Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

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So im finally delivering the thread after being lazy as hell as always :russ:
So in my post in the other thread I wrote:


Yeah ima do that thread today, gonna be sort of a „blog“, gonna tell y‘all strategies, approaches, report how much p*ssy I get with that / my current state/ roster etc etc
Common mistakes
Some good knowledge with women in general and so on


So i‘ll deliver exactly this. To make this better to follow Ill do this „chronologically“ so my first post here is about mindstate etc.
Ill post new things every couple days.


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So first of all I gotta clarify that this is a guide thats from my perspective. Ive mentioned this on the board a couple times that Im not looking for a relationship or something serious. Im just on the fwb/ons and generallly just some no strings attached, no drama & no feelings. The strategies for approaching are the same tho even if you are looking for girls to build a relationship with so Im sure those people will find useful information here as well.


For my first post & before you can even start approaching women you have to get in the right mindstate & „self knowledge“. Me personally, Im not looking for anything serious, im not looking for a person to build a relationship with, im not looking for a girl to have feelings for. Im just approaching good looking women when I see them because of the visual attraction. Since Im not on an „emotional pursuit“ (ill call it this because I cant think of something better atm) it doesnt bother me if I get rejected because there is no connection to that person on an emotional level. I invest zero emotion into the situation, thats why it doesnt scare me or can provoke a fear of rejection in my mind. At the end of the day its just one single woman of billions of women on the planet that I talk to, if i get em & smash cool, if not I wasted a few minutes and will most likely never see them again in my life. So in the grand scheme of things thats like 0,000000000000000000 whatever percent of ly lifetime I invest in an unsuccessful approach. So why the hell should I be worried ???
Especially the no feelings part may sound a bit cold & calculated to some people and maybe it is but Im an immaculate talker so thats something that easily makes me get control and dominance in a conversation/enables me to push the conversation in the direction I want it to, so if you want to call me a manipulative a$$hole you can do that :yeshrug:
Im not some kind of disrespectful supervillain tho, so Im not looking to humiliate women or anything, when I get rejected Im always unbothered by it and still reply in a relaxed & cool manner to it, as opposed to those idiots that get all mad because they think a girl owes them sex/their number/ a cheeseburger or whatever the fukk else they expect...
So Ill say my mindset & lack of emotional invest makes the approach so easy and like a game I like to play for the sport of it and competing with myself in how I use my abilities & talking to get girls. Couple that with some :myman:level self consciousness, the ability to not take things too seriously and the immaculate talking is a pretty effective mix.


Again, this is MY mindset, state and approaching. But maybe as a tip to the people here that are not that emotionally univested/numb on their pursuit of women is to not let a (at this point) person you dont even know yet provoke a fear of rejection or any kind of negative emotion in you before you even taked to her. She has no knowledge of you, no opinion yet, no „power“ over your thoughts or your personal well being so there is no reason to place her on an emotional pedestral.


I hope this is at least halfway good for a first post, Ill structure this better as we move on in the thread, ill provide my own experiences, talk about my approaches, roster, lil tips, new infos etc etc from my everyday life as we progress. Im just glad i conquered my lazyness for now and actually typed all that out

:russ:



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So im finally delivering the thread after being lazy as hell as always :russ:
So in my post in the other thread I wrote:


Yeah ima do that thread today, gonna be sort of a „blog“, gonna tell y‘all strategies, approaches, report how much p*ssy I get with that / my current state/ roster etc etc
Common mistakes
Some good knowledge with women in general and so on


So i‘ll deliver exactly this. To make this better to follow Ill do this „chronologically“ so my first post here is about mindstate etc.
Ill post new things every couple days.


————


So first of all I gotta clarify that this is a guide thats from my perspective. Ive mentioned this on the board a couple times that Im not looking for a relationship or something serious. Im just on the fwb/ons and generallly just some no strings attached, no drama & no feelings. The strategies for approaching are the same tho even if you are looking for girls to build a relationship with so Im sure those people will find useful information here as well.


For my first post & before you can even start approaching women you have to get in the right mindstate & „self knowledge“. Me personally, Im not looking for anything serious, im not looking for a person to build a relationship with, im not looking for a girl to have feelings for. Im just approaching good looking women when I see them because of the visual attraction. Since Im not on an „emotional pursuit“ (ill call it this because I cant think of something better atm) it doesnt bother me if I get rejected because there is no connection to that person on an emotional level. I invest zero emotion into the situation, thats why it doesnt scare me or can provoke a fear of rejection in my mind. At the end of the day its just one single woman of billions of women on the planet that I talk to, if i get em & smash cool, if not I wasted a few minutes and will most likely never see them again in my life. So in the grand scheme of things thats like 0,000000000000000000 whatever percent of ly lifetime I invest in an unsuccessful approach. So why the hell should I be worried ???
Especially the no feelings part may sound a bit cold & calculated to some people and maybe it is but Im an immaculate talker so thats something that easily makes me get control and dominance in a conversation/enables me to push the conversation in the direction I want it to, so if you want to call me a manipulative a$$hole you can do that :yeshrug:
Im not some kind of disrespectful supervillain tho, so Im not looking to humiliate women or anything, when I get rejected Im always unbothered by it and still reply in a relaxed & cool manner to it, as opposed to those idiots that get all mad because they think a girl owes them sex/their number/ a cheeseburger or whatever the fukk else they expect...
So Ill say my mindset & lack of emotional invest makes the approach so easy and like a game I like to play for the sport of it and competing with myself in how I use my abilities & talking to get girls. Couple that with some :myman:level self consciousness, the ability to not take things too seriously and the immaculate talking is a pretty effective mix.


