Let white women call you the N word and bretthes let a cac loc your hair 

Yeah. He shouldn't be allowing her to even think that or be with her at all because she probably thinks that about his family.No and neither is her man! The real issue here is the members of the cnacracy who've made her feel comfortable enough to say these things. Her man is comfortable with her saying this about black women because he feels the same way.
Same with a wiggers who date cnettes who are comfortable shytting on black men. The call is coming from inside the house
This is always what happens when CACs get comfortable.