BW complaining because the BM she WANTS do not see her as exotic

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Once again you're bringing up rich celebrities as examples.

A regular dude who's fat, ugly, or short will not have the confidence of people who had resources to get whatever they wanted. Celebrities do not represent the average person's experience. If biggie was a broke fat ass loser who couldn't rap, he wouldn't be that confident man you seen in videos. He made songs about his insecurities and self confidence before rap. Big Pun would not be running through hoes if he worked a regular 9-5 for average pay.

Those celebrities wouldn't have been celebrities if they were insecure. That's my entire point.

That regular fat ugly dude is told to lose weight and get a different haircut. And guess what, the strong ones do that and have a far better outcome in life. The weak ones are clowned.

Being a man is about being strong.

 

[5n0man]

Those celebrities wouldn't have been celebrities if they were insecure. That's my entire point.

That regular fat ugly dude is told to lose weight and get a different haircut. And guess what, the strong ones do that and have a far better outcome in life. The weak ones are clowned.

Being a man is about being strong.

Breh, I'm good on going back and forth on this.

Men deal with insecurities the same as women, your point that those men are clowned isn't an argument in your favor.

Suicide and depression rates for boys is a real issue and men feel like they can't talk to anyone about it because male mental health issues arent taken seriously, you talking about clowning men over it is an example of that.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Baddie includes long weave?

This is my exact point. I am fully aware of why LS women are on pedestal. The point is the mere fact darker Black women have alter our aesthetic or push programming/imagery to change the minds of OUR MEN/society SPEAKS TO THE PROBLEM.

As is, many of us are not the standard of beauty in the eyes of the men who LOOK LIKE US and negros try to gaslight and say it’s because of bad attitudes or not accepting the fact that a woman might just be average.

No other group of woman is given all this yap when talking purely about looks and attraction.

DS Black women have more hurdles to jump in the “perception of beauty” arena and that includes within our own community.
A lot of women didn’t want to talk about it, but younger women are talking about their experiences.

I gave my own example:
10yrs ago (obviously when I was younger and young ppl are more blunt) dudes would look you in the eye and say “I usually don’t date anything but LS girls but I think you’re pretty”.
When negroes get older they might THINK it, but they’ve matured enough not to say it out loud.

My definition of a baddie is a woman whose the most attractive version of herself

As for wearing weaves, that's a hazard. BW needs to take notice that wearing weaves can be destructive to their hair follicles.


I always appreciated natural hair

When rappers started calling non-black women/latinas "exotic" in their music videos, that's when the game changed.

Just because some color-struck nikkas put lighter skin on the pedestal, doesn't mean we all do. Colorism is still a plague that we need to address in the black community.

You say that black women aren't standard of beauty, but then explain how other races trying to get thicker lips with lip injections, blackfishing with tans, thicker hips and thicker asses with BBLS? All of that came from black women.

Darker skin people in general get more criticized and attacked because we're not the standard based on the colonizer. But again, why should we even give a single fukk about appeasing to the colonizer standards in the first place? The colonizer wants to looks us but yet black people want to chase the acceptance of looking white.

Another thing darker skin people face is we go through is hyperpigmentation. We need to take better care of our skin by applying sunscreen and exfoliating our skin. But that's another topic we gotta talk about.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

You don’t know that in Indian culture the fairest and most narrrowed featured women are put on the highest pedestal yet the majority of Indian women are brown skinned and have medium features?

You don’t know that in East Asian culture the palest looking Asian women with (again) finer features are placed on the pedestal by their own men and society?

The same is applied to Latin women and even to a degree white women (with blonde hair blue eyes seen as the most beautiful)

You’re speaking as if it’s only black women that are under appreciated by their own men.

The reality is that it’s only black women that are the most vocal about this (in the media) compared to other non-black who experience the same but aren’t running to podcasts and magazines to talk about it.

The common denominator being "fair skin" = more attractive which is far from the case. These cultures was socially conditioned to believe that's the ends to be all.

This shyt is global across all ethnicities. Not just us.

 

[Monoblock]

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Both gals in the thumbnail aren’t attractive

 

[KFBF]

I hope they’re flaming her in the comments

Black men she dated wanted exotics??? But she was dating them already, no?

Then, she went out and said SHE dated “everyone”… and that white men think she’s “exotic”.

Dumb as shyt

I think she might have a point but she's too much of a bird to articulate it. I'm betting she's basing this in breaking up with dudes and their next girl not being dark skinned so she assumes thats why they broke up with her. She seems annoying.

Nah she wants to be fetishized by black men but black men just see her as another black girl

Yep.

I don't believe this. Society and the community let alot of unnactrive dark skin women (which includes the one in the OP) use that as crutch as to why they're not getting chose by the men they want.

