1. Compliment something she made effort to do, not something physical she had no control over.
Bad: “damn, you got some big yitties...”
Good: “I like your blouse (say why - and not because “it’s got big yitties in it”)
Clothes/shoes/perfume compliments are good because she had to choose to wear it.
Or something she said or did before that you noticed/appreciated.
2. Make it just about her, and not a comparison to something/somebody else.
Good: “I was interested in what you said about ______”
Bad: “I was interested in what you said about _______, most girls I meet don’t care about that”
3. Just drop the compliment and move on; don’t say it and wait for it to land.
That makes for awkward silence if it sits there for too long.
Also, it comes off like your in your head searching for what to say next.
3B. Don’t try to spend the whole time complimenting her.
Your point is just to converse/get to know her.
You can talk about anything in the world - so you don’t have to overdo it with compliments,
just talk to her like she’s a person. Really, the best compliments will come from the conversation
anyway. Like “you know - what you just said was real talk. I never thought about it like that...”
Summary:
Think about a date as like McDonalds fries.
It goes without saying that it’s better if they’re fresh...
But Compliments are like the salt on the fries.
The point of compliments on a date are to let the other person know (a) you are really paying attention
to them, and (b) you don’t just want to be their “friend”. The right amount and the right kind make it hit
just right...but too much leaves a bad aftertaste, and makes you feel thirsty.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.