Can Ya Girl Be Too Friendly?

[Ahadi]

That's fine and all. It just shouldn't make her look easy or thirsty coz that makes the man look worse.

I dated a girl who entertained and was friendly to every guy. Calls come in multiple times a day, sometimes after 10pm. All you get is 'Oh that's my friend Kevin'. That shyt is frustrating as hell.

Then you meet some of the guys and they stare at you like you the opp.

Absolutely fukkin not

 

[MicIsGod]

Sometimes dudes know they girl be dumb and easy to crack

Word. nikkas know their girl. I wouldn’t be with anyone who’s friendly like that because I would already know that’s how she is.

 

[987654321]

What exactly is too friendly?

I got a homegirl who I’ve known since Hs. I don’t be in her business like that now, but I know how extremely friendly she can be. Dudes she dated or messed with were always super cautious because they could never feel that they could open themselves up to a relationship.

Like she’s always just moved haphazardly to the point where no one can tell if she’s really into somebody or just being friendly. She would sit in somebody’s face for hours, be out grabbing food/at the movies with them, etc. Whole time dudes thinking it’s a date, and she’s calling it a friendly outing, but she’d also be in an exclusive relationship.

I’ve accidentally pissed off dudes she was dating because she asked me to stop by and she yakking it up with me and not giving any attention to her partner who should be the priority.

I and others have tried to explain it in private, but she acts oblivious. I don’t think she’s naive like that, I think she just can’t really control her interests Lol.

Dudes be cheating on her because they paranoid that she already moving like that, when she be at home watching lifetime and shyt lol. They start out all stoic, trying to brush it off, and eventually it starts to get to them and shyt gets bonkers. One broke a window in her car over that shyt lol.

I fully believe in a man or woman’s freedom to be who they are, as long as they aren’t hurting anybody, but society/culture helps color how our actions can be perceived when dealing with somebody. She’s a very warm soul, who will give her last dime to help somebody she barely knows. She also has the gift of gab and can strike up a convo with anybody. She’s very attractive, so dudes are always trying to meet her. I hope you she learns some moderation or finds somebody that’s okay with who she is.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I got a homegirl who I’ve known since Hs. I don’t be in her business like that now, but I know how extremely friendly she can be. Dudes she dated or messed with were always super cautious because they could never feel that they could open themselves up to a relationship.

Like she’s always just moved haphazardly to the point where no one can tell if she’s really into somebody or just being friendly. She would sit in somebody’s face for hours, be out grabbing food/at the movies with them, etc. Whole time dudes thinking it’s a date, and she’s calling it a friendly outing, but she’d also be in an exclusive relationship.

I’ve accidentally pissed off dudes she was dating because she asked me to stop by and she yakking it up with me and not giving any attention to her partner who should be the priority.

I and others have tried to explain it in private, but she acts oblivious. I don’t think she’s naive like that, I think she just can’t really control her interests Lol.

Dudes be cheating on her because they paranoid that she already moving like that, when she be at home watching lifetime and shyt lol. They start out all stoic, trying to brush it off, and eventually it starts to get to them and shyt gets bonkers. One broke a window in her car over that shyt lol.

I fully believe in a man or woman’s freedom to be who they are, as long as they aren’t hurting anybody, but society/culture helps color how our actions can be perceived when dealing with somebody. She’s a very warm soul, who will give her last dime to help somebody she barely knows. She also has the gift of gab and can strike up a convo with anybody. She’s very attractive, so dudes are always trying to meet her. I hope you she learns some moderation or finds somebody that’s okay with who she is.

Okay yeah that's a lot.

I get accused of being too friendly but I think a lot of that comes from the other person's insecurities.

I have never been accused of being too friendly by someone I was in a relationship with but out on dates or at social events I have heard it. I always assume it's because the other person wants my undivided attention or feels like I am taking attention away from themselves. That's fine, but why be in place where people are naturally going to socialize and try to talk with me if you want one on one time?

