One time I dated a girl who was cute looks wise (of course if her make up was on fleek) and had pretty hair....hair y'all would say good hair. But she was hella boring, homebody like I was, didn't drink much except a lil sweet moscato, and always was alone or did a couple of things with her sister.
I don't think the chemistry wasn't there but my mom knew her and liked her for me. I am a drinker and smoker and uses substances on weekends. I couldn't tell her I smoked and bumped the girl and molly sometimes. She is hella sheltered, quiet, boring and always wanted me to watch shyt with her like I am Cait, Real Housewives and I am Jazz. Maybe I was too quiet for her and she expected the guy to initiate everything. She never went to her work holiday parties so she never had any functions to invite me to. I always had to decide on everything. The sex game wasn't all that either. She couldn't cook well and she was a particular eater. Didn't eat lettuce, salad, no veggies unless they country style like greens or string beans her mom cooked, didn't eat beef, pork, seafood, only grilled and fried chicken. I'm a dude who like to go to a variety of spots to eat like sushi, Jamaican, Italian, soul food, Thai, Mexican, etc.
She also messed up my thanksgiving because I was planned to go to her crib where her sister lives with her. She doesn't like her sister fiance because they been engaged for 3 years, no date set, he 40-45yo with 3 kids by 3 different women and a grandchild and her sis only 31. She said her sis fiance doesn't act like a gentleman for her sis and that he makes her take bags out and doesn't help fix her car. Then he didn't meet their parents properly and only met them twice. She called me at 4:30 in the evening and told me not to come because her dad said her sister would be mad if her sister fiance couldn't come...why her man can. Didn't make much sense. I had to buy food for thanksgiving because I expected to eat dinner with her family. I did meet them that weekend tho.
The plus about her versus my ex fiance was she didn't lie about her degree and was working. She only had one ex and he was out of town and had a child and baby mama drama. I can understand her breaking that off...too much to deal with.
We just stopped talking and she said she could tell I wasn't interested that much and was too laidback by my actions.
What would y'all have done? Did I mess up or am I just not the right one for her?
I don't think the chemistry wasn't there but my mom knew her and liked her for me. I am a drinker and smoker and uses substances on weekends. I couldn't tell her I smoked and bumped the girl and molly sometimes. She is hella sheltered, quiet, boring and always wanted me to watch shyt with her like I am Cait, Real Housewives and I am Jazz. Maybe I was too quiet for her and she expected the guy to initiate everything. She never went to her work holiday parties so she never had any functions to invite me to. I always had to decide on everything. The sex game wasn't all that either. She couldn't cook well and she was a particular eater. Didn't eat lettuce, salad, no veggies unless they country style like greens or string beans her mom cooked, didn't eat beef, pork, seafood, only grilled and fried chicken. I'm a dude who like to go to a variety of spots to eat like sushi, Jamaican, Italian, soul food, Thai, Mexican, etc.
She also messed up my thanksgiving because I was planned to go to her crib where her sister lives with her. She doesn't like her sister fiance because they been engaged for 3 years, no date set, he 40-45yo with 3 kids by 3 different women and a grandchild and her sis only 31. She said her sis fiance doesn't act like a gentleman for her sis and that he makes her take bags out and doesn't help fix her car. Then he didn't meet their parents properly and only met them twice. She called me at 4:30 in the evening and told me not to come because her dad said her sister would be mad if her sister fiance couldn't come...why her man can. Didn't make much sense. I had to buy food for thanksgiving because I expected to eat dinner with her family. I did meet them that weekend tho.
The plus about her versus my ex fiance was she didn't lie about her degree and was working. She only had one ex and he was out of town and had a child and baby mama drama. I can understand her breaking that off...too much to deal with.
We just stopped talking and she said she could tell I wasn't interested that much and was too laidback by my actions.
What would y'all have done? Did I mess up or am I just not the right one for her?
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You're such a weirdo since when is it normal to drink or do drugs? The problem is with you my friend but at least you didn't drag her down. Was that it subconsciously?
