Dealing with people you don't respect in the workplace...

[Mandarin Duck]

How do yall niggus address this? It's a difficult thing to deal with if you black and u dealing with a cac that doesn't carry their load or you flat out don't like. I have found a new method where I flat out ignore people on some high road shyt unless I really really have to say something to them. No small talk...sometimes I won't even speak, It feels kinda rude honestly but fukk it

I'm honestly in the exact same boat at my job. I don't do that small talk shyt and ignore everyone unless it gotta do with work. I know for a fact I come off rude but there's a part of me that really doesn't give a shyt. The worst part is when someone is legitimately trying to start a convo with you and you give back short small answers so they can just stop

 

[Suicide King]

How do yall niggus address this? It's a difficult thing to deal with if you black and u dealing with a cac that doesn't carry their load or you flat out don't like. I have found a new method where I flat out ignore people on some high road shyt unless I really really have to say something to them. No small talk...sometimes I won't even speak, It feels kinda rude honestly but fukk it

Keeping it brief with lazy people is smart, they are schemers by nature because that's the only skill they have. They are of no use, unless they are loyal and not fake.

But its crazy to be short with people who are hard workers and have talent. You'll notice no one tries to pull anything on those types because their respect level is high.

Just observe the pecking order and secure your place.

I stay informed by staying current on all the e-mails, newsletters, and articles about the company in magazines & newspapers, so When I meet senior management there is always something to talk about. Also, I try to get the inside scoop on what's next with the company, so the convo always flows and I never have to c00n or crack jokes.

 

[mtu wa chuma]

I've been doing this most my life, I didn't know not talking when you don't have something to say was rude. No wonder most people don't like me

How the fukk do you expect to advance in your company if you barely talk to anyone?

 

[TheArchitect]

Keeping it brief with lazy people is smart, they are schemers by nature because that's the only skill they have. They are of no use, unless they are loyal and not fake.

But its crazy to be short with people who are hard workers and have talent. You'll notice no one tries to pull anything on those types because their respect level is high.

Just observe the pecking order and secure your place.

I stay informed by staying current on all the e-mails, newsletters, and articles about the company in magazines & newspapers, so When I meet senior management there is always something to talk about. Also, I try to get the inside scoop on what's next with the company, so the convo always flows and I never have to c00n or crack jokes.

That's true, but not always the case. It's been times where it's been KNOWN that I was extremely effective and hard-working, yet management would still harass me. Talking about talk moooore, "engaaage", "smiiiile"...needless to say, I didn't last very long...

I don't mind interacting with people., it's just when they a bih tries to MAKE me do it, or act a certain way....THAT shyt GRIND MY GEARS.....

 

[Suicide King]

That's true, but not always the case. It's been times where it's been KNOWN that I was extremely effective and hard-working, yet management would still harass me. Talking about talk moooore, "engaaage", "smiiiile"...needless to say, I didn't last very long...

I don't mind interacting with people., it's just when they a bih tries to MAKE me do it, or act a certain way....THAT shyt GRIND MY GEARS.....

I'm referring to co-workers, not management.

Forced conversations are the worst. Especially when you have too c00n, crack jokes, gossip, or snitch on employees just to get a positive response. I'll be open to people who are no nonsense and remain sucker free when it comes to clowns, cause more things can go wrong than right when dealing with clowns.

If anything be a straight up company man by substituting convo with team work and feedback/analysis, that way the clowns have to keep it all business and the talented will like dealing with you cause you work well with others. Quiet people always give the impression they don't want to be bothered or their off.

I convo with people I like or respect without getting personal, so it would be about news, sports, tv shows, or mutual interest. Be cool with people and no one will doubt you. Its all about securing your place, so you don't people to look at you like you are a loner.

 

[TheArchitect]

I'm referring to co-workers, not management.

Forced conversations are the worst. Especially when you have too c00n, crack jokes, gossip, or snitch on employees just to get a positive response. I'll be open to people who are no nonsense and remain sucker free when it comes to clowns, cause more things can go wrong than right when dealing with clowns.

If anything be a straight up company man by substituting convo with team work and feedback/analysis, that way the clowns have to keep it all business and the talented will like dealing with you cause you work well with others. Quiet people always give the impression they don't want to be bothered or their off.

Its all about securing your place, so you don't people to look at you like you are a loner. I convo with people without getting personal, so it would be about news, sports, tv shows, or mutual interest.

