BW complaining because the BM she WANTS do not see her as exotic
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Exotic is basically new, fresh and different to someone who is familiar to a certain type of woman.
BM won’t find black women from the same culture exotic and also.. one man’s exotic is another man’s familiarity breeds contempt
If you a nikka from the Bronx you won’t find single mother boriquas exotic because you’re used to dealing with them. But a nikka from Paris who deals with North African women will find the same Puerto Rican women more exotic than Moroccan women. That’s why passport bros go to Colombia and find Afro Colombian women more exotic.
Heck a brotha who has only had one black girlfriend might find a PAWG exotic. It’s all relative.
BM won’t find black women from the same culture exotic and also.. one man’s exotic is another man’s familiarity breeds contempt
If you a nikka from the Bronx you won’t find single mother boriquas exotic because you’re used to dealing with them. But a nikka from Paris who deals with North African women will find the same Puerto Rican women more exotic than Moroccan women. That’s why passport bros go to Colombia and find Afro Colombian women more exotic.
Heck a brotha who has only had one black girlfriend might find a PAWG exotic. It’s all relative.
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I’m less concerned about darker skin and more concerned about the face. I’m not feeling her face 
To me, attractive is attractive. If ur in shape with a cute face and nice personality then skin color is not a factor for most men
Now if you're regula degula average, then maybe it becomes a factor. Women have said guys will take an avg light skinned girl over an avg dark skinned girl.
Is that fair? Maybe not
Not gon lie, there's a couple lighter skinned women that I might unconsciously not have paid as much attention to if they were dark skinned.
But that doesn't mean men don't date and marry dark skinned women everyday
Light skin is not a be all and end all for beauty. If the lady's personality sucks then I dont care how nice her eyes are or curly hair or whatever, it's "check, please"
I think she's just mad that the type of **black guys** she wants don't see her as "exotic" as other races do. They probably get different kinds of women and see a black girl as nothing extraordinary or exotic which clearly irks her enough to date outside and still complain about "**black men**"
Now if you're regula degula average, then maybe it becomes a factor. Women have said guys will take an avg light skinned girl over an avg dark skinned girl.
Is that fair? Maybe not
Not gon lie, there's a couple lighter skinned women that I might unconsciously not have paid as much attention to if they were dark skinned.
But that doesn't mean men don't date and marry dark skinned women everyday
Light skin is not a be all and end all for beauty. If the lady's personality sucks then I dont care how nice her eyes are or curly hair or whatever, it's "check, please"
I think she's just mad that the type of **black guys** she wants don't see her as "exotic" as other races do. They probably get different kinds of women and see a black girl as nothing extraordinary or exotic which clearly irks her enough to date outside and still complain about "**black men**"
They look at lighter women as more attractive off rip.
Someone here called it the “light skinned stimulus” LOL
This lady has experienced that shyt and is describing her experience, and speaking out of pain.
White men certainly aren’t better, and yea- she may not be considered attractive by the top 10% of brehs (which does seem to be the complaint of a lot of women yapping online), but she’s ultimately speaking out of pain.
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These chicks sick and need some kind of medicine I don't fukking know about but whatever mayne 
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I didn't want invalidate your experieces with wierdo Black dudes not really sure how they think that's gonna get you interested in them if they say You're pretty for a Black Girl
But that aside the worst thing women do is tell on themselves like this. Women go hard on dissing super Ug Mugs for trying to holla then when they get ran through or just being 40 and fabolous and dudes wondering If she's so fly why did all these other dudes bush her?
Every Man knows how it looks to be the Old nikka in the club not really sure how women can't make the connection.
The whole point of getting married is to grow old Together. Generally speaking desirabilty decreases with age that's not gender or race specific.
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I've come to realize that 90% of the time when a Black woman says thing like this is projecting and that's how she really feels about Black men.
At first thinking damn maybe avg dark skinned girls get passed over
But then I heard her talk and already know I wouldnt even pay her a second thought
Why would I want to date a woman that's into European men? lol
that's dumb af when there's so many women that want me for looking like me
The women I've been with love me for all my "afrocentric" features.
So when I or my brehs dont pay attention to her, she's gon think it's cuz we only like exotic? lol so dumb
.... everything you said, I never denied in my post. I agree it's real. I've never been too proud or too biased to deny it. My point is that women like the ones in the op are disingenuous and manipulative as fukk. They use a very real issue - colorism - to act as a cover for their real wishes and intentionsIt’s not that their intentions aren’t “pure”; it’s that hurt people hurt people.
