Ciara Talks About Getting Over Her Attraction To BAD BOYS.

[LadySimone]

Well I'd choose you anyday as well

but you're right and a lot of guys do indeed lust after a "bad bytch" even if they themselves aren't anything special.

A lot of black folk in general are so bedazzled by image and flash that it messes their judgement

men and women.

but ill say this, You're more likely to see a regular girl who's a bookworm/homebody with a dude who sells dope and has a mixtape out

than a studious brotha with a "bad bytch"

Shout out to ALL the black men who married Evelyn Lessagne. .

 

[LadySimone]

I cant even deny this..

The thing is men gotta have their "prime"era when they feel all the broads on their dikk..

When that's dosent happen, it just brings the animal out of them when they can finally get that prime...

Especially if its a broad who did them dirty in the past

I don't think men have to have their prime era. That's just a cultural precept hoisted on black men primarily to fulfil some ill conceived notion of manhood.

 

[LadySimone]

Society letting girls get away with chasing the "bad boys" Is one of the biggest problems we have in our culture.

No accountability at all, even after having a child

Society letting black men be promiscuous....

 

[LadySimone]

You know there is truth to that, and I tried to explain it to one of my siblings. We have also discussed this at LSA.



If you meet a black man who has a degree, no kids, and good credit... He will be the biggest a$$hole on the face of the planet!


Down talking you. Wanting you to kiss his ass, simply because they have what they are supposed to have. Overly critical of other people. Judgmental. They constantly talk down on men who aren't like them, but didn't have their same advantages either.


You will meet a street dude and he will be humble, supportive, affectionate, not down talking you, but encouraging you in a positive way.


Someone on LSA was just talking about how they prefer blue collar men over educated black men for this reason. THEY ARE HORRIBLE, and won't treat you good unless you're white or look white.


Side note: just like on LSA, you wouldn't believe this, but the conscious rappers have the most horrible tea threads about them lying, manipulating and cheating on multiple women in a horrible way.

Just visit the j Cole, the k dot, Lupe threads and see the things women hear about them.

ALL BAD.


My dude is blue collar and a business owner. I couldn't deal with them educated types either, even though I am myself.

Yep. Black men take advantage of this shallow pool they are swimming in. If they were outside of their community they wouldn't be so arrogant because they would get that "you are average compared to other men" wake up call.

 

[LadySimone]

Undeveloped minds

Shes right though.

 

[karim]

Astute observation. The bad guys get the vagina when it's new and wear it out for the simp she eventually settles for after the hood nikkas jumped around in the p*ssy like it was a jungle gym.

 

[The Mad Titan]

The problem is that for black culture there are 4 types of men...nerdy, thugs, rich and players. Its like the option to be a regular black male has been taking away. If your a regular your lumped into the nerdy category or your just considered lame.


You can even see it on this board over and over. If your regular your a lame, boring nerdy nikka. And thats why no one wants you..


And once you get over 26 and are regular as a black male its not a cool thing for most women, because we have been put into a box as black men. I hope you play some kind of sport, work out 24/7 or have swag. Otherwise good luck trying to not fall into the stereotype.



That is until your 30 plus then you become a "good man" and are far more desirable....but what self respecting dude wants to take on someones left overs or mistakes? Its a lame game but that's how it goes.

 

[MikelArteta]

The problem is that for black culture there are 4 types of men...nerdy, thugs, rich and players. Its like the option to be a regular black male has been taking away. If your a regular your lumped into the nerdy category or your just considered lame.


You can even see it on this board over and over. If your regular your a lame, boring nerdy nikka. And thats why no one wants you..


And once you get over 26 and are regular as a black male its not a cool thing for most women, because we have been put into a box as black men. I hope you play some kind of sport, work out 24/7 or have swag. Otherwise good luck trying to not fall into the stereotype.



That is until your 30 plus then you become a "good man" and are far more desirable....but what self respecting dude wants to take on someones left overs or mistakes? Its a lame game but that's how it goes.

this is why we pawg and paag

 

[MikelArteta]

I understand some of you guys' frustration but honestly do you want the same thing at 30 that you did at 19, 20, or even mid 20s? Guess what. Your wants and needs will change at 40, 60, 80. What do you guys expect. Many People like the fast life when they're younger. Men like bad women- the beautiful women with bad attitudes- and women like bad boys. Honestly how many young men are trying to seriously date or court nice girls? Not many. Then when men and women age and mature physiologically they just want more mellow monogamous relationships. I'll never understand why y'all expect teenagers and young adults to want the same thing that older adults want. It doesn't make sense from a developmental point of view. And then add in the fact that a lot of these people are in the industry and are around other people (and a culture) who are forever hooking up and dating everyone and anyone with a pulse. It's what they do. It's a different world.

what frustration? Like I would even cavort with such low hanging fruit. Unlike some fatherless fakkits in here, I'm actually mentoring in the community and putting my time and money where my mouth is trying to fix this disease.

