Actually I think I was ranting more in general. I see the purpose of the thread since your parents are involved.
Cute girls who are lame, boring and sheltered
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No need to neg me. I expressed my not wanting to watch that crap. But I do believe in relationships that both parties should be a lil receptive to what the other party suggests. She even said her dad expressed disapproval to watching I am Cait last year. I only watched it one time with her. I just think sometimes u have to suffer and give and take in relationships. They not fun but if u want a wife and kids...u have to sometimes give.
Yeah my mom knew her and a lady who knows them both put us on with my mom intervening. That was a problem from the get go.
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This is me to a t. I'm not about that late nights early morning life. Call me boring, I don't careI can relate to the girl that op is describing. I've had dudes tell me I'm boring because I'm a home body, spend a lot of time with my family, go to bed early. Dudes would like legit get mad because I was in bed sleeping. Like what else am I supposed to be doing on a Wednesday night at 10:00 pm when I have to be up at 6 the next morning to go to work
I can relate to the girl that op is describing. I've had dudes tell me I'm boring because I'm a home body, spend a lot of time with my family, go to bed early. Dudes would like legit get mad because I was in bed sleeping. Like what else am I supposed to be doing on a Wednesday night at 10:00 pm when I have to be up at 6 the next morning to go to work
I identify with this so much! I'm an introvert, but I know how to interact with people at the same time. I keep to myself, my siblings, and a very small circle of friends. Plenty of acquaintances though! My siblings always tell me how "square" I am, but I don't care.
Guys that I've met (when out with friends, didn't care to be out... Just went to socialize--the lyrics in Alessia Cara's "Here" really describes me when out with friends) have later told me how confused I made them as they got to know me, because I really am not about that "I need constant validation from men so I go out every week" life, but you can't tell by looking at me/having seen me out a night or two.
I'm often assumed to have dudes lined up, been called a "heartbreaker," old co worker (who was also a Kappa so he was used to having it thrown at him) told me once "you look like you're going to meet your man and get busted down." I said "no, going to dinner with one of my girls from high school so we can catch up, but I just wanted to wear shorts and heels today. I'm a virgin anyway, but I wear what I want." He had the most shocked look on his face! That was 5 years ago, at 23. I'm still a virgin today... And I mean 100%. I don't know why that's so perplexing!
It is possible to look good, and be a quiet homebody (I'm also kind of a nerd because I love and taught myself some HTML and CSS coding in high school) who is about her business. I just want to focus on making sure I have a career and more than "good looks" in life. Has a lot to do with how I was raised!
Edit: I was not sheltered as a child, just the most introverted one out of the 4 of us children. I was the intellectual child! So I guess that made me "boring," too which presents a paradox when having an attractive (as I've been told) look and personality because it doesn't line up with one's perception. Especially that of a female.
I'm just unapologetically me though, and you either accept me or you don't, but you never define me.
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Right. I've been called cold, standoffish, just because I'm introverted. I just have the unique gift of being able to spot bullshyt a mile alway. Being the " quiet girl" isn't a bad thing. And I've gotten to the point were I could care less if people are offended by it.I identify with this so much! I'm an introvert, but I know how to interact with people at the same time. I keep to myself, my siblings, and a very small circle of friends. Plenty of acquaintances though! My siblings always tell me how "square" I am, but I don't care.
Guys that I've met (when out with friends, didn't care to be out... Just went to socialize--the lyrics in Alessia Cara's "Here" really describes me when out with friends) have later told me how confused I made them as they got to know me, because I really am not about that "I need constant validation from men so I go out every week" life, but you can't tell by looking at me/having seen me out a night or two.
I'm often assumed to have dudes lined up, been called a "heartbreaker," old co worker (who was also a Kappa so he was used to having it thrown at him) told me once "you look like you're going to meet your man and get busted down." I said "no, going to dinner with one of my girls from high school so we can catch up, but I just wanted to wear shorts and heels today. I'm a virgin anyway, but I wear what I want." He had the most shocked look on his face! That was 5 years ago, at 23. I'm still a virgin today... And I mean 100%. I don't know why that's so perplexing!
It is possible to look good, and be a quiet homebody (I'm also kind of a nerd because I love and taught myself some HTML and CSS coding in high school) who is about her business. I just want to focus on making sure I have a career and more than "good looks" in life. Has a lot to do with how I was raised!
Edit: I was not sheltered as a child, just the most introverted one out of the 4 of us children. I was the intellectual child! So I guess that made me "boring," too which presents a paradox when having an attractive (as I've been told) look and personality because it doesn't line up with one's perception. Especially that of a female.
I'm just unapologetically me though, and you either accept me or you don't, but you never define me.
I agree, 100%! My favorite is when people get to know me and realize I'm just quiet... Their perception changes and they'll say something like "you're so nice! I thought you were ____" rude, siditty, a bytch, bougie, thought you thought you were better than me... Blah blah. Whatever. I just don't like to be bored by bullshyt and prefer fewer, deeper interactions than a bunch of superficial relations.
Beyond formalities (as in an introduction and "nice to meet you" or whatever) I let people think what they want about me. If they don't make an effort to get to know me and would rather judge me instead, their loss. I'm still going to be secure in myself.