Again, this is MY mindset, state and approaching. But maybe as a tip to the people here that are not that emotionally univested/numb on their pursuit of women is to not let a (at this point) person you dont even know yet provoke a fear of rejection or any kind of negative emotion in you before you even taked to her. She has no knowledge of you, no opinion yet, no „power“ over your thoughts or your personal well being so there is no reason to place her on an emotional pedestral.


I hope this is at least halfway good for a first post, Ill structure this better as we move on in the thread, ill provide my own experiences, talk about my approaches, roster, lil tips, new infos etc etc from my everyday life as we progress. Im just glad i conquered my lazyness for now and actually typed all that out

:russ:



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Damn, lol I forgot you was suppose to make this thread. One thing I like is how you spoke about emotionally invested into somebody that doesn't know you.
 

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@1-8-7-Skillz I remember one time bro. I think it was my senior year in high school. Probably junior .So I'm getting out of class, I'm leaving, im going home. While walking to the bus stop I see this decent Lil chocolate chick. So I'm like fukk it, I'm about to shoot my shot. So shorty walk past me, I tap her on the shoulder I'm like


Me::ld: heeeyyyy


Bro why she wait until she got a good distance away from me turned around and said


Her::stopitslime: DONT TOUCH ME, UGLY ASS



Bro my lil ass went from :gucci::dwillhuh: :mjcry::wow: in a matter of minutes. I was stuck. I went straight to the bus stop after that and went home and went to sleep. I don't cold approach for the rest of that year. If that was now
I would of got disrespectful. But back my self esteem was already crushed
 

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@1-8-7-Skillz I remember one time bro. I think it was my senior year in high school. Probably junior .So I'm getting out of class, I'm leaving, im going home. While walking to the bus stop I see this decent Lil chocolate chick. So I'm like fukk it, I'm about to shoot my shot. So shorty walk past me, I tap her on the shoulder I'm like


Me::ld: heeeyyyy


Bro why she wait until she got a good distance away from me turned around and said


Her::stopitslime: DONT TOUCH ME, UGLY ASS



Bro my lil ass went from :gucci::dwillhuh: :mjcry::wow: in a matter of minutes. I was stuck. I went straight to the bus stop after that and went home and went to sleep. I don't cold approach for the rest of that year. If that was now
I would of got disrespectful. But back my self esteem was already crushed

Damn bro :deadmanny:
The right thing wouldve been not to let this get to you emotionally and be like :yeshrug:
If that ever happened to me, Id :russ: at it for how much like some bad movie scene that would seem :russ:
 

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Damn bro :deadmanny:
The right thing wouldve been not to let this get to you emotionally and be like :yeshrug:
If that ever happened to me, Id :russ: at it for how much like some bad movie scene that would seem :russ:

Lol that's why unless we got some type of commitment or understanding I stay out my feelings now. Ain't no point in being emotionally invested in every chick that u fun across
 

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The "looks" aspect:

One of the most common misconceptions is that you have to be a good looking guy to approach/get/smash women. Now first of all "good" looks are obviously subjective, but I can guarantee you that you dont have to look like a male model or anything like that to be successfull. Still in a certain way looks do matter. But thats in an "appearance" way. That means the way you carry yourself, your body language, the expression on your face, looking "clean", having clothes that match your style and the self consciousness to pull that off. Ive known dudes who were often complimented by women for looking very attractiv/beautiful etc. but they didnt have success in actually getting girls because they had no persona/no mouthpiece/and were shy as hell. So even if you look a certain way, maybe even blend in well with those typical male model looks thats not some magic cheat code to get women if you dont actually have the "swag".

On the other hand you often see dudes making all kinds of excuses for not doing any approaching, often those guys talk about "im not good looking", "im not in top shape", "I dont have expensive clothes" etc. etc. But those are merely excuses for actually not having the right mindset/being shy/no self consciousness. I cant even count how often I saw dudes who most women wouldnt exactly consider model looking guys pull stunningly good looking women. Those dudes just go in with a different mindset/their mouthiece is on point and they are not shook of those women and whatever they say/think or the games they might tryna play. Im sure everyone has had at least one moment where he was at houseparty/club/bar or whatever and saw one of those dudes pull dimes and wondered :damn: how the fukk did THAT guy pull THIS girl :mindblown:....

So if you are talking about looks, dont use it as an excuse. Your goal should be to present what you have in the most convincing way. A part of that is the right clothes, a good hygiene, how you walk, your expressions, body language etc. Another part is you mindset, moutpiece, self consciousness. Thats something you gotta have on point because that sepparates you from those shy/shook people who arent at peace with themselves/dont trust in themselves and this is absolute kryptonite, not only in getting women but also in much more important aspects of your life.
 
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