Yeah, co-workers too (I should of put that)...shiii, they were the only ones who called themselves "complaining" about the shyt (me being "quiet" and not smiling)....yet at the same time I'm having customers give me compliments and good reviews about my service to my management. Yet, them fools didn't have anything to say about that....

I think it's just a society thing. I'm not even the quiet type in all honesty, it's just I can't stand having to force convo and shyt. I find it corny as hell. It's one thing to be social, but I can't bring myself to force convo and interaction. It just ain;t me.....

 

[Suicide King]

Yeah, co-workers too (I should of put that)...shiii, they were the only ones who called themselves "complaining" about the shyt (me being "quiet" and not smiling)....yet at the same time I'm having customers give me compliments and good reviews about my service to my management. Yet, them fools didn't have anything to say about that....

I think it's just a society thing. I'm not even the quiet type in all honesty, it's just I can't stand having to force convo and shyt. I find it corny as hell. It's one thing to be social, but I can't bring myself to force convo and interaction. It just ain;t me.....

With convos, I just go with the flow. Its only feels forced if I have to c00n, crack jokes, or gossip.

Now, its to the point co-workers start convos with me, because I seem so interested in what they have to say and I'm non judgmental.

At this point, I wouldn't even know how to go back to being quiet like I was in college.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Yeah, co-workers too (I should of put that)...shiii, they were the only ones who called themselves "complaining" about the shyt (me being "quiet" and not smiling)....yet at the same time I'm having customers give me compliments and good reviews about my service to my management. Yet, them fools didn't have anything to say about that....

I think it's just a society thing. I'm not even the quiet type in all honesty, it's just I can't stand having to force convo and shyt. I find it corny as hell. It's one thing to be social, but I can't bring myself to force convo and interaction. It just ain;t me.....

I had something similar like this happen to me. I helped a co-worker who doesn't work in our department with some things and when she told him I was extremely nice he was shocked. Like because I don't make small talk he assumed I'd be an a$$hole.

 

[Yung Yogurt]

I'm honestly in the exact same boat at my job. I don't do that small talk shyt and ignore everyone unless it gotta do with work. I know for a fact I come off rude but there's a part of me that really doesn't give a shyt. The worst part is when someone is legitimately trying to start a convo with you and you give back short small answers so they can just stop

Worse than that is when they dont get the hint and keep on yackin.

 

[babylon1]

these are demonic times. if you stay to yourself, you'll likely get fired. at the least you won't be promoted. you have to be an actor and a liar to have any success in this world.

you are demonic if you force the human condition on another soul

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Worse than that is when they dont get the hint and keep on yackin.

So in your opinion, why do you not talk?
For me I just hate small talk and I realize I'm at work. There's a part of me that feels like being a black man I'm expected to act a certain(c00n-ish) way at work to make people feel comfortable around me and I really don't want to do that.

 

[Jesus]

I'm one of two blacks men and the youngest male at my job....

I try to ignore, but feel obligated to talk...only know like 5 people name and I've been here for over a year.

 

[TheArchitect]

I had something similar like this happen to me. I helped a co-worker who doesn't work in our department with some things and when she told him I was extremely nice he was shocked. Like because I don't make small talk he assumed I'd be an @sshole.

Thing is they didn't even seem to react....it was like they didn't even appreciate it....but let some idiot complain about me not looking happy enough.....

 

[TheArchitect]

With convos, I just go with the flow. Its only feels forced if I have to c00n, crack jokes, or gossip.

Now, its to the point co-workers start convos with me, because I seem so interested in what they have to say and I'm non judgmental.

At this point, I wouldn't even know how to go back to being quiet like I was in college.

The funny thing is I DO go with the flow....but when I have nothing else to say I stop. I cant force convo for shyt....It was like it was never enough for these mufukkas....they wanted me to be Fonzworth Bentley in that bytch. fukk that.....

 

[Suicide King]

The funny thing is I DO go with the flow....but when I have nothing else to say I stop. I cant force convo for shyt....It was like it was never enough for these mufukkas....they wanted me to be Fonzworth Bentley in that bytch. fukk that.....

With all that talking, how did folks even get work done.

Also, with all those complaints, maybe you are not very charming or they feel you are a lame. This the x-factor no amount of small talk can overcome. I've met hard-working lames who never thought they were lames, but it is usually career suicide being swagless.