Dear Nice Guy, She Wasn’t Ready For You Before — But She is Now

[mcdivit85]

Real talk, dudes need to stop being so worried about "nice dude" sh#t and just be real dudes. I've noticed that dudes who are so "I'm not a nice guy to these chicks" are fugasi and trying to be an image that they think will get them attention from women and respect from dudes.

Let's be real here, most bad boys are in jail. Most bad boys are not IT professionals. Most bad boys don't graduate from college. Most bad boys don't grow up in Cosby households. And most bad boys don't post on internet forums.

Just be a real dude who is real about what he wants and that will cut out most of BS that dudes face out here. No need to pump your chest up. No need to mean mug. No need to have unnecessary first date rules. No need to argue. No need to brag.

If you don't like something she did/said, tell her in no uncertain terms that it won't fly with you. If you want her to do something, say it in plain words like you mean it. If you're not feeling her voice tone, check that on the spot with no uncertainty or fear of loss.

Dudes think its about being nice that causes problems when in reality its about NOT being real with their intentions and what they want.

Peace

 

[LordTaskForce]

Some fedoras on tight up in this bytch.

 

[NotaPAWG]

this board really got some bitter men who are in denial and love playing the victim when it comes to relationship and women issues


funny, there's an abundance of men who aren't interested in a serious relationship or know what they want and just ok with a "good for now fukk" like an abundance of women or like stringing them along.. but.......this only becomes a problem on the flip side when the male wants to settle down and it's convenient for him and looks around and is like "what happened to all the good righteous women" while more than likely have turned down women who actually were genuinely interested in getting to know them or carrying on a relationship but they were not interested in that at the time and were just interested in sex or someone to spend the night with.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

The caper of all things women.

Marry outside your race but try to get brownie points putting up the shield of valor for women you didn't find good enough to be your wife brehs

U back on your fukk women BS I see... did u get dumped again

*EDIT* Let me pre empt you.... mangina harlot feminist etc etc

Its not about caping for women.... I have nothing but disgust for women who choose to date losers. Like I said though, why do dudes like you spend so much time agonizing over women who "allegedly" arent worth your time in the first place

 

[FukyourFort]

theres a lot of generalising statements in these types of threads and that's why it never gets anywhere. coming in here pointing out people being bitter is bullshyt too. seems like you just trying to justify bullshyt behaviour. just because you accept bullshyt don't mean other people have to.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Real talk, dudes need to stop being so worried about "nice dude" sh#t and just be real dudes. I've noticed that dudes who are so "I'm not a nice guy to these chicks" are fugasi and trying to be an image that they think will get them attention from women and respect from dudes.

Let's be real here, most bad boys are in jail. Most bad boys are not IT professionals. Most bad boys don't graduate from college. Most bad boys don't grow up in Cosby households. And most bad boys don't post on internet forums.

Just be a real dude who is real about what he wants and that will cut out most of BS that dudes face out here. No need to pump your chest up. No need to mean mug. No need to have unnecessary first date rules. No need to argue. No need to brag.

If you don't like something she did/said, tell her in no uncertain terms that it won't fly with you. If you want her to do something, say it in plain words like you mean it. If you're not feeling her voice tone, check that on the spot with no uncertainty or fear of loss.

Dudes think its about being nice that causes problems when in reality its about NOT being real with their intentions and what they want.

Peace

Exactly.... be who you are... if a chick feels you cool, if not keep it pushing. Who cares if a broad is fukking someone else?

 

[360crazy]

I don't like that so many of my fellow males are a$$holes and use women for sex. Good guys are forced to fall out of the dating game because they do not want to be involved with a women with a long history. Many women of this generation was taught it is OKAY to have a long histroy. It's just not appealing to the "good guys". They are "good guys" because they don't indulge in that behavior. It is what it is. After a while all that is left in the dating scene are used up men and women.

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

fukk that mess, i wouldnt be chasing after her ass anyways, reformed hoe's aint nothing to be simping over...she fukked up and wants someone to feel sorry for her to make her feel special cause the guys didnt before cause she was thinking it would happen and it wouldnt. stupid ho...

plus if i was going to "settle" down wouldnt be with reformed hoes anyways

 

[Entropy Fan]

i didn't read that shyt, but funny thing is i was at work today listening to these 3 women 2 black and 1 white around 45 years-old complaining about there past relationships and dudes they never gave a chance.

The white lady said she past up some dude because he always wanted to treat her right and do things for her. but she said she past that dude over for some hell angels biker and she ended up have the hell angels dude kid, however the dude got strung out on crack and now is a addict, however the other dude she past up is a chemical engineer living in a nice ass home in wine country and married some asian chick he met in hawaii

the black chicks around 35 both have like 2 and 3 kids by nikkas who are either in jail or living on the streets, but now they are talking about they looking for a wall street brother with family values ... broads got mad at me when i said " sorry u have no chance. what wall street dude going to say " i need a woman with 2 or 3 kids by drug dealers and crackheads" bytches cuss me out and went on doing there work

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

this sounds like it was written by a dude

Yep.

 

[Entropy Fan]

The narcissism is the worst part. They plan it out early on, get ran thru, party, age like shyt then look for marriage. She willingly planned on leaving her husband with a broke down jalopy version of herself yet still expected to be loved and cherished. Such entitledness such narcissism

 

[b. woods]

I'm gonna put it like this. My and my friend go out and get wasted I got $1000 in my pocket and my friend knows it. They hold their liquor better than me and I black out. My friend takes the $1000 out of my pocket and keeps it because I'm so wasted they know they can do it and get away with it. I'll never know what happened anyway. The next day I ask them about it and they play dumb like they didn't know I had it and didn't take it. 6 months later I find out they took it from what they said to another friend and confront them and they say "I didn't make you get drunk and pass out you did that to yourself. If you didn't do that you'd still have that money."

That's friend's morality is how many women behave. That's their level of morality. I can do this and get away with it so I'll do it. It's not my fault I did it it's the victim's fault for putting me in the position to get away with it.

Most people don't have integrity. If I went around complaining about the men that didn't have morals I would never shut up, shyt most of the dudes in this thread that are complaining about women without morals, don't have morals.

One of the most unfortunate aspects of human nature. BOTH men and women have the ability to exploit whatever they can get away with and can only be stopped by the person being taken advantage of.

 

[pimpineasy]

i must say there are a bunch of burnt bitter dude on here man.................the females did yall something nasty growing up

 

[Broad Street Bully]

fukk her

swear to god this was my reaction along with making the face after reading the first paragraph

 

[Kidd Dibiase]

its just a matter of insanity

"good guy" i know this woman has shown she has no interest in me but this is who i want so imma keep shooting myself in the foot and hope she notices.

"woman in question" he's a bad boy but i'm sure i can change him.....5th times the charm....right?? Right?