I lurk that subreddit.

I do not consider myself an incel/femcel even though I share many traits with them.i do not "like" people are desire a relationship with them. the person who coined the term incel was a woman btw.
I think it's unfair to compare the woman incel community to Male ones. The Male ones are more violent and blame their problems on society and women.
The women one focuses on other aspects of life, how they feel their own looks and traits have affected their daily lives, and so on.