Coli brettas: can you raise another man's child ?

[agnosticlady]

Maybe these negrums should take personal responsibility and marry the women of their children, after all it does take two to make a baby. In other cultures, if a man has a child with a women out of wedlock, he is socially obliged to marry that women, I've seen this in many cultures such as African, Arab, Asian even whites. This social obligation goes out the window with black men, hence the mess we are in.

BTW I'm not sure why you're insinuating that children of these single mothers are a result of one night stands, a lot of them are from normal relationships.

And a lot of those women enter relationships with worthless men who do not have marriage on their mind. Instead they should enter relationships with men who are focused on building and maintaining communities. In addition to that, some of those women go on to have more kids by the same man or a different man after he showed that he is not a man worth procreating with.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

Couldn't have said it better myself. Exactly why I have a STRICT NO KIDS POLICY... But i still end up being a "bytch" for feeling this way.

fukk em

You get to choose who you procreate with. Just like they did.

 

[thirdeye]

pre made kids....maybe, depends on a lot of factors actually

 

[miranda]

Maybe these negrums should take personal responsibility and marry the women of their children, after all it does take two to make a baby. In other cultures, if a man has a child with a women out of wedlock, he is socially obliged to marry that women, I've seen this in many cultures such as African, Arab, Asian even whites. This social obligation goes out the window with black men, hence the mess we are in.

BTW I'm not sure why you're insinuating that children of these single mothers are a result of one night stands, a lot of them are from normal relationships.

but WE know that WE dont do that "get her pregnant, you must marry her " in the american black community. the keep a ninja baby thing hasnt worked since the 50's, so any black woman getting pregnant prior to an engagement or marriage is choosing to be a single mother, and burdens her child with the negative conseqences of that choice. i would discourage any childless relative or close friend from getting romantically involved with a single parent

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

I'll admit, I broke my own rule and tried it once. He was a really good guy, and had his daughter full time. He didn't bring her up a lot, and made himself available for dates and what not. That honestly made me feel even worse. I would wonder where she was while we were out to dinner on a random Tuesday, and knew that she was a huge part of his life, so he should be able to feel comfortable talking about her.

I hope he found someone that was willing to take on that stepmom role

 

[skeetsinternal]

I could. Skeets love the kids.

 

[K_dot_Mac]

fukk em

You get to choose who you procreate with. Just like they did.

Not only all Of that ... But I feel like 1. I'm not asking you to help out or put up with any kids and 2. You having a child limits what you can put into me as far as time and attention.
I would be able to make you my fist/only priority ... But I will always play second to your child, rightfully so though ... Because your child should come first.

I'm not knocking guys with kids ... If you taken care of your shorties I will be the first to applaud you, but I'm selfish and don't like playing second.

 

[twan83]

?

U know I do
Somebody got take care of the fatherless kids

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

Not only all Of that ... But I feel like 1. I'm not asking you to help out or put up with any kids and 2. You having a child limits what you can put into me as far as time and attention.
I would be able to make you my fist/only priority ... But I will always play second to your child, rightfully so though ... Because your child should come first.

I'm not knocking guys with kids ... If you taken care of your shorties I will be the first to applaud you, but I'm selfish and don't like playing second.

So much truth here too that about sums it up.

 

[acpower]

I could. Skeets love the kids.

As long as they are Cacs

Child support is what you bum ass black bytches have when you weaponize the courts to get back at the man who left yo crazy, no talent, ratchet asses. I swear you bum ass bytches love running to your white Daddys in the courts to castrate men financially and for the paycheck to get your weaves and nails done. No one wants to marry a black bytch, you can't have anything stable with an irrational dumb black bytch, there is no family without the man in the family but you dumb black bytches do everything to make yourselves unappealing to any man

 

[PortCityProphet]

Might as well with the way I son these
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Spoiler: Pcp cares for the chillens

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[Dwayne_Taylor]

When I was younger, no. But time is making me reconsider.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Raise? No, not sure.
I can develop a relationship with the child, and give advice, but at the end of the day, Im not their mom. Especially, if their mom is alive and in the picture, I'll never replace her or try to. I'll just hopefully become someone that they can trust and come talk to if they need anything.

 

[VFib]

I tried it once, with someone who was a friend first. He constantly reminded me that this was HIS child.

I haven't dated a father since.

ETA: I'm not trying to replace anyone's mother. However, if I am going to build something with someone and be a family, I feel the need to have some say. I respect it if others don't feel the same. This is why I would rather only deal with childless men. Therefore, this doesn't become an issue.

 

[Draje]

I have a kid and most of these answers don't really surprise me

Lost contact good woman because she said I was "Too good of a dad" to be in a relationship with a needy woman like her

I'm probably gonna end up with a single mom