BW complaining because the BM she WANTS do not see her as exotic

Magic Mulatto

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I'm honestly worried about this with my sons. Not that I am colorist and say anything down about my wife, their dark skinned mom, it's just that for my wife's job we now live in a mostly White area and literally, 75% of the Black kids in his school are mixed. I am more surprised to see a Black-Black couple now than an IR one.

Not that I mind if they dated mixed girls since I am not one of those "mixed can't be Black" people and growing up in the 80s/90s I always considered mixed people Black as a whole. If they are the majority of Black women around him I would rather my sons date them than reject Black women entirely, but I worry that may set a preference early on that may cause them to overlook women like their mom. But maybe I am overthinking it.
DISCERNIBLY mixed-race people are just that…mixed, biracial, etc.

They are NOT Black, White, Brown, Yellow, etc.

You’re not overthinking it; you just need to amend your perspective…
 

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This is not exactly accurate, and leaves out certain key factors

This is a case of women taking something that applies to everyone, and presenting the argument like it only applies to them. It comes off like average women not wanting to admit that they're average and being upset that above average men don't desire them as they would above average women:manny:

To contrast, when a boy is about 13 he knows where he falls with women. Insecurities and all. A nikka knows if he has a funny looking nose or big ass ears, accepts it, and gets in where he fits. Does he want the dimes? Of course he does, but he's gonna make most of his shots at women he perceives to be on his level. Women did this for generations as well but social media has inflated women's egos to where average and below women feel entitled to above average men and are shattered when reality tells them the truth

Overall tho average men and average women link up all the time. I see happy average -ugly couples all the time. I have a post from a few years ago mentioning that I see more fat women in happy relationships than anyone else these days:mjlol:

Your point about women being unable to override looks like men with money borders on disingenuous because plenty of women can and do override their looks. There are 4-6s that are in very happy relationships because they're a pleasure to be around. A lot of women have problems accepting the fact that they're not as attractive as they think they are and/or they're insufferable:mjlol: Also if we're keeping it 100, there are plenty of women overriding their looks with money as well. Whole lot of fat/below average managers out here funding their man's lifestyle :pachaha:


The woman in the op sounds like she drains every room she's in and most likely blames colorism for her trash personality. There are worse looking women than her with their feet kicked up watching movies and playfighting with their man. She's the problem and has to poke and prod for every possible reason why she's not

Let's also not forget that although there are obvious cases, for the most part beauty is relative in everyday life. A Pittsburgh 8 is a likely a Houston 6, and so on
I don’t disagree
 

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I'm honestly worried about this with my sons. Not that I am colorist and say anything down about my wife, their dark skinned mom, it's just that for my wife's job we now live in a mostly White area and literally, 75% of the Black kids in his school are mixed. I am more surprised to see a Black-Black couple now than an IR one.

Not that I mind if they dated mixed girls since I am not one of those "mixed can't be Black" people and growing up in the 80s/90s I always considered mixed people Black as a whole. If they are the majority of Black women around him I would rather my sons date them than reject Black women entirely, but I worry that may set a preference early on that may cause them to overlook women like their mom. But maybe I am overthinking it.
You are not overthinking it. That’s exactly how it happens LOL

You better find some local Black programs, organizations, etc or yes, your son will definitely have a preference for mixed and white girls. How could he not if that’s all he sees during his development?


The only dark skinned female representation will be his mom and whatever is shown in the media. Eventually which one will be the stronger influence? :francis:
 

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The red pill gems in the video video are everything. She said that her type was a euro aussie dude Not like her ex boyfriend Her Ex was probably a Black Men who simped until he noticed that he wasn't her preference. Then they started talking about going to Italy and the bich said she wanted to do two days in Rome.

That's exactly like a Black Man saying that he wanted to go to Sosua for Superbowl weekend and just like a dude going to Sosua is leading with his wallet a Black chick going to Rome is leading with her wallet.
Wrong her ex boyfriend (who is black) cheated on her
 

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@Gloxina

Lighter skin women are put on the pedestal for a reason. They're more palatable towards Eurocentric standards. Music videos being the main factor of exposure. Examples being Beyonce, Tyra Banks, Halle Barry etc.



Starting in the 90's and 00's, women like Naomi Campbell, Foxy Brown, Kelly Rowland and Kenya Moore started to put darker skin sistas on the map. To combat the stereotype "darker skin women aren't attractive"

The paradigm started to shift when platforms such as "Dark Skin Women" on IG started to blow up in the 2010's. Appreciation for chocolate women started to increased heavily.


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^^ Given the right tools and money, any woman can upgrade herself to be a baddie
Baddie includes long weave? :francis:

This is my exact point. I am fully aware of why LS women are on pedestal. The point is the mere fact darker Black women have alter our aesthetic or push programming/imagery to change the minds of OUR MEN/society SPEAKS TO THE PROBLEM.

As is, many of us are not the standard of beauty in the eyes of the men who LOOK LIKE US and negros try to gaslight and say it’s because of bad attitudes or not accepting the fact that a woman might just be average.

No other group of woman is given all this yap when talking purely about looks and attraction.

