Coworker cac "urbanizing" interactions

[igottabaldhead]

What do you mean by being all extra? Sounds like he's happy to see you...

Honestly.....just get over it. Doesnt matter what they say, it doesnt sound like its foing any damage

This is the problem. Minorities (especially black people) being told to overlook clear instances of inappropriate behavior. OP ive been in the workforce, i know exactly what youre talking about.

"Sup dawg"
"Fo sho homie"
" *see me speaking to a white female customer.* Man you must get alot of girls! I know some white women who like black guys" (ive gotten This on two separate jobs, my current one also)
"*random rap lyrics"


Really just bluntly ask them to stop, better if you tell your manager about it. Its their way of trying to clown you on the low, dont take it as jokes or a compliment. Its them saying "i see you as different, and i need to let you know by discrediting your professionalism and respect"

 

[duckbutta]

Ask him about it in a public forum...like if he does it in the office in front of people just ask him why he always uses slang terms to great you like everyone else. Put him on the spot in front of people to explain himself...

Be careful about going to your manager straight up because all the dude has to say is that he doesn't do it and now it turns into a he said vs he said and that is going to end poorly for you as the new guy...

 

[Apollo Creed]

OP you the same Rusty from NT?

 

[2stainz]

mean mug and be imposing, also just do your job really well

 

[Weaver31]

Some do it as a ice breaker or to try to be like u to bridge the gap. Then some do it to be low key shady or disrespectful. Then there are ur super ignorant cacs.

if u don't have to be around those people, just limit interaction with them. If they doing too much, maybe talk to management. It would be good if u can pull them aside and politely discuss with them but some take shyt the wrong way or may try to get u fired.

I find it kinda inappropriate and in poor taste to clearly change ur behavior like that. Maybe ur not an "urbanized," street or hood black person constantly using slang, and even if u are...its ur business. You cant stereotype folks. All blacks aren't the same...same with all cacs and all other races. It just SMH hearing shyt like this. Just very distasteful. It also shows they lack the professionalism and people skills.

 

[Dr. Acula]

I had a coworker do this to me. Just talk as CAC like as possible.

"HOW YOU DOING BUDDY!"

They will feel stupid after a while. Rightfully so.

 

[Rusty$hackleford]

@igottabaldhead
Honestly, that's all I see it as, him trying to deal with me different. I just want stop that different shyt from jump, don't wanna go down that slippery slope, in this sea of white faces letting them get too comfortable is the wrong move.

But on another note, after the office introduction tour 1st day, after meeting all the Brads, chads, and Mandys, saw my firsts signs of diversity in IT Shoutout to them brehs. I started business school with plans for CIS, how I end up in accounting again?

 

[Rusty$hackleford]

Dble post

 

[DarrynCobretti]

OP I know exactly what you're talking about homie. In fact I've posted about this phenomenon before on the coli, in a thread about working in an corporate environment a while back.

Being one of the youngest workers in an environment like that, who happens to be black has allowed me to peep how whites like to change how they speak to you or say things they think can relate to you. Sometimes it's harmless but either way I can't help but feel like it's patronizing. That's why I engage them the same way anyone else does and don't put a battery in their back when they're 'trying to relate' or shoot the shyt with me.

 

[Rusty$hackleford]

OP you the same Rusty from NT?

nt? Probably not breh

 

[Safe]

You're just starting out and don't really have the luxury to check anyone right now bro. I've worked corporate for years, best thing to do if you don't like it is to be extra professional with your demeanor and responses and eventually he'll feel stupid. But generally speaking you're going to have to thicken your skin up homie, if you let every little thing these white nikkas do get to you you're gonna be miserable.

 

[Crakface]

There are a few ways to approach this


Mirroring.

Instead of ok say okilydokily in a very deliberate sarcastic tone.

If someone is bro'ing you all the time call them little buddy or give them a nickname. Nicknanes arent respectful

Passive aggressive approach.

Let them know that they dont have to urbanize your interactions with a smile on your face keeping things light hearted and jokey.

*cah maaaahhn, you dint have to yo homie yo me *

Direct approach

what? A, dont do that



"My name is ......"

"Look, stop with the jive talk, its condescending"

 

[Rusty$hackleford]

@DarrynCobretti
Ill look for your thread, or drop a link if you can. Like I said before, I'm new to this corporate life, but these cac's tricks ain't new

 

[TL15]

Coli brehs, looking for a little advice. I been working this new job closing in on 3 weeks now at a corporate office, accounting work. I'm certainly younger than most/nearly everyone in this office, (many who have been with this company for double digit years,) and more importantly, I look younger than they know i am. 1st office gig outta college.

This older cac already starting to get slick greeting me with 'Sup Rust all extra like, after I give em your standard "good morning Jim". I'm not gone have this escalate, but i wanna dead this shyt quick. Granted, they getting the watered down version while I get thru this 90 day period so I gotta withhold my perma-scowl and usual bluntness on these cacs and play nice for the moment.


Reminds me of that when keeping it real goes wrong chappelle shyt, but more intentional on this old man cacs part. What yal suggest? Oh and I don't have the capital to start my own business so FOH with that shyt

TBH

Don't play yourself trying to be anything you aren't. I'm not saying be submissive to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, but let dumb shyt slide. Go in, keep your head down, and remember why YOU are there. Don't let anyone influence your reasons for being there each day. Don't let someone using "slang" ruin your day, and don't put yourself in a compromising position by getting angry, because here is how it will go

You: Why are you talking to me like that?

Jim: like what

you know what I mean Jim

Manager: "what's going on here, Jim?"

"nothing sir...just greeting the new guy and he seems to have an attitude"

You:


Let them play themselves. Let them look dumb. You are there for the paycheck every two weeks, the experience (first gig out of college) the possible networking, and maybe some from a coworker in the future (jk ). Don't let anyone deter you from your goals because the minute you leave and end up without a job they'll be laughing behind your back.

 

[PhonZhi]

The black male is the most stereotyped group on earth mainly due to Hip hop (the most popular art form on the planet). Ignorant people of other races interact with blacks (especially younger black males) off of what they see in hiphop