Coil Women: why did he hit you?

[Hiphoplives4eva]

we both have bad tempers and our arguments always turned physical. we both were violent towards each other. I tried to stab him once but he wrestled the knife out of my hand.

 

[thoushallhustle]

what?

 

[tater]

My grandpa hit my grandma a few times. She's an evangelist so she was trying to save his soul.

He was legit crazy. He had SEVERE PTSD from being in Vietnam. He called all Asian people Charlie, every time gun-like noises would go off he would flinch, and he was also addicted to heroin. He's not my blood, he's a step grandpa (WTF is that...).

Honestly, I could see through all of the craziness he was a good person, just with a lot of issues, but IMO he was to far gone to salvage. He hit my grandma so he gets no love

He's dead though now. I guess it wasn't a common thing, but she stayed with him trying to send his soul to be with the LAWD .

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

My grandpa hit my grandma a few times. She's an evangelist so she was trying to save his soul.

He was legit crazy. He had SEVERE PTSD from being in Vietnam. He called all Asian people Charlie, every time gun-like noises would go off he would flinch, and he was also addicted to heroin. He's not my blood, he's a step grandpa (WTF is that...).

Honestly, I could see through all of the craziness he was a good person, just with a lot of issues, but IMO he was to far gone to salvage. He hit my grandma so he gets no love

He's dead though now. I guess it wasn't a common thing, but she stayed with him trying to send his soul to be with the LAWD .

 

[Claudex]

I wouldn't get back together with him. Not hit but choked and pinned me down with a pillow on my face

Damn girl, that's some crazy shyt. I'm certainly glad you didn't get that Stockholm syndrome these po' girls usually get.

You still didn't answer the question though; why did he do it?
I'm sure he was crazy and thus had crazy reasons backing his irrational actions...but what were those crazy reasons?

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Never fool

 

[Claudex]

we both have bad tempers and our arguments always turned physical. we both were violent towards each other. I tried to stab him once but he wrestled the knife out of my hand.

That's very honest of you...would you say you've become less violent after that particular relationship...or have you not been in another relationship since?

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

Damn girl, that's some crazy shyt. I'm certainly glad you didn't get that Stockholm syndrome these po' girls usually get.

You still didn't answer the question though; why did he do it?
I'm sure he was crazy and thus had crazy reasons backing his irrational actions...but what were those crazy reasons?

We were living together after we broke up (I was about to move out) and he came home drunk one morning after partying all night. He was trying to hug and kiss me, and I was pushing him away... It was really scary- I almost passed out from the choking. fukk that. I never came back.

 

[Claudex]

We were living together after we broke up (I was about to move out) and he came home drunk one morning after partying all night. He was trying to hug and kiss me, and I was pushing him away... It was really scary- I almost passed out from the choking. fukk that. I never came back.

Ugh, shoulda known alcohol was the culprit.
I mean, chocking and throwing a pillow over your girl's face? Unless he's mentally ill, it makes sense only if you add booze to that story.

Hope that experience didn't make you steer clear of engaging in relationships. Sometimes we all go through some shyt before we meet that special one, that's just the way it goes.

 

[Dwolf]

we both have bad tempers and our arguments always turned physical. we both were violent towards each other. I tried to stab him once but he wrestled the knife out of my hand.

Sounds like a match made in heaven

 

[Ronnie Lott]

I wouldn't get back together with him. Not hit but choked and pinned me down with a pillow on my face

What was the reason why he smothered you?

Edit: I see you responded already

 

[Ronnie Lott]

Never, fool

That smart mouth could lead to somethin one day

 

[Desirous]

@Desirous doesn't date black so she doesn't get hit

Yes I do, I just haven't dated abusive men, so I haven't experienced it. I don't know anyone in my family who has experienced abuse...so can't comment in this thread.

 

[mortuus est]

I wouldn't get back together with him. Not hit but choked and pinned me down with a pillow on my face

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Yes I do, I just haven't dated abusive men, so I haven't experienced it. I don't know anyone in my family who has experienced abuse...so can't comment in this thread.

I was once involved in abusive relationship

But this was prior to learning about the teachings of #HOH