Coli Finna Be Mad At Me: Men, your ultimate dating goal should be to be a SIMP :)

[Hov]

This is not a reverse psychology.

On the misguided, weird incel-ish "red-pill" (not sure if I'm using this word right) world of the internet, I'm opening the door for a lot of digital hate to come my way, but if one guy gets it, then that's one more happy dude in the world


I believe that your ultimate goal in your dating life with women is to end up as a SIMP.

A simp as I see it on listed on here, is someone who is willing to sometimes take a backseat to his lady. Someone who is willing to go above and beyond. Who is willing to STFU even if they are "right" and find another approach to get their point across, maybe another day, maybe a different tone. Not because they aren't pissed, but ultimately because they care about the greater good of the relationship. Willing to read about how to be a better spouse, talk to friends, listen to podcasts, go to therapy. Willing to turn down a baddie that no one would ever know about, no matter how hard it is in the moment, because they respect the one they are with. Willing to be with her when she is acting off, sad, having life issues for a few months, hair looking crazy, etc. Willing to take time off the grind to plot things to do with her that you don't even care about just to make her feel happy in the moment.

Everything that people get called a super simp for, there are way more than I typed (please share more) you should strive to be doing.

Here's the kicker:

Men are jaded and getting f'd over/played/or GMB'd not because they are doing these things with the WRONG WOMEN.

There are dudes on here that judge women, even potential women that are for them, based on thots that go speak on podcasts, or weirdos with Youtube channels, or anime icon accounts on Twitter, or OBVIOUSLY mentally off, or even teenage "women" on Lipstickalley type sites....

You don't like those women, they don't like you. WTF does their opinions matter?

Most dudes here don't go to clubs or party, but get mad when they get played by a chick they find in a club or has a party lifestyle. All the while, you like typing on TheColi and watching anime or some shyt...and there are mad chicks out here that LOVE what you LOVE. But, just like people do with any stereotype, we judge the group off of the worst examples.

When you really with someone you are SUPPOSED to be with, those things do not feel like being a simp, because if someone called you that, in real life or on the internet, you wouldn't give a damn, nor does what someone you never met or barely know opinion matters in any way, plus that person is most likely NOT happy at all.

Yall will be happier dudes when you stop consuming content from women who are not well in their own mental space or place in life, or are delusional, and start looking at the women who actually are in the spaces that you find yourself in, if you are in the space that YOU want to be in, which is another problem itself a lot of times....

I didn't listen to KS much, but I feel like his message to men was "get yourself the F together and stop worrying about what women got going on"...

Go be a "simp" to the right one BREHS she out there, and you will be much happier than getting your jokes off on The Coli or arguing with ill people on Twitter

 

[cyndaquil]

 

[Software]

Being a good partner and being a simp are two different things OP. Terrible take.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

^^ This guy has some of the most essential dating advice dealing with modern woman.

 

[Mowgli]

This is not a reverse psychology.

On the misguided, weird incel-ish "red-pill" (not sure if I'm using this word right) world of the internet, I'm opening the door for a lot of digital hate to come my way, but if one guy gets it, then that's one more happy dude in the world


I believe that your ultimate goal in your dating life with women is to end up as a SIMP.

A simp as I see it on listed on here, is someone who is willing to sometimes take a backseat to his lady. Someone who is willing to go above and beyond. Who is willing to STFU even if they are "right" and find another approach to get their point across, maybe another day, maybe a different tone. Not because they aren't pissed, but ultimately because they care about the greater good of the relationship. Willing to read about how to be a better spouse, talk to friends, listen to podcasts, go to therapy. Willing to turn down a baddie that no one would ever know about, no matter how hard it is in the moment, because they respect the one they are with. Willing to be with her when she is acting off, sad, having life issues for a few months, hair looking crazy, etc. Willing to take time off the grind to plot things to do with her that you don't even care about just to make her feel happy in the moment.

Everything that people get called a super simp for, there are way more than I typed (please share more) you should strive to be doing.

Here's the kicker:

Men are jaded and getting f'd over/played/or GMB'd not because they are doing these things with the WRONG WOMEN.

There are dudes on here that judge women, even potential women that are for them, based on thots that go speak on podcasts, or weirdos with Youtube channels, or anime icon accounts on Twitter, or OBVIOUSLY mentally off, or even teenage "women" on Lipstickalley type sites....

You don't like those women, they don't like you. WTF does their opinions matter?

Most dudes here don't go to clubs or party, but get mad when they get played by a chick they find in a club or has a party lifestyle. All the while, you like typing on TheColi and watching anime or some shyt...and there are mad chicks out here that LOVE what you LOVE. But, just like people do with any stereotype, we judge the group off of the worst examples.

When you really with someone you are SUPPOSED to be with, those things do not feel like being a simp, because if someone called you that, in real life or on the internet, you wouldn't give a damn, nor does what someone you never met or barely know opinion matters in any way, plus that person is most likely NOT happy at all.

Yall will be happier dudes when you stop consuming content from women who are not well in their own mental space or place in life, or are delusional, and start looking at the women who actually are in the spaces that you find yourself in, if you are in the space that YOU want to be in, which is another problem itself a lot of times....

I didn't listen to KS much, but I feel like his message to men was "get yourself the F together and stop worrying about what women got going on"...