Inviting others into private spaces definitely crosses the line though. Yeah you're home girl sounds a bit messy.

 

[Rekkapryde]

I wouldn’t date/be with a woman that didn’t understand boundaries or that didn’t know what too friendly means…


We grown adults. I’m not ya boss, but I’m also coming in with certain expectations. I’d expect my woman to have an idea of what “too friendly” is and never cross that line.

If you have to explain this to a person, it's bushes status off GP. Both men and women.

 

[Belize King]

married girl at work made me food, got me sentimental gifts, lingered a lil long for hugs, sought me out during meetings, we dmed before, during & after work, made out during afterwork parties & we'd skip work to hangout. i'm fortunate that your girl is my girl, so i love it when they're friendly.

@Yagirlcheatinonus

 

[MicIsGod]

You look exactly like you would make this post. Too perfect.

 

[Diondon]

I been on record, I like my woman a lil stuck up

 

[Scaaar]

I think that depends on the man and how he views himself. I'm not one to press my woman about how she should move in the world and interacting with other men. If I see something that I don't like we'll have the convo and set new boundaries at that time. But there's usually a lot of unsaid expectations that both sides use in this area to mask their insecurities. I'm reserved but also friendly and talkative person so I've been accused of being flirty with women all the time when my intentions wasn't that so I definitely understand. It's a tricky convo but I'm never going to be on the wave of trying to control how a woman moves and interacts in the world. Because usually if she's a flirty person then that means she was like that before you and you were cool with it. You just gotta accept it or just move on to someone else

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I think that depends on the man and how he views himself. I'm not one to press my woman about how she should move in the world and interacting with other men. If I see something that I don't like we'll have the convo and set new boundaries at that time. But there's usually a lot of unsaid expectations that both sides use in this area to mask their insecurities. I'm reserved but also friendly and talkative person so I've been accused of being flirty with women all the time when my intentions wasn't that so I definitely understand. It's a tricky convo but I'm never going to be on the wave of trying to control how a woman moves and interacts in the world. Because usually if she's a flirty person then that means she was like that before you and you were cool with it. You just gotta accept it or just move on to someone else

I think this at the core of it.

 

[WesCrook]

Out of respect for my man, I'm never too friendly with other men. Plus me and my man work together. We never have those issues of him or I being too friendly with the opposite sex. Cordial yes, but nothing out of line or could be deemed as disrespectful. It's no need for it.

I never initiate hugs when I come across a woman whom I know (of any capacity), especially when she's with her guy.

However, there have been times when she would reach out to hug, and I would hug back.....but dude giving me the

Like wtf you want me to do? If you got an issue with that then you need to address it with your girl.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

married girl at work made me food, got me sentimental gifts, lingered a lil long for hugs, sought me out during meetings, we dmed before, during & after work, made out during afterwork parties & we'd skip work to hangout. i'm fortunate that your girl is my girl, so i love it when they're friendly.

This is a little more than "friendly." Mama on the hunt.

 

[head shots101]

That's fine and all. It just shouldn't make her look easy or thirsty coz that makes the man look worse.

I dated a girl who entertained and was friendly to every guy. Calls come in multiple times a day, sometimes after 10pm. All you get is 'Oh that's my friend Kevin'. That shyt is frustrating as hell.

Then you meet some of the guys and they stare at you like you the opp.

I hope you’re trolling if not shorty was getting ran through god

 

[Scaaar]

That's fine and all. It just shouldn't make her look easy or thirsty coz that makes the man look worse.

I dated a girl who entertained and was friendly to every guy. Calls come in multiple times a day, sometimes after 10pm. All you get is 'Oh that's my friend Kevin'. That shyt is frustrating as hell.

Then you meet some of the guys and they stare at you like you the opp.

Yeah.....I don't think that was just "your" girl

 

[Braman]

What exactly is too friendly?

If you have to ask…