DS Black women have more hurdles to jump in the “perception of beauty” arena and that includes within our own community.
A lot of women didn’t want to talk about it, but younger women are talking about their experiences.

I gave my own example:
10yrs ago (obviously when I was younger and young ppl are more blunt) dudes would look you in the eye and say “I usually don’t date anything but LS girls but I think you’re pretty”.
When negroes get older they might THINK it, but they’ve matured enough not to say it out loud.
 

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The cognitive dissonance is amazing. She’s average at best and can’t accept it. So she blames colorism and black man rather than taking her anger out on Mother Nature.

She complains that the black men she dated truly covet “exotic” looking women, and then turns around and says her type is white??? Wtf? This is ultimate bird babble. Just take your basic ass over to Brad and keep black men’s name out of your mouths.

It’s always the physically challenged who project their insecurities onto everyone. This woe is me crap is tired. The black women I know complain about getting too much attention from men of all races. They have to dress down to avoid getting accosted.

But most importantly, they’re not Debbie downers. Who wants to be around anyone who’s insecure? If she was as great a catch as she claimed to be, why is she perpetually single?
 

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Baddie includes long weave? :francis:

This is my exact point. I am fully aware of why LS women are on pedestal. The point is the mere fact darker Black women have alter our aesthetic or push programming/imagery to change the minds of OUR MEN/society SPEAKS TO THE PROBLEM.

As is, many of us are not the standard of beauty in the eyes of the men who LOOK LIKE US and negros try to gaslight and say it’s because of bad attitudes or not accepting the fact that a woman might just be average.

No other group of woman is given all this yap when talking purely about looks and attraction.

DS Black women have more hurdles to jump in the “perception of beauty” arena and that includes within our own community.
A lot of women didn’t want to talk about it, but younger women are talking about their experiences.

I gave my own example:
10yrs ago (obviously when I was younger and young ppl are more blunt) dudes would look you in the eye and say “I usually don’t date anything but LS girls but I think you’re pretty”.
When negroes get older they might THINK it, but they’ve matured enough not to say it out loud.
You don’t know that in Indian culture the fairest and most narrrowed featured women are put on the highest pedestal yet the majority of Indian women are brown skinned and have medium features?

You don’t know that in East Asian culture the palest looking Asian women with (again) finer features are placed on the pedestal by their own men and society?

The same is applied to Latin women and even to a degree white women (with blonde hair blue eyes seen as the most beautiful)

You’re speaking as if it’s only black women that are under appreciated by their own men.

The reality is that it’s only black women that are the most vocal about this (in the media) compared to other non-black who experience the same but aren’t running to podcasts and magazines to talk about it.
 
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Now ain't this some contradiction................

Why do all the crybully swirling/divestor feminazis all have the same fake valley girl accent? (also, why do their sycophant males all have that whiny soyboy 'upward inflection' voice?)

I swear that western academia has infiltrated black western cultures.
 

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Oh you’re definitely right, but when you wipe the makeup off— that’s what I mean.

And of course improving one’s personality, getting in the gym, etc are all factors.

When I say looks I’m referring to natural beauty. No surgeon changing your nose, no excessive makeup that makes you look like a different person, etc. Throw on some moisturizer and lipstick, brows on point and your face is done.

Anyway, I’m talking about initial attraction/approaches.

How can a man get to know your personality if he automatically writes you off because of complexion/looks?
Ehh most women do not present theirselves in their natural state so to me that’s kind of irrelevant.

A man has even less control over his natural attractive in any case
It’s not hating your own skin. It’s developing insecurities or self-hate based on treatment from others.

A lot of women with darker complexions are not affirmed in society. And when you’re KIDS/teens let’s not front like most young guys are drawn to the LS girls. That’s the beauty standard and that’s when that shyt hits hardest— when kids are starting to have crushes and date and talk about who they want to date, etc. Those childhood scars
We need to be honest here

This woman and people like her HATE their skin color but expect other people to validate and love their skin. See e.g. this woman and others in the comments ranting about how all black men only like light skin mixed women. It’s self hate from racism colorism textualism childhood trauma etc.

And if I’m dating or interested in you, you showing me your hate your skin color is unattractive. You wouldn’t date a man who hates himself either.
 

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As a man you should know never to equate sex to actually liking a women.
Why haven’t dark skin women been bred out yet then, like in many other countries , if black men in America hate dark skin women so much :unimpressed:
 
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Her issue is her energy not her complexion.

My mother is the same hue as Ella Mai and I had to check her on her masculinity. :beli:

“It has to be remembered that when a woman out of despair chases a man, the man is bound to escape because something unnatural is happening.

When the woman chases you, it simply means she is an unwanted woman, nobody is chasing her. The woman chasing the man becomes unattractive. The man cannot take it: she is not a woman, she is a monster.

Things are very much correlated.

If women start chasing, men are bound to escape. The whole game has turned upside down. The chaser becomes the chased, and no man can love a woman who is chasing him. The very phenomenon of chasing makes the woman worthless, she is not a challenge.

Man wants challenge.

He wants to chase, he wants to be victorious. That's why nature has arranged it in such a way that in all the animals, man included, the males should chase the females.”
 
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