Go be a "simp" to the right one BREHS she out there, and you will be much happier than getting your jokes off on The Coli or arguing with ill people on Twitter

Call your father and share this with him

 

[SNG]

I'm a say you literally have to be 50/50. 50 percent simp/50 percent hoh. If your chick don't love/hate you at the same time then you doing it wrong.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Typing up all that shyt no one will read

 

[RageKage]

OP pic is that of Jon Snow who was a GOAT Simp till he finally woke up (after she killed a whole city) to the error of his ways

 

[LuuqMaan]

My brother, I wish all the best things and hopefully you get what you want in life

I am not reading all that to justify simping

 

[Mashal88]

Okay, now imagine this post was reversed and targeted at women. What do you think their response would be?

Your assumption that dudes haven't or don't do a lot of these things you're asking is hilarious. A lot of men have done all of this and that probably was the reason they've changed their mindset. Even with women they thought were the RIGHT ONES.

I do agree a lot of these guys need to consume less of the youtube dating shyt, but what you're asking is for guys to be punching bags in the face of wrongness. I wouldn't even ask a woman to do that. None of us are perfect nor anywhere close to that.

Willing to read about how to be a better spouse, talk to friends, listen to podcasts, go to therapy.

This is fair advice, though, for an actual healthy relationship. But difficult due to a lifetime of social conditioning. More difficult than most women realize, or care to accept.

 

[Turbulent]

I see what you were trying to get at but naw...

I think there is a sweet spot between simping and HOH. But no i wouldn't simp. Also, there's no such thing as the right woman to simp to. Any good girl could turn bad if you simp enough.

Last thing, you should be kind but still maintain your boundaries.

 

[Devilinurear]

This is not a reverse psychology.

On the misguided, weird incel-ish "red-pill" (not sure if I'm using this word right) world of the internet, I'm opening the door for a lot of digital hate to come my way, but if one guy gets it, then that's one more happy dude in the world


I believe that your ultimate goal in your dating life with women is to end up as a SIMP.

A simp as I see it on listed on here, is someone who is willing to sometimes take a backseat to his lady. Someone who is willing to go above and beyond. Who is willing to STFU even if they are "right" and find another approach to get their point across, maybe another day, maybe a different tone. Not because they aren't pissed, but ultimately because they care about the greater good of the relationship. Willing to read about how to be a better spouse, talk to friends, listen to podcasts, go to therapy. Willing to turn down a baddie that no one would ever know about, no matter how hard it is in the moment, because they respect the one they are with. Willing to be with her when she is acting off, sad, having life issues for a few months, hair looking crazy, etc. Willing to take time off the grind to plot things to do with her that you don't even care about just to make her feel happy in the moment.

Everything that people get called a super simp for, there are way more than I typed (please share more) you should strive to be doing.

Here's the kicker:

Men are jaded and getting f'd over/played/or GMB'd not because they are doing these things with the WRONG WOMEN.

There are dudes on here that judge women, even potential women that are for them, based on thots that go speak on podcasts, or weirdos with Youtube channels, or anime icon accounts on Twitter, or OBVIOUSLY mentally off, or even teenage "women" on Lipstickalley type sites....

You don't like those women, they don't like you. WTF does their opinions matter?

Most dudes here don't go to clubs or party, but get mad when they get played by a chick they find in a club or has a party lifestyle. All the while, you like typing on TheColi and watching anime or some shyt...and there are mad chicks out here that LOVE what you LOVE. But, just like people do with any stereotype, we judge the group off of the worst examples.

When you really with someone you are SUPPOSED to be with, those things do not feel like being a simp, because if someone called you that, in real life or on the internet, you wouldn't give a damn, nor does what someone you never met or barely know opinion matters in any way, plus that person is most likely NOT happy at all.

Yall will be happier dudes when you stop consuming content from women who are not well in their own mental space or place in life, or are delusional, and start looking at the women who actually are in the spaces that you find yourself in, if you are in the space that YOU want to be in, which is another problem itself a lot of times....

I didn't listen to KS much, but I feel like his message to men was "get yourself the F together and stop worrying about what women got going on"...

Go be a "simp" to the right one BREHS she out there, and you will be much happier than getting your jokes off on The Coli or arguing with ill people on Twitter

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Not mad just sad for you

Don't dispense advice when you haven't lived

Experience is the best teacher.

People trying to rewrite the dynamics of the opposite sexes are reinventing the wheel

We are only sophisticated in tech, our nature has not changed much at all.

The same observations men have made for eons about women are still valid. fail to heed the lessons at your own peril.

A breh in here said it best. balance is key, never go full simp or full HOH on a woman you care about. it's not the way and they won't respect you at either extreme.

 

[Digital Omen]

I think OP's definition of simp is off. Those attributes you listed are not of a simp, they are of a man in a monogamous marriage who wants to make it work when the rough times come.

For the sake of the post I think it's important to define a simp. Other brehs can add on, but my definition is:

Lets a woman dominate and walk all over him.
His money becomes her money, but her money is not his money.
Saying "yes honey" to everything she says.
Not standing on his square. Bends to the whims and wishes of a woman at all times.
Believes in "happy wife, happy life"
Gives her no guidance or advice or direction. Type of dude who says "we'll go wherever you want, do whatever you want. You're in charge. I submit to you"
In the dating scene: double texting, blowing up her phone/DMs, entertains last minute ghosting/cancelling dates (by condoning that behavior instead of KIM), subscribes to her OF, puts the p*ssy on a pedestal, thirsty to the point where she's the only woman in the world in his mind.

All of these behaviors are the kiss of death. SHE WILL NEVER RESPECT HIM. What kind of relationship succeeds when there's a lack of respect? She will always see him as a simp.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Men make fun of simps because they're naive and think they can "buy" their way into affection

It doesn't work, if it did everyone would do it

It took me simping to realize that