This is exactly what I'm talking about when a man speaks up about the disease and the decay in his communities hes frustrated? I live in the suburbs in a million dollar house with a population that is like 1.5% black, I just care about my community and the disease that is rampant. Poverty, ignorance, promiscuity, abuse, violene all tied back to procreating and carrying that bad boy dna and 80% oow rate, of course people like the fast life when there younger, but the black community is the only community where this life is deemed ok and praised you go girl, aww that baby so cute, as the life of poverty, crime, food stamps, welfare, community housing, undeveloped minds and abuse continues.

Young men do what is necessary to "get teh girl" so to speak, black women have deemed thugs, players, and nikkaz who keep a rolodex of women as status symbol and widely spread their legs time and time again, you planted these seeds. If black women decided NO MAS, rugged, good for nthing nikkaz offering nothing that the gate is finally closed, the black man will adapt, just like they went from baggy clothes to button ups to tight fitted wear, from fitteds to snapbacks etc.

Its sad but a criminal record is like a Harvard degree, good dikk is equivalent to love and a kid out of wedlock is like a wedding ring to a segment.

Demand more brehettes

 

[Blackout]

Society letting black men be promiscuous....

Society of both black men and women

 

[LadySimone]

How is this undeveloped minds when it is the truth!?

We are women telling you OUR experiences, and you are dismissing them!


Listen up... It's a lot of things you so called "good guys" can learn from bad guys! There IS a reason why women like them, and it's not because women are all "mentally off".


It's because of the way some of them (not all) treat you and make you feel. I. The end, that's what it's all about! How someone TREATS you and makes you feel!



You can go out with a street dude and learn a lot from him, have good conversations, fun, not uptight and not picky, not mean spirited... Then go out with a "good guy" who is a TOTAL a$$hole!


Complaining about prices. Horrible conversation. Criticizing everything you say. Talking down to you. Making sure you KNOW he's smarter than you, and soooo much better than all those "bad guys" women want. Negative. Petty.



Plenty of women know this, and plenty have women have experienced this.

ESPECIALLY with black men! It's like successful black men come up, and go around looking down their nose at everyone who doesn't have what they have and demand to be worshipped cause they did the right thing, but treat people like shyt.(there are successful black women with bad entitled attitudes too)

That's not cool, bruh!


I got a good man, and I know from experience.

Just because someone is a "good guy" doesn't mean he's a "good guy"!

You know this socalled good dudes only on that cocky shyt around black people right??. When they in white circles they are humble pie. Then come back to black women talmbout, white girls treat me good. Nikka I bet they do, you been on your best behaviour since your first date with her to Applebys because you know, unlike black women, you got TONS of competition for her from white Asian latinos and other dudes.

@Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[LadySimone]

We got a event down here in the hood in Miami every 2 or 3 months, it's a white collar event with alot of sucessful brothers, no lie... all these dudes caking major, nikkas shaking hands with the mayor one Haitian cat who came up through the struggle went on to become a successful doctor then branched off into politics

The egos in that muthafukka

Every nikka in there got on the full 3 piece suit, fresh cufflinks, business cards, benz outside and everyone under 35

Baddest bytches you'll see in your life all of them single but they can't deal with these nikkas

Every sister in their natural hair, slim highly educated

I went to the bathroom overheard some sisters complaining about bougie ass nikkas who think they special...

One girl was like fukk this, I'm get me a blue collar man

I'm in their, I couldn't even compete I just went outside and wait for my boys to come out, all that education and sucess and no one can get along

Half them girls gonna end up with a hard working dude who just loves them for them regardless of money, they see the writing on the wall.

These black men know they got it going on, they know women are literally throwing themselves at them, they literally got 3 to 5 women at night to fukk if they choose

They live life all day everyday.

Black women done created a monster

Its actually black men who created that monster because they don't have compettion from other black men with felonies, high school drop outs. etc. Trust and believe all them nikkas up in that room would be as quiet as a church mouse if they were in a room full of white men.

 

[LadySimone]

Yep, its like these women are crowned Queens for being single mothers....its disgusting. This is a backwards society. Everybody takes care and upholds the single mother.

And black men are crowned "good black men" just for having a job. So the standards seem really low for all black people.

 

[LadySimone]

Wait wait wait... How the fukk is a good guy a "total a$$hole"????????????? Being educated and successful doesn't make you a good person. We aren't talking about those accolades, we're talking about just being a good person in general, you can be broke and from the hood and be a good person. A genuine bad guy by definition is a bad person, and women who go after those men ARE mentally damaged from physical or sexual abuse and abandonment by their father.

But because of the degraded standards in the hood having an education and a job makes a black man good. We cant judge his character because if we do we are colluding with white supremacy to bring a brother down. So we just have to celebrate him like a golden calf.

 

[LadySimone]

a good guy to these chicks = a good job, good credit, good dikk

And you guys benefit the most.