So there's this girl that I'm close with and she made it known to me that she likes me, we've made out and have just hung out since then. But I have a problem in that while she's nice enough; I find her a bit too thin for my liking...I like girls that are average to thick and she's much thinner than average. The thing is that I do find her attractive and could see myself sleeping with her, but I'm just not *that* attracted to her and she really likes me in the relationship material sense. Should I go for it, or should I continue holding off and let it die? The other thing is that this girls smokes a lot, and I'm just not into that. But I know that you can never have a perfect partner, and am wondering if I should let that slide; or if it['d become an issue down the line. Plus I've been saving myself for a girl I really like(Not a meme) and this girls views sex as a throwaway thing(Which is fair).Thanks guys.
Dating a girl that's not really my type
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4North1Side2
Banned
If you got to ask others opinions...... just be honest and tell her she's not your type to severe ties. No need to sugar coat shyt all because she is nice to you.
StickStickly
Superstar
if her body type puts you off, don't waste your time. why not find a girl you really want? for women, the topic of our bodies is really personal, so she'd probably be hurt that you don't find her as attractive. since many men like thin women, who wants to waste time with one who feels "meh" about you?
Address_Unknown
Jesus Loves you...Your Cat doesn't. {#Dogset}
1st bolded:- If you know you ain't attracted to her, don't have sex with her. I've had a few brehs rag on me since I've claimed to NEVER have sex with a girl I wasn't attracted to in some sense. I honestly don't see the need to have sex with someone I find ugly or at the very least a mild attraction that dissipates ever the condom rolls off. Unless you just trying to smash and dash or atleast let her know you only tryin' to fukk for a minute, nah. Hold off on that.
2nd bolded:- Has she talked about wanting to get into a relationship with you or can you just feel like she the type to give you some trim, curl up next to you and start making plans that include shopping in the morning? If so, then DEFINITELY don't roll in there and get this girl's hopes all up, knowing you ain't looking to leave your toothbrush over there. I'd go out on a limb and assume you ain't the pump and dump type since you askin' for advice on the Coli, so that's another major strike (Against her, not asking advice on the coli even though that in and of itself can be a detriment
) It's bad enough you like this chick in passing, but to get with her and she lookin' for a relationship? You setting yourself up for an argument/tears.3rd Bolded:- Nobody should be with someone that does something they don't like; especially if it's something that will annoy them or turn them away. Smoking weed and even worse, Cigarettes is a hard habit to quit and she might not be willing to do that shyt for you even if you wanted her to, so that's another glaring red flag, breh. Plus you ain't even trying to get with this chick, so yeah.....things ain't looking too god, man.
4th Bolded:- In a sense that's true, but you an always find or atleast do your damnedest to search for a partner that mirrors you with the same personality and hobbies that you have or compliments you with their contrasting personality that meshes with whatever yours is since they have qualities that you admire and appreciate but ain't exactly up to emulate. If you were to get into it with this chick it seems like you're going to spend quite a bit of time dreading your decision and look for ways to break it off with her. I'd go as to so far to say that you only entertaining this with her 'cause in the back of your mind you wondering
"How the sex will be with her?" on some wonderlust shyt. Jerk off. No, for real, rub one out and flush them thoughts.I made the mistake of getting with a chick I had questions with ONCE and I ended up regretting the fukk out of that shyt within weeks. Laying up in the bed, testicles drained, hugged up, thinking "This ain't so bad."
Then she asks me if "Chinese people got a word for Broom."
I'm like
" 'Course they do. English ain't the only language on Earth, woman." and she like "Nah Nah, hear me out. Like they got a word for everything we got in our language, like they call a chair a...." Me = 
Plus you saving yourself for that other chick, man. Work on THAT and just stick to being friends with this chick unless you get some standard lowering epiphany that makes you see her in a different light.
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Damn, well said there man. I guess that's true...She's more sexually open and has had many partners. And yeah the reason why I'm so cautious about it is because she flat out told me that she liked me for a long time(Again, she's a one night stand kind of girl usually) and told her best friend that I was the kind of guy she could see herself marrying. It's just that I've struggled a lot with women in my life(Only ever had two dates) and have never had a girl be into me like that. So I just don't want to throw this way and then later be all "Waaah I'm so lonely" kinda bullshyt.
Turlast
Superstar
On one hand, you're not attracted to her physically. On the other, you don't want to let go of this because this is an unusual situation. At the end of the day, you gotta feel it out and make the right choice for yourself. You could potentially get "practice" with this girl, but I don't feel comfortable telling someone to use another person. Just go with the flow.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
What the fukk
Reginald Noble
Banned
Depends on your age
If you suffering from dry dikk and need a come up temporary shyt to blast your frustration into then keep her around but make it clear this ain't gonna be nothing serious
If you older than 27 or so then charge her to the game
If you suffering from dry dikk and need a come up temporary shyt to blast your frustration into then keep her around but make it clear this ain't gonna be nothing serious
If you older than 27 or so then charge her to the game
AlainLocke
Banned
Number one rule of the game...
Like who you likes you...
Like who you likes you...
Reginald Noble
Banned
When younger yes.
But as you age that shyt don't work. If my dikk can't rise for a Woman we can't be together, period.
A high level of sexual compatibility is a must when dealing with 90% of Women.
AlainLocke
Banned
I mean...I don't have a type...I just rock with who likes me...
bytches gonna get old and I'ma stop wanting to fukk them anyway...
Reginald Noble
Banned
If you are strategic enough you can find a bytch that ages well who you will want to fukk well into their 60's
But it takes hard work and a degree in genetics and psychology because only 10% of Women are gonna be like that. (Needs to be a combination of effort + good genes from her momma etc.)