Coli Brethren Please help, I’m confused.

[Chrome2279]

OK I need some help simplifying something.

I have this coworker, she claims that she was in a lesbian Relationship for four years. Stated that she was the Fem, And that she only liked masculine types.

She has since gotten married and has been married to a man for over 10 years. She says that she’s only attracted to masculine types, but refuses to identify herself as bisexual. Because she has been committed all this time to this one man.

So here’s where I’m confused, I’m a straight man so I can’t really relate to this. But I’ve always been told that once you’re gay you’re always gay. Is this not true? I don’t understand how you can just flat out stop being gay altogether if you were in a gay relationship for so long. To me that would mean that you have to be at least somewhat gay right? Attracted to masculine women?

If this is true then does that mean that anyone can turn off being gay? I’m not trying to be insensitive to those that are gay, but This chick has confused the hell out of me. Is she just living a lie and wants me to believe it, Or is this confusing shyt common with women?

 

[Gold]

She bi

There I simplified it

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

I think you’re associating sexuality with feelings for someone you’ve decided to commit to. Two different categories.

 

[DropTopDoc]

She bi

There I simplified it

Thank you and that’s all folks

/thread

 

[Chrome2279]

I think you’re associating sexuality with feelings for someone you’ve decided to commit to. Two different categories.

So you wouldn’t say that would be bisexual if gender doesn’t matter? Because she’s claiming to not be bisexual at all and that she’s over it. Which I find hard to believe, unless this is a real thing and no one ever talks about it.

 

[Coco Loco]

She bi

There I simplified it

This! The shyt ain't that complicated. That bird is bi but doesn't want to label herself as such since she's been married to a man for 10 years. Guarantee if you put a masculine p*ssy in her face she'd eat it.

 

[Diondon]

Men have different rules than women

 

[Chrome2279]

This! The shyt ain't that complicated. That bird is bi but doesn't want to label herself as such since she's been married to a man for 10 years. Guarantee if you put a masculine p*ssy in her face she'd eat it.

Yeah that’s what I was thinking too, but then I started thinking maybe this is a real thing no one talks about. Because it confuse the hell out of me, I mean how do you claim to not be gay after being in a former gay relationship for four years? ... I’ve never heard of a gay man saying that. But this woman in particular, seems weird. OK so maybe I’m not crazy, the chick is going to always be at least bisexual. Like I was thinking before.

 

[Coco Loco]

Yeah that’s what I was thinking too, but then I started thinking maybe this is a real thing no one talks about. Because it confuse the hell out of me, I mean how do you claim to not be gay after being in a former gay relationship for four years? ... I’ve never heard of a gay man saying that. But this woman in particular, seems weird. OK so maybe I’m not crazy, the check is going to always be at least bisexual. Like I was thinking before.

Nope, she's the crazy and delusional one.

 

[fckyoupayme]

Sexuality is on a continuum. Your position on the continuum is not fixed and can change as you move throughout life.

 

[Gold]

Sexuality is on a continuum. Your position on the continuum is not fixed and can change as you move throughout life.

Millions of gay people would vehemently disagree with you on this one

 

[Chrome2279]

Sexuality is on a continuum. Your position on the continuum is not fixed and can change as you move throughout life.

I always hear about how gay men leave their wives to be gay once they’ve accepted it. I never hear of gay men becoming former gay men and marry women.

In this instance I’m hearing about a former gay woman, now stating that she’s 100% straight. Maybe its societies representation of this. But I find it hard to understand.

At least I’m trying to be open minded to understand, are you saying that once you’re no longer of the mindset of being gay, that you can in fact be no longer gay?

 

[Maruchan]

Sexuality is on a continuum. Your position on the continuum is not fixed and can change as you move throughout life.

Correct answer

Gay, bi, straight etc... are simply social terms created to label shyt. A person can wield as much "masculine" or "feminine" energy as they want to because energy is infinite. People like people at the end of the day.

 

[fckyoupayme]

I always hear about how gay men leave their wives to be gay once they’ve accepted it. I never hear of gay men becoming former gay men and marry women.

In this instance I’m hearing about a former gay woman, now stating that she’s 100% straight. Maybe its societies representation of this. But I find it hard to understand.

At least I’m trying to be open minded to understand, are you saying that once you’re no longer of the mindset of being gay, that you can in fact be no longer gay?

Logically I believe so. However I do not think society allows certain people that latitude.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

She's bi just doesn't wanna be labeled as such.