Come post some Internal thoughts you have that might make black people view you as a sellout or c00n

[Mandarin Duck]

I’ve worked all kinds of customer service jobs. WW are the only ones I seen smile in a rude customers face and then do something to their food. A BW gonna let that customer know to cut that bullshyt. Then proceed to make their order right

I'm not rude though.

I would never go into an interaction with an employee, be rude to them, and expect them to not act the same way back.

That's ridiculous.

But if I go into a store and cordially interact with an employee, white female employees treat me nicer.

I've had instances were black women wouldn't even acknowledge my existence whether they were the employee or a customer at a store I worked at.

 

[Coco Loco]

Well that tends to be the course of action once a man, specifically a black man, shares his experience.

Dismiss his perspective or give an example of how what you've experienced is the opposite.

At the very least you can see how that can be perceived as dismissive?

This is why alot of black men choose not to share their experience at all.

And what alternative did you counter to my point?

That black women are strong?
That I can't handle them?
That I need a kid glove wearing woman?

I agreed with all of those.

Again, my perspective didn't dismiss yours. Giving an alternative perspective to someones experience is called a dialogue or healthy discussion, not dismissing a point especially when I acknowledged yours. Dismissing would be me saying you're lying and this doesn't happen to you. I didn't do that. There's a clear difference.

By all means share you experiences but thinking your experiences can't be presented with an alternative experience, in this case that not all black women are rude and mean, is the bigger issue.

 

[Koba St]

This thread is too depressing.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm not rude though.

I would never go into an interaction with an employee, be rude to them, and expect them to not act the same way back.

That's ridiculous.

But if I go into a store and cordially interact with an employee, white female employees treat me nicer.

I've had instances were black women wouldn't even acknowledge my existence whether they were the employee or a customer at a store I worked at.

Ok. So this has happened. Not excusing the treatment you've gotten. But have you considered why this happens also, is it every time or just as you remember?

 

[Burned Verses]

Black people deify dead people way too damn much. Nipsey, Pac, and Malcolm were good people but they’re still just that, people. Dudes out here are really living by their quotes like it’s gospel.

 

[Wink Beaufield]

Why don't yall build middle/affluent Black communities?
They usual move where no blacks are.

Guess you never heard of PG County then? The folks I'm talking about moved to an all black middle class/affluent area and they still get clowned for moving out the hood on that "You too good for us huh? shyt"

Even people who move to a majority black rural area catch the same type of shyt.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Again, my perspective didn't dismiss yours. Giving an alternative perspective to someones experience is called a dialogue or healthy discussion, not dismissing a point especially when I acknowledged yours. Dismissing would be me saying you're lying and this doesn't happen to you. I didn't do that. There's a clear difference.

By all means share you experiences but thinking your experiences can't be presented with an alternative experience, in this case that not all black women are rude and mean, is the bigger issue.

Well the definition of dismissive is showing that something isn't worthy of consideration.

If your response to me sharing my experience is saying that I can't handle black women, and I need to deal with women who wear kid gloves, that's not exactly showing any consideration to my experience.

But if saying what it was like for me means I'm intimidated by black women, I can't handle them or I need kid gloves then I'm willing to accept any label that has to come with me sharing that experience.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Ok. So this has happened. Not excusing the treatment you've gotten. But have you considered why this happens also, is it every time or just as you remember?

Not Everytime but enough to call it out.

And no I don't really have time to be dwelling on why black women don't like me.

I can't handle them according to y'all and that's good enough of an explanation for me

 

[invalid]

Yea you win

That was just the palatable shyt.

 

[Neuromancer]

I can't handle them according to y'all and that's good enough of an explanation for me

I'm not against you in this. Just trying to gain perspective. You're experience happened. I'm not trying to diminish it nor trivialize it.

 

[Neuromancer]

But if saying what it was like for me means I'm intimidated by black women, I can't handle them or I need kid gloves then I'm willing to accept any label that has to come with me sharing that experience

You shouldn't have to feel discouraged about sharing your experiences.

 

[Neuromancer]

No one got an excessive c00ning warning?

 

[Neuromancer]

I hate hood movies.

 

[Amused Mastery]

Guess you never heard of PG County then? The folks I'm talking about moved to an all black middle class/affluent area and they still get clowned for moving out the hood on that "You too good for us huh? shyt"

Then you have the types that were born and raised in PG county (black families where the parents are pulling in 125K+ a year) and want to pretend that they're from the hood.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Interesting perspective. I think familiarity breeds contempt. See my comment about mothers and unresolved pain. I think that plays into it.

idk what post u r talking about