This made me remember that a lot of Generation X sent their kids to private/catholic schools with white people. Then doubled down and sent them to a PWI. It's a lot of nuanced involved when picking a young black woman. Got to get around them parents and observe them, because thats basically at the foundation of who you're dating.
I'm gonna keep it real for the coli....
as a black man,first gen Nigerian/West Indian that came up with parents that sent me to private white Catholic schools and PWI...this is exactly what they do and I feel straight up like I dodged a c00n bullet.

When I graduated I moved away to NYC and my life was never the same. After I got that knowledge of self, I noticed that many of those black parents from the 90s were setting their kids up for failure.
And then you end up with 2 outcomes: you get black children who can't wait to get away from that and surround themselves with other black people and find their identity being Black in white America...or they just avoid being around black people in general and try to assimilate with a white America that will never allow them to fully.
They'll never be accepted amongst the type of folks they were trying to impress but they learn that the hard way.