha! Other races of men arent really getting at you like that either. Why is this? After all: by your own admission youre successful and beautiful and soooo independent. Either the world is blind to your value and worth or maybe, just maybe, youre not actually the hot catch you imagine yourself to be
Funny thing though: the successful black men (who are successful according to your low standard of success) arent having this problem. When you dont recognize them quick enough, women of other races move in swiftly to take a good brother off the market. While youre wasting precious time and years fooling with Tyrone from the block, Marquez from IBM just got married to an Asian chick. A fine one too.
And Im in no way advocating that black men should date outside their race or avoid sisters altogether. Its up to each person to decide individually who they want to date and interact with. But I am advocating putting some of these sisters out there on time out for a while until they get their minds right.From the experience of me and my circle of homeys, its not that there arent enough good brothers to go around: the reality is theres not a lot of good sisters to go around for the good brothers! Numerical wise there are more black women than black men. But the pickings are very slim by the time you subtract the number of sisters who are: carrying relationship baggage, those who hate their fathers and project it onto the next guy, those who occasionally lick the clit or who are juggling multiple dingalings, those who are too ghetto for even the hood to deal with, those who are too religious for even Jesus to deal with, those who are outright unsightly or morbidly obese, and those already in committed relationships Its time sisters turned off the TV set, put down those ghetto love books, and did some serious self-reflection. Step your damn game up! Or ten years from now, when someone refers to a lonely old cat-lady, the image they have in mind might be you
Rant Against The Extra-Average Black Woman. : ThyBlackMan.com
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