Can't have a long term relationship without Simpin?

[Sharp]

You fukked up taking relationship from an obviously scorned hood rat

We're apart of a focus group where we discuss gender roles and bias. 13 females 9 dudes. Most of my thread topics come from this group.

 

[philmonroe]

exactly. They look at me strange for not conforming, even trying to tell me that I will remain single as long as I have the ideology that I have.

But I do acknowledge that a majority of dudes have conformed. Cats put up with the mess for some consistent sex.

I can't get with a woman arguing, belittling me, disrespecting me, trying to control the relationship and telling me that it's normal. It's only acceptable because dudes don't check it.

Whatever happened to peace, harmony, teamwork, and patience? We enable this bad behavior all for some time between her legs. And it's only getting worse as simping has become the norm

I get told the first bold all the time but I dont care because of the second bold. You know things are messed up when cats wouldn't go for this same behavior and actions from their friends they have known alot longer but just because they fukking ole girl they ready let everthing slide. To that wildness I say

 

[MikelArteta]

Women love drama to them it's healthy

 

[yeahisaidit]

This can't be a one sided thing. Sex in exchange for stress and all the other bullshyt?

If this is the only thing you feel you're getting out of it, you need to re-evaluate.

She also said that as men we need to accept the fact that women like to be spoiled, get very emotional, and that you will always have arguments, but that it's worth dealing with if you want a long term relationship.

I don't agree with the "always have arguments" part. If you two are mature adults, you can find a way to work through whatever issues you have. And if there can be no compromise, just agree to disagree. That arguing shyt gets old, quick.

Did I mention that she said a relationship without drama and stress isn't a real relationship and that we should expect it and get used to it. If u don't by default u will continuously be involved in short term relationships by default with no substance.

This right here, is complete bull. What mature adult would want to be in a relationship full with drama and stress? Hell, if it's going to be that bad, might as well be by yourself.



Now, as far as your question, my answer is NO. No, you cannot have a long term relationship without simpin. The simpin should go both ways.

 

[Cool Dr. Money]

I was having a convo with this lady and she told me that if a man doesn't do every and anything to make his woman happy then he won't have a long term relationship.

She also said that as men we need to accept the fact that women like to be spoiled, get very emotional, and that you will always have arguments, but that it's worth dealing with if you want a long term relationship.

Did I mention that she said a relationship without drama and stress isn't a real relationship and that we should expect it and get used to it. If u don't by default u will continuously be involved in short term relationships by default with no substance.

I feel like I'm in the matrix. I know this cant be true. bytches be trying to do mind jobs on dudes. I wonder how many dudes just deal with this, especially those in long term relationships?

This can't be a one sided thing. Sex in exchange for stress and all the other bullshyt?

Translation: im crazy and i like to start shyt for no reason at all and i will hit you during an arguement

 

[MBwithadream]

I know you're out there. I can feel you now. I know that you're afraid... you're afraid of us. You're afraid of change. I don't know the future. I didn't come here to tell you how this is going to end. I came here to tell you how it's going to begin. I'm going to hang up this phone, and then I'm going to show these people what you don't want them to see. I'm going to show them a world without you. A world without rules and controls, without borders or boundaries. A world where anything is possible. Where we go from there is a choice I leave to you.

 

[HookersandIceCream]

We as men need to take back control over relationships and the authority in general. When did this all happen where women decide all the rules. I'm all for mutal decisions and take care of my girl when needed be, but some of them women seemed fukked up in the head.

I blame facebook and now instragram. Females are constantly getting simped like crazy on these site making them not appreciate the actual good guys out there.

 

[kevm3]

I wonder if said broad is single? That'll tell me what I need to know.

You can bet she is or she is dealing with a negro she can't really respect because he is down for all that catering and pandering.

I bet if sharp asked her if she is just down to cook and clean for her man, she'll respond with something like NAW that's degrading or she'll flip it into something like what is he going to do for me?


Anybody that comes into a relationship talking about you have to 'deal' with them got problems that you don't want to take a hold of. I remember watching a video and this woman was older in her 50's and single... when she came out and said I want a man that can deal with my crazy and I was like oh that's why.

