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Aceofspades404

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go after someone while your in a relationship?
Let's say you have this huge crush on someone but the stars just aren't aligning. You meet someone else, you like them and you figure what the heck but you still have that other person in the back of your mind. Later on, the opportunity to get with your crush presents itself but you are still in a relationship. Under what circumstances is this ok and not considered cheating?

I think when men do this, the other woman ends up looking like a whore but when a woman does it, she looks like a whore and the other guy just looks like captain save 'em (in a good way).

Men are winning once again.:upsetfavre:
 

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I've never called a woman a whore for going after someone while she was in a relationship. Maybe because I've seen a lot of guys do it so I was like :manny: when I see women do it. Guys only call a woman a whore for doing that because they want to be able to do it to her but don't want it to happen to them. I don't think they're hoes, just terrible people. It's never ok to do it. You're making the person you're in a relationship with think you like/love them so theyre doing everything they can to make you happy but you're just using them until you find someone better. fukked up.

I don't go after guys when I'm single so I wouldn't do it while Im in a relationship. However, I have known the guys I've ended up dating while I was in a relationship. Like I met my current bf while I was still with my ex (he's friends with my ex's best friend. I didn't just randomly meet him on the street lol) I don't know if that's the same. :patrice:
 

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I don't go after guys when I'm single so I wouldn't do it while Im in a relationship. However, I have known the guys I've ended up dating while I was in a relationship. Like I met my current bf while I was still with my ex (he's friends with my ex's best friend. I didn't just randomly meet him on the street lol) I don't know if that's the same. :patrice:
Were you "talking" to him? if so that's what I mean. Not physically cheating.
 

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go after someone while your in a relationship?
Let's say you have this huge crush on someone but the stars just aren't aligning. You meet someone else, you like them and you figure what the heck but you still have that other person in the back of your mind. Later on, the opportunity to get with your crush presents itself but you are still in a relationship. Under what circumstances is this ok and not considered cheating?

I think when men do this, the other woman ends up looking like a whore but when a woman does it, she looks like a whore and the other guy just looks like captain save 'em (in a good way). Men are winning once again.:upsetfavre:

What does the bold mean?

Why would you be crushing on someone not the boyfriend? That's a red flag for trouble in your original relationship. Either fix the trouble or end it and begin anew with the crush. No straddling the fence.
 

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go after someone while your in a relationship?
Let's say you have this huge crush on someone but the stars just aren't aligning. You meet someone else, you like them and you figure what the heck but you still have that other person in the back of your mind. Later on, the opportunity to get with your crush presents itself but you are still in a relationship. Under what circumstances is this ok and not considered cheating?

I think when men do this, the other woman ends up looking like a whore but when a woman does it, she looks like a whore and the other guy just looks like captain save 'em (in a good way).

Men are winning once again.:upsetfavre:

Who cares what other people think? Do what you want.
 

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What does the bold mean?

Why would you be crushing on someone not the boyfriend? That's a red flag for trouble in your original relationship. Either fix the trouble or end it and begin anew with the crush. No things addling the fence.
It means that things aren't going as planned or accordingly
 

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What does the bold mean?

Why would you be crushing on someone not the boyfriend? That's a red flag for trouble in your original relationship. Either fix the trouble or end it and begin anew with the crush. No straddling the fence.
breh this aint about me. And the crush occurred way before the other person came into the picture. The crush just never stopped. That's the problem.
It's just a question that popped up after reading
http://www.thecoli.com/threads/is-there-a-male-on-this-site-that-is-actually-faithful.236225/
 

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breh this aint about me. And the crush occurred way before the other person came into the picture. The crush just never stopped. That's the problem.
It's just a question that popped up after reading
http://www.thecoli.com/threads/is-there-a-male-on-this-site-that-is-actually-faithful.236225/

My comments are geared towards whoever the story is about...(you meaning the general person)
No matter when the crush started; end one relationship before you begin another. the timing still wouldn't be right if the woman is still in a relationship.
 
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