Coli Parents Help

[Kasgoinjail]

She may not even realise she is doing it
I always used to get in trouble for rude facial expressions

Maybe record her face so she can see how silly she looks

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Does she get an allowance ¿¿ if so deduct from it on each occurrence it will come to an end rather quickly.

 

[JayStarwind]

She may not even realise she is doing it
I always used to get in trouble for rude facial expressions

Maybe record her face so she can see how silly she looks

That's a good idea. She denies obvious things that she does but maybe she really doesn't know she is really doing them

 

[JayStarwind]

Does she get an allowance ¿¿ if so deduct from it on each occurrence it will come to an end rather quickly.

She doesn't get allowance. Maybe I should start giving her something monthly. That seems like a great idea as well.

 

[Lifejennings]

Where are her parents? Why are you raising her? Could the reason be why she's acting out? Have you gotten her therapy to deal with the absence of her parents?

 

[JayStarwind]

Where are her parents? Why are you raising her? Could the reason be why she's acting out? Have you gotten her therapy to deal with the absence of her parents?

I'd rather not talk about my uncle's situation but her mother passed when she was 2 and we took her in. I'll just say that environment wasn't the best. We haven't gotten her therapy.

 

[Lifejennings]

I'd rather not talk about my uncle's situation but her mother passed when she was 2 and we took her in. I'll just say that environment wasn't the best. We haven't gotten her therapy.

It might help. She's at a confusing age for girls, and the situation with her parents might be compounding on that, or she's just being a normal smart mouth know-it-all preteen.

 

[ThaBronxBully]

Flick her earlobes hard af.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

It's not that bad at all in my opinion but as I said, my mom disciplines her and that in itself is another issue. My mom believes her way of rearing (getting in my cousin's face, yelling, spankings, etc) is going to fix her issues and I have to constantly tell her that what she's doing isn't helping. I'm on the same wave as you, just take whatever my cousin likes away, but my mom gets in her "ways" sometimes. What I see as minor or just being a preteen my mom sees 100% disrespect and acts accordingly.

We can’t expect children to be respectful if they are being disrespected by The adults who are raising them.

Sounds like your mom matches little cousins energy and it’s backfiring. She needs to be open to changing her approach with a pre teen who is probably already struggling with their own issues, hormones, etc.

I believe discipline + love/kindness/compassion goes a long with with children. They are learning just like we all are.

I have a toddler so I’m a ways behind for that stage. Best of luck to you, OP.

 

[JayStarwind]

It might help. She's at a confusing age for girls, and the situation with her parents might be compounding on that, or she's just being a normal smart mouth know-it-all preteen.

I definitely think it's the latter. She thinks everything she says is a fact

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

kick her out the house

Spoiler

 

[Blankthawtz]

If you didn't raise her from birth till now then u don't have the fear/respect/control that u instill in a child so they know not to ever disrespect you in any manner.... With that said... Your best option is to talk and take away privileges.... Beating probably won't cut it at this stage.... G/L tho....

 

[JayStarwind]

We can’t expect children to be respectful if they are being disrespected by The adults who are raising them.

Sounds like your mom matches little cousins energy and it’s backfiring. She needs to be open to changing her approach with a pre teen who is probably already struggling with their own issues, hormones, etc.

I believe discipline + love/kindness/compassion goes a long with with children. They are learning just like we all are.

I have a toddler so I’m a ways behind for that stage. Best of luck to you, OP.

Congratulations and thanks for your response.

My mom is in that rooted "You're the child, I'm the adult" mindset which causes a conflict between me and her because I suggest alternatives and I have to remind her that my cousin is only mimicking how you react/respond to her.

 

[fckyoupayme]

Reward the behavior that you want to see. Create a visual, like a chart that you put on the fridge. One side has behaviors that you want with rewards; the other has consequences. Clearly communicate the rewards and consequences. From then on always be consistent. Never back down from what you said you will reward or consequence.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

She don't have enough fear of yall. That's really it. shyt, I was crazy as a teen, but I knew my mama was crazier. I knew she would literally beat my ass, and I was scared of my mom. I was scared, yall. I notice that when kids really are afraid of their parents, yeah they still act up, but they know their's levels too it. Like they know they ain't gonna pull certain stuff, because they know their parents are too crazy.

My son's dad always be telling him, "yeah I love you, but I'm crazy--I guarantee you I'm crazier than you, but try me if you want"

With girls, we're hormonal and crazy, and we'll test boundaries, but you gotta be crazier than them.