I have too much pride and experience now to ever take a cheater back, and Ive been through and seen enough shyt at the hands of deceptive and tricky women to know its not worth it in the long run. I can trust easily though, but one sign that something is off and I run for the hills..I know when youre in that position and you love someone, your mind plays and plays tricks on you. Ive always wondered why men took untrustworthy women back. Id let her go this evening when I get back home..
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I have too much pride and experience now to ever take a cheater back, and Ive been through and seen enough shyt at the hands of deceptive and tricky women to know its not worth it in the long run. I can trust easily though, but one sign that something is off and I run for the hills..I know when youre in that position and you love someone, your mind plays and plays tricks on you. Ive always wondered why men took untrustworthy women back. Id let her go this evening when I get back home..
BantuKnotz99
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it's difficult now that we have a child,it's like I can't stop thinking about it breh ,the moment,would made her do it and what was she thinking after...no lie I'm getting mad just typing this yo...it's like I want to go in the room now and just break her fukn face in ,but what would that prove? And I've came so far in life to let someone hold that much weight ova me...it's just like why tho? I did all I was suppose to do in a relationship .
Stan Winters
Rookie
I don't wanna be crass because you seem like you care about this girl, but a wise man told me "hoes gonna go, no matter what you do hoes gonna go because that's what they do" you fid all you could, but she was supposed to leave.
Now you taking her back is on you. I believe ppl can change, but is she "worth" the second chance. She gonna really have to show her worth to get a second run otherwise you putting yourself through mental torture for an at best average female. I understand the kid adds to the equation, but your mind being clear from worry, heartbreak will only create a better environment.
When I learned that, it changed my life.
BantuKnotz99
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The worry part is what gets me,like I will think of senerios in my head that haven't even materialized and just be mad that whole day. It's been days where she would sit back and cry...randomly cry 2 years later just thinking back on what happened and how bad it has affected me. It's just that whole thing that led to the cheating ...the voxer messages.. The "chillin" at his crib for smoke n drinks and then her "catching feelings" and cheating.....yo I want to seriously hurt her yo ...like teach her a lesson yo. I need peace
I don't know where yall nikkas be finding these hoes.
Granted I have a gift for making women fall deeply in love with me but every chick I've ever been serious with has been loyal as fukk to the point I've never even worried about such things.s
And I never cheated on anybody I was committed to so no karma to worry about either.
Simp Lesson #93
What you actually truly know vs what you think or perceive are two totally separate issues all together. Never worrying about your woman dipping with another dude because she did/does all the things necessary to make to you happy & keep the relationship vibrant, still doesn't mean any of your past, present or future women haven't cheated or won't cheat ever.
mcdivit85
Superstar
Why would you put yourself through that then? If its really bothering you that bad, then how can the relationship be enjoyable?
You may as well just fire her and move on because you're still living in 2012 with this thinking. But I hope you're not the type to break up with her but then still be worried about who she's dating/sleeping with. Otherwise, you're going to be in misery either way.
Peace
KeysT
Playa from the Himalayas #ByrdGang
Where you been all my life?I'm a woman but as long as house and home is being taken care of, and he's still being affectionate with me, I wouldn't openly encourage him to cheat but it isstatus. It wouldn't be the only thing make or break our marriage by far. If anything, because as we all know men and women are different, he'll prolly get tired of some crazy, needy side joint before I even gotta be worried.
Now, if he's spending money on someone that isn't in our household, or he or any of these bytches bringing that bullshyt to my doorstep...thennnnnnn we'll have a problem
See the thing with this is...it could come from emotions or just come from what's in front of you at the moment. My girl now I've been with for a year and a half. The only time I cheated on her was with a chik I met this Japanese chik when I went to Europe solo. I cut all ties with the chik after smashing. It was no emotions there for me, it was more of an ego boost. That's it...and after, I realized it wasn't necessary. Crazy thing is I recently went to Japan with my girl and was kinda paranoid about bumping into the other chik. From time to time I do do dumb shyt which I admit on here, but def not trying to cheat. I don't even want the stress of trying to hide anything like that or fuking up her mind like that.
On the flipside, right before me and my girl became official (because we were friends beforehand)....I hooked up with this Australian chik who was in town on vaca. I met her at an happy hr and we hooked up from there. She spent her last 3 days sleeping over my house, despite travelling with one of her friends. Any way, we keep in touch....fast forward a year and a half later, she's lives with a dude she's in love but told me she still thinks about me everyday and constantly thinks about taking another trip back out here. I haven't encouraged it. Too much at stake, and she seems to have very strong feelings for me still. But I don't feel the same way.
But things like this make me wonder about how the idea of just only one person fulfilling all someone's emotional needs for the rest of their lives aka marriage is really possible to do in the extra long term.
On the flipside, right before me and my girl became official (because we were friends beforehand)....I hooked up with this Australian chik who was in town on vaca. I met her at an happy hr and we hooked up from there. She spent her last 3 days sleeping over my house, despite travelling with one of her friends. Any way, we keep in touch....fast forward a year and a half later, she's lives with a dude she's in love but told me she still thinks about me everyday and constantly thinks about taking another trip back out here. I haven't encouraged it. Too much at stake, and she seems to have very strong feelings for me still. But I don't feel the same way.
But things like this make me wonder about how the idea of just only one person fulfilling all someone's emotional needs for the rest of their lives aka marriage is really possible to do in the extra long term.
A child changes the dynamics, and Id at least applaud you for sticking around for the kid. Id just tell people that ask that Im there for the kid, but then you can be there for the kid away from that toxic environment. You wont believe this now but few women are worth it, and let alone one that allowed another dude in.
Time heals, but not while shes still in your presence. Get your own spot, arrange visitations and start seeing other women. In that order.
