Dating Life After Losing Weight

[Indeed]

 

[TRUEST]

Everyone is putting their face out there for recognition, adulation. Humans I tell ya. Y’all something else. And I’m saying this as a supreme entity who rolls with the rock of ages.

 

[Gloxina]

Duh!


These kids have got to go to therapy and stop using social media as a diary. This is shyt your fam is supposed to teach you when you’re younger/getting into the teen years. Ppl are shallow af, especially in our youth. That’s how animals are wired.

This every big/thick girl’s story when she finally loses weight. It’s a completely different world!

 

[Doobie Doo]

Duh!


These kids have got to go to therapy and stop using social media as a diary. This is shyt your fam is supposed to teach you when you’re younger/getting into the teen years. Ppl are shallow af, especially in our youth. That’s how animals are wired.

This every big/thick girl’s story when she finally loses weight. It’s a completely different world!

So your family is supposed to teach you how the world will react to fat you vs skinny you in the current dating scene?

 

[lowkey0z]

breaking news: the more fit you are, the more attractive you are to others

 

[Hater Eraser]

Throw some money in the mix ...

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Duh!


These kids have got to go to therapy and stop using social media as a diary. This is shyt your fam is supposed to teach you when you’re younger/getting into the teen years. Ppl are shallow af, especially in our youth. That’s how animals are wired.

This every big/thick girl’s story when she finally loses weight. It’s a completely different world!

It sounds obvious but remember, these guys grew up being told that looks don't matter.

The lesson in every romcom is that it's all about what matters on the inside.

Mainstream media tells you that all you need is confidence.

Pick up artists continued the lie with their "mouthpiece and game" bullshyt.

Redpill grifters mislead you into thinking that it's only about money.

So, when guys end up getting better looking and then receive more attention, of course they're shocked.

Looks were the only thing they were told they didn't need to have.

 

[Gloxina]

It sounds obvious but remember, these guys grew up being told that looks don't matter.

The lesson in every romcom is that it's all about what matters on the inside.

Mainstream media tells you that all you need is confidence.

Pick up artists continued the lie with their "mouthpiece and game" bullshyt.

Redpill grifters mislead you into thinking that it's only about money.

So, when guys end up getting better looking and then receive more attention, of course they're shocked.

Looks were the only thing they were told they didn't need to have.

Ah, good point.

 

[MJ Truth]

Duh!


These kids have got to go to therapy and stop using social media as a diary. This is shyt your fam is supposed to teach you when you’re younger/getting into the teen years. Ppl are shallow af, especially in our youth. That’s how animals are wired.

This every big/thick girl’s story when she finally loses weight. It’s a completely different world!

It’s not even shallow to be honest. Think about what being fit actually says about you. It says you care about yourself, you have some level of discipline, and are willing to delay gratification. Of course these qualities are going to be attractive to the opposite sex who biologically are looking to procreate. And being overweight is letting us all know you don’t really care that much about yourself, so why would I want to associate with you? If you don’t even care about yourself, how can I expect you to care about me?

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

It’s not even shallow to be honest. Think about what being fit actually says about you. It says you care about yourself, you have some level of discipline, and are willing to delay gratification. Of course these qualities are going to be attractive to the opposite sex who biologically are looking to procreate. And being overweight is letting us all know you don’t really care that much about yourself, so why would I want to associate with you? If you don’t even care about yourself, how can I expect you to care about me?

See, WHY does it have to be all of that?

Why can't people just be attracted because they like what they see?

Remember, it's not just about the body.

Most people are referring to facial features when they talk about attractiveness.

The facial features you have usually don't say anything about you.

It is shallow. And that's okay.

You shouldn't have to justify why you're attracted to someone.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

. It says you care about yourself, you have some level of discipline, and are willing to delay gratification. Of course these qualities are going to be attractive

Yes and No. it can say this, but too often, a lot of people who you would deem as “fit” do it for unhealthy vanity reasons or even narcissistic reasons…. Also, a lot of people get into fitness to feel superior to others which is the most egregious…. Been in and out of gym culture for damn near 30 years…. From hole in the wall gyms, to high end CrossFit/MMA gyms and luxury brand gyms as well….

 

[Gloxina]

So your family is supposed to teach you how the world will react to fat you vs skinny you in the current dating scene?

Are you crazy?

There is no “current dating scene”.


Society reacts to fat people one way and fit people another way. It’s that simple.


Yea; if you have a 15yr old daughter who is a size 20 and all the girls who are being asked to go to the dance are a size 2- 10, it would be pretty realistic to have a conversation with her about health, fitness, and how society treats people who are deemed more fit than others.


You have high school aged boys going to the gym with their fathers because they understand the difference in how people in school treat the guys who are fat or scrawny vs the guys who are more tone.

YES. If you want to raise kids who can somewhat acclimate to society you keep it real with them.


The girl who rolls out of bed wearing pjs to school vs the girl who takes the time to put together an appropriate outfit gets treated differently too.


Yea.


You want to get those convos out the way before college because your child will be in for a world of pain.


Folks be wondering why “some ppl are late bloomers” or “some people don’t figure it out until they are later along in life”.
THIS IS WHY.

Because some people have families that actually prepare them for the harsh social aspects of society, and some people have families that throw them into the world and tell them to “figure it out” on their own.

 

[Gloxina]

See, WHY does it have to be all of that?

Why can't people just be attracted because they like what they see?

Remember, it's not just about the body.

Most people are referring to facial features when they talk about attractiveness.

The facial features you have usually don't say anything about you.

It is shallow. And that's okay.

You shouldn't have to justify why you're attracted to someone.

Exactly.
Folks act like we’re advocating for ppl to be evil or something.

People are drawn to what is appealing to the eye. ANIMALS are drawn to what is physically appealing. That’s what mating is based on.

Now, if you aren’t a complete fool or only operating based on attraction, personality, compatibility, etc are factored in. But the first thing people encounter is what you look like.

It isn’t that hard to understand.

 

[All Knowledge]

Them bytches ain’t like all the exkra skin that nikka was fannagoling about

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

This man didn’t say anything profound.

How the fukk do you not know this?