How many black men you think will pass over women like these for lighter or "exotic" women?

Why you posting ai art?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Ok, “foreign”, not exotic.

And so what?
Im sure you want a tall, athletic, well to do man yourself right lol

People want who they want the end.

If race loyalty was real there wouldnt have been a cause for interacial marriage + integration. All of this is the product of what people fought for.

 

[HarlemHottie]

This is true but I think the opposites attract dynamic is at play too. Otherwise, what does the light skinned person benefit from having a kid that supposedly will have more adverse issues with colorism? Almost all the LS Black women I knew when I was younger married or had kids by dark skinned dudes. Light skinned dudes were less consistent.

Why you crying for? Just be better. That crying over colorism shyt in dating is BS.

If we’re talking about sentencing, detention, teachers, job placement. Then yes. But otherwise, ppl just gotta compete

What both of you are missing is the economic side of the game. For a woman, the rest of your life is determined by the partner you choose. LS women, then, automatically gain access to the higher tier earners in the community. So, to @Julien Loki Ahadi's point, it kinda is about "job placement": HIS. @DrBanneker, this is why its less consistent with ls MEN.

I've never heard them say "exotic" in person. But have definitely heard men say they typically date light skinned women and that certain women were pretty "for a dark skinned girl/woman". I'm not exactly sure why but I've experienced it and several other posters have confirmed this as well. I think they think it may make them seem more desirable or maybe they feel that that should make darker women happy that they approached them. It could also be a regional thing.

I think it is. I almost never heard it among ados in the city, but I have heard it verbatim from southerners and in synonym form from various caribbeans, ie 'pretty morena,' or "a pretty browning" etc.

 

[Babymama Magnet]

This is very true- colorism is rampant in Indian culture. And I know skin bleaching is big in East Asia and South Korea is damn near the plastic surgery capital of the world, because being light is the ideal.

But I don’t really care about the details of their issues like they don’t care about ours. My chief concern is my community. Not white girls who aren’t blondes, but still have WHITE skin and white privilege

You think a brunette who is still part of the dominant group has the same experience as a dark skinned black woman in America? Lmao

The point I was making in my last post was the fact that you’re implying that it is only black women that are going through not being seen as the standard of beauty in their own community which is factually not true… and I gave you examples to prove this point.

You may not care what goes on in other communities as I do too but don’t paint a false picture that it’s black women that are the ONLY ones going through this.

As for the other point you made I 100% believe that DS women have more hurdles to jump through when it comes down to the perception of beauty and attraction however, I feel less empathetic which is down to understanding that short men are having to go through the same hurdles (with women) in relation to their own masculinity and attraction… yet no one and especially women don’t give af about this and will proudly speak on it.

Only difference is men will work on other aspects of themselves to increase their own attraction to women whereas women.. well they just itch and complain about how unfair life is.

So yeah I ain’t as sympathetic especially when I’m still seeing the hypocrisy at play

 

[prime]

No I disagree. The real answer has been in our face all this time. Women are bird brains and social media has made it worse. White, Asian, black, it don't matter. Why do y'all think women of all races get surgery even if they look good? Every woman wants to be perfect.

Ayesha Curry was light skinned and STILL insecure about not getting attention.

We are talking about two different things I agree with what you’re saying but I was speaking on SOME black women are jealous of Asian and Latina women because white men are choosing them and if white men was choosing black women in large numbers the numbers would be similar to Asian women white men

 

[HARLEM AL]

I told yall a long time ago that these hoes want affirmative action on dating.

 

[BigMan]

What both of you are missing is the economic side of the game. For a woman, the rest of your life is determined by the partner you choose. LS women, then, automatically gain access to the higher tier earners in the community. So, to @Julien Loki Ahadi's point, it kinda is about "job placement": HIS. @DrBanneker, this is why its less consistent with ls MEN.



I think it is. I almost never heard it among ados in the city, but I have heard it verbatim from southerners and in synonym form from various caribbeans, ie 'pretty morena,' or "a pretty browning" etc.

to you last point, i think someone else mentioned this but Colorism is WAY WORSE AND PERVASIVE outside America. try being dark skin in Asia or parts of Latin America and the Caribbean. E.g. the underclass in Jamaica is almost ENTIRELY dark skin near pure Africans

US is actually much more aware of these issues

 

[IVS]

she dont want no black man she was just looking for an excuse before she told us she dates YT men

 

[HarlemHottie]

to you last point, i think someone else mentioned this but Colorism is WAY WORSE AND PERVASIVE outside America. try being dark skin in Asia or parts of Latin America and the Caribbean. E.g. the underclass in Jamaica is almost ENTIRELY dark skin near pure Africans

US is actually much more aware of these issues

Oh, I know. That's bc we fight it. "Black is beautiful", "I'm black and I'm proud", etc.