 

[GoFlipAPack]

You can bet she is or she is dealing with a negro she can't really respect because he is down for all that catering and pandering.
I bet if sharp asked her if she is just down to cook and clean for her man, she'll respond with something like NAW that's degrading or she'll flip it into something like what is he going to do for me?


Anybody that comes into a relationship talking about you have to 'deal' with them got problems that you don't want to take a hold of. I remember watching a video and this woman was older in her 50's and single... when she came out and said I want a man that can deal with my crazy and I was like oh that's why.

If the bolded is true then that shyt is status. You want to control shyt and have it ur way but you at the same time not like it? Thats a problem i sure as hell wouldnt want to have. 50 years old and she doesnt have a fukking clue as to why shes still single

 

[Black Magisterialness]

She's falling back on that, "I'm a woman, you need to handle me" nonsense. Only suckers are going to go for that. Wild animals and children need to be handled, not grown-ups.

Church....disagreements are a given but full-blown fukk ass arguments are BS. Hormones aside that don't give a woman the right to be a fukking assclown

 

[Sharp]

I'm going to quote our convo. I told her that this type of relationship was unhealthy

SHORTY: What is a healthy relationship? I mean, I just think its something you have to face is you ever want to be with someone forever, or grow old with someone or be with someone for more than 5 years.... And if your not really about that, then you basically need to resign yourself to having short term relationships...actually you dont have to resign yourself to it...it will just happen naturally. I think either way is fine... its just up to the person and what they feel they can and cannot deal with.

ME: A relationship that doesn't cause you stress, grief, sadness, anger or any negative emotion a majority of the time. If you're in a relationship where you experience these feelings for months at a time consistently, then you are in an unhealthy relationship, no matter how much you try to fool yourself. You should be happy overall with your relationship. What you're saying is the same logic on why people stay in abusive relationships

SHORTY: Where do they make those relationships? Can you fed ex one to me... overnight? Thats why people stay in ANY relationship... abusive, non abusive... people have thier own reasons for staying... it just is what it is... not saying its wrong or right... it just is

ME: I guess I'll remain single if that's the case because I refuse to expose myself to stress and make myself believe that it's normal to be mistreated and disrespected. I understand that there will be obstacles, disagreements, and break downs. It's unrealistic to be luvey dubey all the time. But I think there should be respect 100% of the time and a willing commitment to actually figure out what the problem is and rectify it.

HER: Relationships are beneficial..i mean, otherwise why would we even get into them... but as we discussed another time on here, love is a strong emotion...with it comes great happiness, but also great pain... I will quote Common again "I want to be the one to make you happiest and hurt you the most..." Thats what someone you love does... they make you happiest but they have the ability to hurt you the most

 

[Ricky Church]

I was having a convo with this lady and she told me that if a man doesn't do every and anything to make his woman happy then he won't have a long term relationship.

She also said that as men we need to accept the fact that women like to be spoiled, get very emotional, and that you will always have arguments, but that it's worth dealing with if you want a long term relationship.

Did I mention that she said a relationship without drama and stress isn't a real relationship and that we should expect it and get used to it. If u don't by default u will continuously be involved in short term relationships by default with no substance.

I feel like I'm in the matrix. I know this cant be true. bytches be trying to do mind jobs on dudes. I wonder how many dudes just deal with this, especially those in long term relationships?

This can't be a one sided thing. Sex in exchange for stress and all the other bullshyt?

so you rented a hooker, and instead of smashing she talked about "long term relationships?"

 

[MeachTheMonster]

I'm going to quote our convo. I told her that this type of relationship was unhealthy

Naw she sound goofy. I feel bad for whatever unlucky nikka calling himself loving her. Relationships are supposed to he happy, if you're not happy you're with the wrong person.

 

[SouthernBelle]

I don't agree with the woman's opinion. There will be misunderstandings in relationships, but there shouldn't constantly be drama. Yes, people who know you the most/love you the most have the ability to hurt you the most, but that's not what I'm aiming for

As far as simpin/cakin/pampering/catering to, that is going to happen from both parties in a long term relationship (the degree depends on the people involved and what they like).

 

[DA_LURKA]

So one person's opinion applies to all of us now? Yea you need to step out of that box called the matrix son.

he didnt even say all of that