Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[Yinny]

Closure/update (I know y’all were dying for it): Back then, I let him know that we at theColi wouldn’t be going forward in the process and to be well and he hit me back like “just got out of jail too”

and

IG DM Christmastime “I know we didn’t work out but Merry Xmas.”



So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):




So I passed, and then he hits me up again this Saturday to go out TO DINNER. He picked Chili's in *** at 7, so I'm like okay cool, I'm confirming with him to make sure that still works as I was less than 10 mins away by car.

I get to Chili's at 7:02, he's nowhere in sight - I text him I'm here and then call as it was crowded so I wanted to know where he was (figured he was already there). He calls me back and says he was there earlier but ran an errand and would be back in 15 mins. I order a drink and wait at a table, he strolls in at 7:30.

I told him he should've just said something instead of me having to contact him for his whereabouts for a time HE picked.

Anyway, we order, and I'm noticing that he makes shyt eye contact, literally looking everywhere as he talks like a child.

Finally after finishing our food I pull out my wallet and ask "So how do you want to do this? Are we splitting it?"

He pretty much didn't say anything. Bear in mind my salad was 11.99 and my drink was $9.

So I paid my part and he gets up to walk me to my car, tried to put his hand around my waist and I smacked it away like

Then I told him in the parking lot that he could get a handshake instead of a hug and that wasn't a date because I paid my own way, he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

He wants another chance. Should I let him make it up or am I being a bytch for deading him?

 

[Nobu]

Are you at an age where you have to start looking for a long term partner? What does he do for a living? Is he advancing in life? What does he have to offer you long term, or is he just physically attractive?

In answering these questions, you will find the answer to whether you should see him again.

None of what he's done is a 100% dealbreaker, IMO. Just sounds a little inexperienced at dating/a little rough around the edges.

 

[Yinny]

How old are you? What does he do for a living? Is he advancing in life? What does he have to offer you long term, or is he just physically attractive?

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

 

[Standing on business]

Is that the same dude who put his thumb in your ass?

 

[Nobu]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

I didn't write it, cuz I didn't wanna make too many assumptions, but from reading your post I thought he may be a little slow/clueless type of person. Best not to waste your time, especially since he's not even physically attractive to you. Sounds like he has no redeeming qualities for you so idk why you would waste your time...

 

[Yinny]

Is that the same dude who put his thumb in your ass?

NO

 

[Boogie]

@Yinny he sound like a retard but yes you still come off as a bytch

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Did yall fukk yet?

 

[Lifejennings]

Please don't lead people on. You don't seem to like him at all. Why make him think he has a chance, and potentially hurt his feelings when you already know you're not with it?

 

[Brolic]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

Why'd you go on a date with some one who you didn't find attractive?

he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

It seems like he might have made the right decision.

 

[Caribbean lover]

just stop talking to him op.

 

[Bryan Danielson]

So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):




So I passed, and then he hits me up again this Saturday to go out TO DINNER. He picked Chili's in *** at 7, so I'm like okay cool, I'm confirming with him to make sure that still works as I was less than 10 mins away by car.

I get to Chili's at 7:02, he's nowhere in sight - I text him I'm here and then call as it was crowded so I wanted to know where he was (figured he was already there). He calls me back and says he was there earlier but ran an errand and would be back in 15 mins. I order a drink and wait at a table, he strolls in at 7:30.

I told him he should've just said something instead of me having to contact him for his whereabouts for a time HE picked.

Anyway, we order, and I'm noticing that he makes shyt eye contact, literally looking everywhere as he talks like a child.

Finally after finishing our food I pull out my wallet and ask "So how do you want to do this? Are we splitting it?"

He pretty much didn't say anything. Bear in mind my salad was 11.99 and my drink was $9.

So I paid my part and he gets up to walk me to my car, tried to put his hand around my waist and I smacked it away like

Then I told him in the parking lot that he could get a handshake instead of a hug and that wasn't a date because I paid my own way, he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

He wants another chance. Should I let him make it up or am I being a bytch for deading him?

I say no!

You went out in to the wild!

When you need to stay here within the coli realm


I know quite a few good coli brehs that would’ve treated you right and gave you a good time


Drop that zero and get with the coli heros

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Just move on. He doesn't really seem to have ahis shyt together. You probably shouldn't have went to dinner with him in the first place.

 

[Devilinurear]

So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):




So I passed, and then he hits me up again this Saturday to go out TO DINNER. He picked Chili's in *** at 7, so I'm like okay cool, I'm confirming with him to make sure that still works as I was less than 10 mins away by car.

I get to Chili's at 7:02, he's nowhere in sight - I text him I'm here and then call as it was crowded so I wanted to know where he was (figured he was already there). He calls me back and says he was there earlier but ran an errand and would be back in 15 mins. I order a drink and wait at a table, he strolls in at 7:30.

I told him he should've just said something instead of me having to contact him for his whereabouts for a time HE picked.

Anyway, we order, and I'm noticing that he makes shyt eye contact, literally looking everywhere as he talks like a child.

Finally after finishing our food I pull out my wallet and ask "So how do you want to do this? Are we splitting it?"

He pretty much didn't say anything. Bear in mind my salad was 11.99 and my drink was $9.

So I paid my part and he gets up to walk me to my car, tried to put his hand around my waist and I smacked it away like

Then I told him in the parking lot that he could get a handshake instead of a hug and that wasn't a date because I paid my own way, he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

He wants another chance. Should I let him make it up or am I being a bytch for deading him?

It is your decision but it does not sound like you had a good time.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

You don't find him attractive

The date was trash

He seems to have no redeeming qualities

What are you hesitating for again?