I’ll be honest- I’m “brown skinned” and have experienced men checking to make sure my veins are visible (that’s some old school shyt if ppl don’t know), ppl telling me “oh you’re not that dark”, “oh, well at least your hair isn’t, you know, you know (meaning kinky/nappy)”.
And with all that negros still looked me in my face and said “I usually only date LS girls but…”
So I get it. The caveat is that being brown and “attractive” means that you hear ignorant shyt but still slip in, or you aren’t “too dark” so you aren’t the stereotypical prize but no one is denigrating you or your man’s choice because everyone else thinks you’re too dark.
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This affects dark skin men, of course, but it hits women way more harshly because men are the pursuers and a woman has to be desired and considered attractive for a man to approach. When your community obviously has an issue with skin color you’re dealing with
1- being outside the standard of beauty of your own men who overwhelmingly would prefer a lighter woman (all things considered equal)
2- being outside the standard of beauty of mainstream society so you have to deal with a lot of your own men viewing you as a consolation prize AND stereotypes/issues dealing with mainstream society.
The type of insulting shyt that is said to/about dark skinned women, or just being ignored by men in general.
Like I’ve said before- when you are a beautiful dark skinned woman like Justine Sky, Kelly Rowland. Aja, Naomi Campbell, Coco Jones, etc you can walk in a room and get the attention of quality Black men AND quality men of other races.
Just like men with money have their pick of women even if they aren’t considered that attractive.
Beauty is the trump card for women, and in an anti-black /anti- dark skinned environment your beauty is downgraded unless it’s undeniable because you’re a dime.
There’s a reason why men say “when a dark skinned chick is bad she shuts everything down”. Why is that? Because people don’t expect to see or consider darker women “bad”. They look at lighter women as more attractive off rip.
Someone here called it the “light skinned stimulus” LOL
This lady has experienced that shyt and is describing her experience, and speaking out of pain.
White men certainly aren’t better, and yea- she may not be considered attractive by the top 10% of brehs (which does seem to be the complaint of a lot of women yapping online
That “exotic”/mixed preference shyt is REAL. Any Black woman with “good hair” is expressly told how beautiful her hair is, how much her curls are loved, etc. Very few of y’all are fawning over true 4c kinky hair. You might prefer that a woman be natural for the sake of not being fake, but the true tell is when a woman gets an undetectable weave. The difference in treatment from our own men is telling.
They willingly ignore the amount of horrible comments that 80% of white men and men of other races say towards black women out loud or under their breath, and only judge them by their very best. "Oh other races of men don't treat their women like this" which is complete bs. White men constantly complain about white western women and fetishize asian women. Indian men constantly shyt on Indian women. Tons of other men view white women as a status symbol Do some black men insult black women? Yes. But more black men praise black women per capita then other races of men by far.
It seem more like they really just wish white men desired them, and they're taking it out in black men - and even as you acknowledged, she seemed happy white men viewed her as "exotic".
Yeah I know they don't represent how all black women think but how do you expect a BM is going to react seeing this?
And as for black men I wasn't just talking about beauty. Look how women react when ds men bring up the whole square/hood dynamic they receive from bw, or when they bring up an average wm gets the same treatment as a above average bm. INSTANT dismissiveness and attack. No sympathy or validation. None of it. They don't have any sympathy the other way, and they look at you stupid if suggest this.
That's not even including all the "dusty, ashy, broke" comments that get thrown at bm predominantly
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Now ain't this some contradiction................
Like i said….
Use black men in a negative light to hide the fact she like white guys..
Chick is extra beautiful to me. Too bad she's running up the mileage on her odometer on others that get off on having a temporary wench.
And that exotic or exotical word is very popular over on LSA.
And that exotic or exotical word is very popular over on LSA.
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Voice of Reason
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Yep you are 100% correct.
It reminds me of how goofy Black women on the internet were saying that Black men were not checking for Serena Williams.
Knowing damn well if you lineup up 10 white men and 10 random Black men and asked them if they found Serena attractive at least 7/10 Black men would say yes and maybe 4/10 white males would say yes.
It's bullshyt, Black women want that White male validation.
Ultimately White supremacy is at fault for this though.
